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I know a lot of average guys that get lots of girls


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They are engaged in life. Most have hobbies or strong interests, they've "defined" themselves archetypically in a way, and they are consistent in channeling that archetype - it's genuine and coming out of them. Perhaps it's computer nerd. Perhaps it's gigantic Dr. Who fan or something.

 

I think this is the most important thing and I'm trying to figure it out. I have no clear image I express to the area outside me. Even my interests, I have a surface level understanding at best, and they have rarely given me joy. In a way, I am outside my life looking in - and not inside looking (and acting) out. I feel like if you can master that, you will have no problems getting girls at your level. Your involvement in your own life will make you appear confident, consistent, and trustworthy. You will be focused and carry through on endeavors. And it will also mean that you take care of yourself emotionally/etc and will be able to offer support.

 

Does all of this sound like nonsense? Trying to figure my life out.

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I do too.

 

My ex is average. His new gf is a stunner 10 years younger than him.

 

He was into travelling the world and had a fun and likable personality. Him and I were forever laughing.

 

I am average but I became hot because I learnt to have fun and enjoy a feminine style and invest in my appearance.

 

It also helps to embrace being yourself. I am quirky and not everyones cup o tea. I embraced it. Hot men would fall for me because I was myself and embraced being different.

 

Just a few examples of us average folks who became hot through an attitude ands style adjustment.

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They are engaged in life. Most have hobbies or strong interests, they've "defined" themselves archetypically in a way, and they are consistent in channeling that archetype - it's genuine and coming out of them. Perhaps it's computer nerd. Perhaps it's gigantic Dr. Who fan or something.

 

I think this is the most important thing and I'm trying to figure it out. I have no clear image I express to the area outside me. Even my interests, I have a surface level understanding at best, and they have rarely given me joy. In a way, I am outside my life looking in - and not inside looking (and acting) out. I feel like if you can master that, you will have no problems getting girls at your level. Your involvement in your own life will make you appear confident, consistent, and trustworthy. You will be focused and carry through on endeavors. And it will also mean that you take care of yourself emotionally/etc and will be able to offer support.

 

Does all of this sound like nonsense? Trying to figure my life out.

 

It sounds like you're saying you don't really know who you are.

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It's not nonsense at all. Having a fulfilling life is one of the best ways to be attractive. You also don't have to be an expert at hobbies - we all start at the beginning

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Just work out and invest in botox cream...

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They are engaged in life. Most have hobbies or strong interests, they've "defined" themselves archetypically in a way, and they are consistent in channeling that archetype - it's genuine and coming out of them. Perhaps it's computer nerd. Perhaps it's gigantic Dr. Who fan or something.

 

I think this is the most important thing and I'm trying to figure it out. I have no clear image I express to the area outside me. Even my interests, I have a surface level understanding at best, and they have rarely given me joy. In a way, I am outside my life looking in - and not inside looking (and acting) out. I feel like if you can master that, you will have no problems getting girls at your level. Your involvement in your own life will make you appear confident, consistent, and trustworthy. You will be focused and carry through on endeavors. And it will also mean that you take care of yourself emotionally/etc and will be able to offer support.

 

Does all of this sound like nonsense? Trying to figure my life out.

 

Sunyata, I don't know exactly what you're getting at, but like the great MC Chris said,

You don't need to "get girls." You just need to get "one girl."

 

Listen, don't you read from time to time that some drug-dealing murderer was caught after he holed up with... who? That's right. His girlfriend. The cops found him because they knew to check where his girlfriend lived. So if a drug-dealing murderer can find a girlfriend, there's no reason why we shouldn't be able to, right?

 

It's not a matter of hobbies, though hobbies can certainly help you become more confident and appear more consistent and trustworthy. Then again, you think those drug-dealing murderers did that? Naw... they just relied on women being just as addicted to sex as men are.

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Interesting observations, Sunyata. It's true. People aren't very likely to like you if you don't like yourself and enjoy life.

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Not sure what's the definition of 'getting a lot of girls' but the more active and social you are the more attractive you will be to the other gender, regardless of the average look. Due to the rejection online I'm clearly not the stud I thought I was or once was anyway but I'm average to slightly above average. Women have called me cute to handsome, depend who and others have rejected me the harsh way so... (leaving personality aside of course)

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They are engaged in life. Most have hobbies or strong interests, they've "defined" themselves archetypically in a way, and they are consistent in channeling that archetype - it's genuine and coming out of them. Perhaps it's computer nerd. Perhaps it's gigantic Dr. Who fan or something.

 

I think this is the most important thing and I'm trying to figure it out. I have no clear image I express to the area outside me. Even my interests, I have a surface level understanding at best, and they have rarely given me joy. In a way, I am outside my life looking in - and not inside looking (and acting) out. I feel like if you can master that, you will have no problems getting girls at your level. Your involvement in your own life will make you appear confident, consistent, and trustworthy. You will be focused and carry through on endeavors. And it will also mean that you take care of yourself emotionally/etc and will be able to offer support.

 

Does all of this sound like nonsense? Trying to figure my life out.

 

Oh, you are VERY right!

 

This lesson just came in strong for me again, when my dad died last week. He was almost 90. He was fascinated by things, loved things he did, was engaged and present in daily life. He lived, really lived. It wasn't that he could offer support so much as that being around him was invigorating. Because he was so curious, engaged and positive, you naturally felt engaged and up yourself, just like a tuning fork will pick up the vibration of the tuning fork next to it.

 

My dad smoked like a chimney for decades, drank scotch and martinis, ate steak, bacon and potatoes- all of that "bad" stuff. But I am convinced that his life force, his simple joy in living and doing was why he lived so well for so long.

 

I think you've got it, the key to living well!

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Preaching to the choir. I've tried everything and still I get nothing.

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You need to get out of your head OP. Reflection is very good and valuable but you are over doing it. Take up some sports, start weight training to get stronger and ideally a team sport.

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