blackchild Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 i don't know how to put this so i'm just going to write. ok i've been talking to this guy for four months now and i really like him. So far this guy has ben like a light switch the whole time. one moment he's calling and texting me every chance he gets and the next i won't hear from him for weeks! when we go out it's either watching movies at my place or catching a late night movie at the movie theater. i thought we only did this because he worked two jobs and that time was limited but the guy i dated before him had two jobs and we still found time to spend time with each other (during the day) anyways he tells me over and over that he wished that we could be together but it's just that he couldn't give me all the attention that i deserve from him. my brother told me that his intution was telling him that he had a girlfriend and that he was cheating on her with me! It sucks becaues my brother felt that my ex was cheating on me and he was, so my brother is pretty accurate with his instincts. anyways for my birthday he was suppose to pick me up and take me out for dinner and give me a night full of passion. well he was two hours late so we had to skip the dinner and go straight for the passion. anyways afterwards he called me saying that he regret sleeping with me because he felt that he took my innocence (i'm of age and i wasn't a virgin before that night) so i'm thinking that he's feeding me a spoon of fresh bull****! anyways a tiny piece of my heart is telling me that he only feels bad because he slept with me and that he knows that he has messed up his relationship with his girl. the point is i don't know for sure if he really does have a girl because this thought a gut instinct like my brother's. tell me what you think
Merin Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 I think he's an assclown for not taking you to dinner for your birthday So ask yourself some other questions here... 1) Do you know where he lives? 2) Ever been to his house? 3) Have you met any of his friends? 4) Do you have his HOME phone number? 5) Is it okay for you to call him at work? IF the answer is NO to these.. I would say this guy isn't just an assclown for not taking you to dinner, but he's also a liar and hiding someone from you... Good Luck girl
d'Arthez Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 There might be another woman on the scene. Irregardless, the man does not seem like much good. There is only one thing in which he is correct, and that is that you deserve more attention than he gives to you. If a man says that, you should know enough.
Author blackchild Posted June 7, 2005 Author Posted June 7, 2005 Merin you do have a point. i only have his cell phone #, he told me where he lives but i only thought that he kept it from me because he lives in a mobile home and i live in the suburbs, and that he may have been ashamed. now that i think about it the day before my birthday he told me that he was leaving his cell phone with his sister ( that lived in a different city) and to not call it or leave text messages How could i be so stupid! what idiot doesn't have a cell phone in this generation?! i was always cool with just having his cell phone number because he only had my cell phone number and the fact that he's never home. i think that it's interesting that he has only met my brother and i have never met any of his family and we did the nasty! LOL! whatever i'm over this kid. the sad thing is that i believe i know who he is cheating on! this girl who he told me about that i knew in high school (but who goes to college with me. he made her seem like a complete psycho! that's why whenever i see her and we're walking the same direction i never talk about him because i didn't want to make an enemy! anyways whenever i see her she looks depressed and her head is always hanging low. the next time i see her should i bring him up and ask if they are still together because the reason he gave me for them breaking up is complete bull****! why would he cheat when he could just break up with her from the jump? i was doing fine before he approached me, and if i get caught me with some drama with his girlfriend there is going to be hell to pay!
smile95 Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 the home # and work # are big ones. If I do not get those, a red flag goes off! Can you google him? Could he be married? Where did you meet? i am not saying to casue drama, but I would ask the other girl? She will want to know why her man is acting weird as muchas you do! Sorry he is hiding something. I know it sux to trust someone and get let down.
Author blackchild Posted June 8, 2005 Author Posted June 8, 2005 should i confront this dog in heat or should i just leave it alone? after all i still don't have any proof, but all the signs are there. oh yeah and for the people who have read all of the posts i ever posted about man problems in the dating forum. it was about this guy. i know i should've let him go a long time ago but i got caught up. and when you're that far gone you tend for forget all the bad things about that person when they make you feel that certain way that you can't describe. but i think that this is the breaking point i don't want to find myself in a horrible situation. i think i'm just going to confront him now. i'll keep you guys posted.
Author blackchild Posted June 9, 2005 Author Posted June 9, 2005 you guys i tried calling him in between work shifts and he would not answer my call so i left a message telling him that i needed to ask him a question. half an hour later i get a text message from him asking what it is i wanted to know. i responded by saying that i would rather discuss it when he had some free time to spare. he still insisted that i tell him what is was that wanted to know. so finally i responded by saying this " People always under estimate the power of a strong black woman but what's worst is they under estimate the powerful 6 sense that God has blessed her with 2 protect the only true thing she has...... Her heart. I feel sorry for your girl" since then i have yet to heard from him. it's great because i realized that i was the other woman and the fact that he knew that i knew about her. all from that one message. when in fact i wasn't exactly sure that he was creeping it's like his absent response has said everything for me! i hope that i got him scared the little bitch!
newbby Posted June 9, 2005 Posted June 9, 2005 nice one black child! you are right, you are a strong black woman.
Author blackchild Posted June 9, 2005 Author Posted June 9, 2005 thanks newbby! i see you give props when it's needed! i hope i got him thinking! he might go accidentally tell on himself with his girlfriend. i figured after sending that message if was innocent he would've asked what in the hell i was talking about! whew! glad that situation is over! Oh yeah for all the people out there on the net BRIAN KENNETH BRDFORD WOULD LIVES IN MONTGOMERY, AL. HAS A SMALL PENIS AND HE'S A DOG! LADIES RUN WHEN YOU SEE HIM! LET ME RE-PHRASE THIS BRIAN BRADFORD IS A PIG! DOGS ARE LOYAL AND KIND HEARTED AND THEY DON'T DESERVE TO COMPARED TO A MAN LIKE THIS ONE!
newbby Posted June 9, 2005 Posted June 9, 2005 dont know about giving props when its needed, i say what i think at the time
Author blackchild Posted June 12, 2005 Author Posted June 12, 2005 oh yeah can you believe that yesterday he actually tried to call me to ask if i wanted to have sex with him before i leave for a trip!?! and right after that i backed out and said never mind! didn't i just confront him?!
d'Arthez Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Perhaps he suffers from a memory deficit disorder, which makes him forget anything that did not happen in the past 25 minutes. Especially if it is not about himself, but about other people.
Author blackchild Posted June 12, 2005 Author Posted June 12, 2005 don't give him too much credit. he knew what he was doing. the way i confronted him was slick and i said it in so many words. didn't read my earlier posts in this thread? anyways thanks for da advice homie!
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