Online Dating for hot guys

[insert_name]

Well I am being rather tame now and just measuring out rough numbers and looking for vague patterns. There was quite a funny one which I posted a but about yesterday on another thread. I told this woman that I was writing the authorised biography of this dreadful by once popular British comedy duo called Little and Large. I said I was a huge fan and this would be my life's work. So she watched the entire hour long Xmas special they made in 1980,on YouTube, and pretended to love it. And I know she was pretending because it is genuinely one of the most rancidly unfunny hours of television ever broadcast.

 

That is brilliant. It just goes to show how gullible people are and how low they set their boundaries when they think they have a shot at a hot date. In some ways I can't blame you for messing with them OP, people are always saying on here that we teach other people how to treat us. If they are going to prostrate themselves at the altar of beauty then they have to take the rough with the smooth.

[elaine567]

That is brilliant. It just goes to show how gullible people are and how low they set their boundaries when they think they have a shot at a hot date. In some ways I can't blame you for messing with them OP, people are always saying on here that we teach other people how to treat us. If they are going to prostrate themselves at the altar of beauty then they have to take the rough with the smooth.

 

Pardon???

Trying to fool people who are mostly only looking to find the love of their life, is cruel in the extreme.

OK we get the "sore loser" attitude but if AJ gets his kicks by being nasty to others, and by his postings here appears to be bitter and jaded - it is no wonder he remains single.

[lino]

I've said it before but anyone who believes that women care less about looks than men is a damn fool. To put it nicely.

 

Only difference is that money can make up for lesser looks in men as women are turned on by cash as well. Men aren't turned on by money in the slightest.

[jay1983]

Pardon???

Trying to fool people who are mostly only looking to find the love of their life, is cruel in the extreme.

OK we get the "sore loser" attitude but if AJ gets his kicks by being nasty to others, and by his postings here appears to be bitter and jaded - it is no wonder he remains single.

 

Elaine, I missed you!

[AverageJoe1986]

Pardon???

Trying to fool people who are mostly only looking to find the love of their life, is cruel in the extreme.

OK we get the "sore loser" attitude but if AJ gets his kicks by being nasty to others, and by his postings here appears to be bitter and jaded - it is no wonder he remains single.

 

In all fairness getting someone to watch a 36 year old tv show on YouTube for an hour is incredibly tame. Particularly as it was such a naff tv show, and the idea that this literate character she's talking to is writing a book on these guys is genuinely ludicrous. I gave this intelligent woman plenty of clues.

 

If I really wanted to be cruel I could send these women out on dates only to not turn up. I am so popular I could book a table for eight at a restaurant and get eight women off the site to all meet one night. But I'm really not interested in that.

[insert_name]

Pardon???

Trying to fool people who are mostly only looking to find the love of their life, is cruel in the extreme.

OK we get the "sore loser" attitude but if AJ gets his kicks by being nasty to others, and by his postings here appears to be bitter and jaded - it is no wonder he remains single.

 

Hardly, they think they caught a hot one and will make fools of themselves in order to do seal the deal. Where is their self respect? They persist with a guy who (according to OPs experiment) says little or is rude to them or gets them to watch soul destroying documentaries and they lap it up when there are genuine people out there they could be dating instead, like when OP messaged the same woman from his real account but she would rather get one word responses from some other dude because 'OMG he is soooo haaaawt!!1".

 

No sympathy from me.

[carhill]

OK, you apparently got what you feel is some good information. Now, what to do with it?

 

Considering, as an average guy, I had great success with OLD in the past, your anecdotes here kinda caused me to both question my own experiences and cast doubt on my confidence in the current state of the medium, since it's been nearly six years since I last used it.

 

IMO, if you feel this experiment has eroded confidence in OLD to the point of 'why bother?', then write it off, disconnect, and move on. Don't revisit it, rather find other avenues to meet women. Be decisive. Good luck!

[AverageJoe1986]

Hardly, they think they caught a hot one and will make fools of themselves in order to do seal the deal. Where is their self respect? They persist with a guy who (according to OPs experiment) says little or is rude to them or gets them to watch soul destroying documentaries and they lap it up when there are genuine people out there they could be dating instead, like when OP messaged the same woman from his real account but she would rather get one word responses from some other dude because 'OMG he is soooo haaaawt!!1".

 

No sympathy from me.

 

Were I stringing these women on and making big emotional gestures then it would be cruel. But I generally just get a hello from a woman, look at her profile to see what things would be her deal breakers and then see how farar she'll transgress them in order just to bag a hot guy. If she has a boring profile with nothing to play with I'll just ignore her message. If she doesn't seem intelligent enough that she really should know better I'll also not trouble them.

 

I'm just interested to see the distance between what people say and how they act. I would never have believed the level and number of flaws that some women are willing to overlook essentially for the hope of dating a man whose sole positive attribute is that he is good looking.

[carhill]

Well, if you're 30 and got this message about good-looking people getting advantages in life firmly processed now, good on ya. Take that information and move forward.

[AverageJoe1986]

OK, you apparently got what you feel is some good information. Now, what to do with it?

 

Considering, as an average guy, I had great success with OLD in the past, your anecdotes here kinda caused me to both question my own experiences and cast doubt on my confidence in the current state of the medium, since it's been nearly six years since I last used it.

 

IMO, if you feel this experiment has eroded confidence in OLD to the point of 'why bother?', then write it off, disconnect, and move on. Don't revisit it, rather find other avenues to meet women. Be decisive. Good luck!

 

Well it's a bit of a compulsive thing now. As I have no time to go out and meet people IRL it's just a placeholder. I've also started to write a book (that I'm sure will never get published or finished) and so some of the more absurd things I'm trying to get away with are good practice for that.

[elaine567]

Never a good idea to mess with people's emotions. You have no idea what the mental state of any of these women are and you are leading them on to think they have a chance with Mr Good Looking here.

God knows how they will react when it is all revealed as a sham or Mr Good Looking disappears.

You may think it is all good fun and they "deserve" it, but how would you feel if you found the "woman of your dreams" AND she was interested in you, and it all turned out to be just some women "having a laugh" at your expense...

[insert_name]

Never a good idea to mess with people's emotions. You have no idea what the mental state of any of these women are and you are leading them on to think they have a chance with Mr Good Looking here.

God knows how they will react when it is all revealed as a sham or Mr Good Looking disappears.

You may think it is all good fun and they "deserve" it, but how would you feel if you found the "woman of your dreams" AND she was interested in you, and it all turned out to be just some women "having a laugh" at your expense...

 

Maybe pulling the curtain back to reveal the guy pulling levers will be a wake up call to some of these women to re-evaluate what they are looking for?

 

I would like to think that no matter how hot the woman if she gives me attitude or one word answers I will move on, the juice ain't worth the squeeze. Others seem to be easy easy marks for a pretty face. Oh well, too bad so sad.

[AverageJoe1986]

Never a good idea to mess with people's emotions. You have no idea what the mental state of any of these women are and you are leading them on to think they have a chance with Mr Good Looking here.

God knows how they will react when it is all revealed as a sham or Mr Good Looking disappears.

You may think it is all good fun and they "deserve" it, but how would you feel if you found the "woman of your dreams" AND she was interested in you, and it all turned out to be just some women "having a laugh" at your expense...

 

But I'm not leading them on. Half the time I am doing everything I can to put them off. The other half I'm just saying the most absurd things imaginable.

 

I'm not dragging any interaction out to last more than a couple of hours. And compared to the emotional damage that comes from being totally ignored on a OLD site for half a year I'd say it's pretty minor.

[bluefeather]

This is sick. But thanks, AverageJoe1986, for further showing me how much of a cesspool OLD is. It's so strange how ok you think what you're doing is, and that despite their issues, no matter how indirectly, you are hurting other people who are looking for a positive emotional connection, just as you are (or were, since I doubt that is the case now, as you are mocking them and gloating about ways you could manipulate them) - ironic. But you obviously get off on it and intend to continue, so have fun in the fake world of the internet. I'm out.

[header]

So then get OFF OLD!! I don't understand why continue doing something you clearly don't enjoy. It's only making you more jaded for heaven's sake.

 

Because it's a means to an end. You might as well make the same suggestion to a guy who hates his job. Why work if you don't like it?

 

Because.. we need to earn money to survive.

[AMJ]

If you can't get responses from obese women you might as well throw in the towel.

 

So...obese women are not allowed to have their own standards for whom they want to date? They're supposed to just be happy and willing to date anyone? Because no one wants to date them?

[header]

So...obese women are not allowed to have their own standards for whom they want to date? They're supposed to just be happy and willing to date anyone? Because no one wants to date them?

 

They can have their own standards but if they expect to get dates then they've got to be realistic about what sort of guys they can and cannot attract.

 

If they don't want to be alone forever then they need to be willing to date almost anyone.

[elaine567]

Maybe pulling the curtain back to reveal the guy pulling levers will be a wake up call to some of these women to re-evaluate what they are looking for?

 

I would like to think that no matter how hot the woman if she gives me attitude or one word answers I will move on, the juice ain't worth the squeeze. Others seem to be easy easy marks for a pretty face. Oh well, too bad so sad.

 

People like what they like, who on earth do you think you are to give a "wake up call" to women?????

So they should lower their sights should they? As some average/poor looking guys are NOT getting the womanly attention they deserve.... are you for real here?

Everyone has only one life, so why would anyone want to pitch for second best?

This fake pic was of a guy who is supposedly an 8, so hardly out of anyone's league surely?

[TheArtist]

They can have their own standards but if they expect to get dates then they've got to be realistic about what sort of guys they can and cannot attract.

 

If they don't want to be alone forever then they need to be willing to date almost anyone.

 

That's fine, but self confidence does not necessarily equal looks. There are plenty of larger ladies who love their body and their confidence and personality gets them through. Maybe they saw through the fake profile and didn't think it worth a response.

[SwordofFlame]

So...obese women are not allowed to have their own standards for whom they want to date? They're supposed to just be happy and willing to date anyone? Because no one wants to date them?

 

I suspect that some people online are actually realistic. If a guy or gal looks too good to be true to be interested, it's probably cause they're not interested in anything serious. I wished the women who try to date way up would realize that.

[AMJ]

They can have their own standards but if they expect to get dates then they've got to be realistic about what sort of guys they can and cannot attract.

 

If they don't want to be alone forever then they need to be willing to date almost anyone.

 

I'm not obese, I'm in pretty great shape and really healthy. I'd say to an extent, all of us need to be willing to date almost anyone. Your potential to find a relationship depends on how old you are and where you live- in other words, how many single people are available to you. All people need to consider tradeoffs and open our standards to find a relationship.

[AverageJoe1986]

A short, fat bald guy comes on this forum and says: 'I'm so upset. I met this great girl on OKCupid. I mean yes she looked like a supermodel so I messaged her. She kept just going on about random stuff and seemed to hate everything I like and value. But you know I really fell in love with her. She disappeared after half an hour of what was, essentially, gibberish and now I'm left heartbroken'.

 

Everyone on this forum would tell him he was being an idiot. To pull himself together and how could he possibly fall in love with a set of photos.

 

Double standard.

[jen1447]

My god ....some serious cognitive dissonance and moral equivocation at the heart of this thread.

[AverageJoe1986]

My god ....some serious cognitive dissonance and moral equivocation at the heart of this thread.

 

Care to elaborate?

[Natalie8]

Noone is saying that you are causing forever lasting emotional damage but what you are doing is still mean and childish. And the longer you do it the more jaded you will became because you will come to believe that all women are like that. But the girls who respond to your hot fake guy profile and put up with rude or boring messages dont represent ALL women. Plenty of us check out the hot guy profile but get turned off by a rubbish profile. We are not all desperate to bag a hot guy.

Just out of curiosity..did you put on your pof profile that you have a child?

There are loads of avarage to below average guys who had great luck with OLD. I met all of my exes on old and not one of them was conventionaly hot.