Mjm1014 Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 So I'm an outgoing guy, 28, not shy, and would say I'm average when it comes to looks, although only 5'6...as for my looks, like I said I'm average, clean shaven, short hair, and fairly muscular yet NOT overweight. I try to always look nice, and keep up on hygiene. I try to keep a smile on my face when possible too. Anyways anytime I'm out in public (bars, airports, malls, you name it), I never seem to get any IOI's from females. It feels like I'm completely invisible and they don't even notice me. I'm not saying I think women should approach me, but they don't even make eye contact, smile, or act remotely interested if I engage them causally. I've definitely had no issue in the past getting girlfriends but over the years I've always met them online. In high school and college, they just didn't give me the time of day. I can only think of one time in my life a women has visibly showed any interested!! I would approach more and engage in conversation if I knew they were even slightly interested. Basically my question is, guys, how common is this? Women, does this mean I'm ugly or because I'm short?
carhill Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 If I had waited for women to IOI me, I'd have died celibate. IMO, don't worry about why. Just do. If you're interested, express it. They won't kill you, mostly. 2
AverageJoe1986 Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 So I'm an outgoing guy, 28, not shy, and would say I'm average when it comes to looks, although only 5'6...as for my looks, like I said I'm average, clean shaven, short hair, and fairly muscular yet NOT overweight. I try to always look nice, and keep up on hygiene. I try to keep a smile on my face when possible too. Anyways anytime I'm out in public (bars, airports, malls, you name it), I never seem to get any IOI's from females. It feels like I'm completely invisible and they don't even notice me. I'm not saying I think women should approach me, but they don't even make eye contact, smile, or act remotely interested if I engage them causally. I've definitely had no issue in the past getting girlfriends but over the years I've always met them online. In high school and college, they just didn't give me the time of day. I can only think of one time in my life a women has visibly showed any interested!! I would approach more and engage in conversation if I knew they were even slightly interested. Basically my question is, guys, how common is this? Women, does this mean I'm ugly or because I'm short? If you're average looking then a woman is not going to notice you out and about when they first see you. Being hygeinic and clean and smiling is simply a minumum requirement for acceptable human behaviour so that plus your looks are only getting you on an even keel. If you want women you don't know to notice you, you need to STAND OUT. Be gregarious, laugh out (a little too) loud maybe. You may alienate 4 in 5 women but you're more likely to hook 1 in 5. When you're just being yourself you will just be meh to 5 in 5 women. The good looking and very good looking can attract with just themselves, you have to equalise but you can't heighten your behaviour without splitting the crowd. A friend of mine at university was really not at all good looking. He could be a completely obnoxious twonk and was far, far too loud and in your face. 4 out of 5 women couldn't stand him but he didn't need them to because 1 in 5 followed him around like groupies. Now you don't need to go that far but the principle remains. If you want to attract relative strangers then you need to give them a reason to be attracted to you.
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