iphone_user1 Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 Why in hell would an ex-fwb keep contacting me after she got an official boyfriend like a month ago. She talks to me once in a while, I never start the convo and not gonna have sex with her because I respect that she is in a relationship, so when she talks to me I am very distant and give short replies since I don't wanna mess with her relationship. I know we had a great time and everything, but it's over now, at least until she breaks up. What the hell does she want if it was just all about the benefits? A threesome maybe? LOL Safety net? Plan B?
Glass Hut Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 She's probably just an attention whore. He obviously doesn't fill all of her emotional needs so she wants attention from you too. She probably is a would-be cheater also. 3
katiegrl Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 She's probably just an attention whore. He obviously doesn't fill all of her emotional needs so she wants attention from you too. She probably is a would-be cheater also. Not sure about the cheating part ...I dunno maybe. But for sure she's just seeking attention. 1
SolG Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 Why in hell would an ex-fwb keep contacting me after she got an official boyfriend like a month ago. She talks to me once in a while, I never start the convo and not gonna have sex with her because I respect that she is in a relationship, so when she talks to me I am very distant and give short replies since I don't wanna mess with her relationship. I know we had a great time and everything, but it's over now, at least until she breaks up. What the hell does she want if it was just all about the benefits? A threesome maybe? LOL Safety net? Plan B? It depends... What was your arrangement like and what was more important to her... The friendship or the benefits? If it was the former--which is often the case if you were good friends first--then she might be contacting you as a friend only. Why don't you ask her what her motivation is? 1
Author iphone_user1 Posted January 24, 2016 Author Posted January 24, 2016 It depends... What was your arrangement like and what was more important to her... The friendship or the benefits? If it was the former--which is often the case if you were good friends first--then she might be contacting you as a friend only. Why don't you ask her what her motivation is? The arrangement was nothing serious since the very first time we met and had sex the very first night. We were not friends before, we got into the FWB thing since we met for the first time. And I don't ask her because she'll probably avoid the questioning, I know her. Besides, it was nothing serious, it's not like she must give an explanation of what she's doing.
Emilia Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 I had this crap last week. I kept telling him his gf wouldn't be happy reading his texts. He wasn't flirting but was clear he was trying to supplement his relationship with the sort of conversation he can't get from his gf. Took me 4 days to make him go away and it got heated at the end because he kept bringing the past up. I told him I was predicting a break up. That shut him up. Attention seeking for sure. 2
moebius Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 Well, does she know for sure you won't have sex with her? Maybe she wants to keep the benefits. 1
Author iphone_user1 Posted January 25, 2016 Author Posted January 25, 2016 I had this crap last week. I kept telling him his gf wouldn't be happy reading his texts. He wasn't flirting but was clear he was trying to supplement his relationship with the sort of conversation he can't get from his gf. Took me 4 days to make him go away and it got heated at the end because he kept bringing the past up. I told him I was predicting a break up. That shut him up. Attention seeking for sure. Interesting, let's see how it turns out. So no contact so far?
Kuchi2 Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 I'm on a different level with my ex-fwb. We started off as more like **** buddies than fwb, and at that time, I wanted more of friendship with benefits. Long story short, after we stopped doing the nasty (before I had a BF), we stayed friends. Now, we might just say hi to each other every once in a while to catch up and just be friendly, nothing else and nothing more.
Emilia Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 Interesting, let's see how it turns out. So no contact so far? No. I've no idea if I'll hear from him again. It was all weird
Glass Hut Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 Honestly if you've already had sex with the person and they are currently in a relationship why would you even bother with the person? My only problem with attention whores is when I want them. It wouldn't be the case if I've already had them.
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