Author mortensorchid Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 Get yourself a nice rescue dog. When you head for the dog park or the beach to walk you doggie, you will meet someone nice. I would but I'm allergic to dogs. And cats. I can only have fish and birds for pets. Otherwise I would, but that's immediately out.
Gaeta Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I have also dated a bunch of frogs and was pretty discouraged till I met my boyfriend who gave me back faith in men. I use to multi-date and have a lover on the side, when I met my bf I had none of those and I think that's why I noticed him. Had I had a couple of fishes on my line I would have overlooked him, just like I probably overlooked many good guys in my dating history, just cause i had too much on my plate dating wise. Think about it this way: If you feed a lioness before she goes off hunting will she come back with a big catch? No, she won't because her basic instinct was satisfied before she sets off. I suggest you dump all of your ONS, FWB, occasional lovers, and try finding a man without that baggage. Be an hungry lioness and go get your biggest catch of all. 5
Zippy2000 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 How and when is it you realise they are frogs? Timescale wise is it alike 6 months a year?
Mccoy321 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Every half-way attractive woman I have ever known, who has her head screwed on, has never had a problem with players or commitment-phobes. If you cannot find a man who isn't like this, the problem is you. Some women just love drama. 1
Larryville Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Lots of guys suck, but not all of them.... If you find that every flaw that a guy could have is a potential deal breaker, you’ve pretty much ensured that no man could qualify to be your partner. What makes a dude a frog? Some women (not talking about OP) are just seriously arrogant. I think everyone who meets someone should look in the mirror and ask themselves "what makes you so freaking hot?" "what do you bring to the table, in a relationship?" How do you rate... your looks, your personality, your education, your intelligence, your background, your finances, your future potential, do you drive a cool car, is your living space clean, do you have a sense of style, do you brush your teeth, do you drink a lot, always doing drugs, are you lazy, are you always staring at your smart phone, are you a social media junkie, are you selfish, clueless, mean, rude, are you engaging, a good communicator, funny or are you intellectually vacant closed off... Women on OLD sites will have crap like "I want my man to have a good body.." when they themselves are overweight, unhealthy whatever... but it always gets back to what do you bring to the table? Back to my question, what makes a dude a frog? 1
SammySammy Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Kissing frogs only works if you're a fairy tale Princess. Real women need better strategies. Probably want to minimize the time spent with frogs. Maximize the time spent with men who are already Princes.
truth_seeker Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I have also dated a bunch of frogs and was pretty discouraged till I met my boyfriend who gave me back faith in men. I use to multi-date and have a lover on the side, when I met my bf I had none of those and I think that's why I noticed him. Had I had a couple of fishes on my line I would have overlooked him, just like I probably overlooked many good guys in my dating history, just cause i had too much on my plate dating wise. Think about it this way: If you feed a lioness before she goes off hunting will she come back with a big catch? No, she won't because her basic instinct was satisfied before she sets off. I suggest you dump all of your ONS, FWB, occasional lovers, and try finding a man without that baggage. Be an hungry lioness and go get your biggest catch of all. You make some really good points, but I also question your "frog" remark. Were these guys in particular jerks? Inconsiderate? Insensitive? Were they just nice guys who simply didn't do it for you? I mean I was set up on a blind date with a woman and she didn't like me, I didn't like her... but she made it a point to really hammer me. At first I was angry but then thought about it, as the woman was broke, somewhat a mess from how she described her family, education and non-existent career, and it made me realize she was very insecure and delusional. You are right about having people in your dating stable. If I'm rotating between 2-3 women, I'm less likely to get off my a-- and trying to meet someone I really like... I get complacent and stay complacent. If you don't have any prospects, you're forced to move and go find someone, which could end up being the person you've always wanted to be with... yea, makes sense.
Jejangles Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I'm not the OP but to me a frog is a guy who comes across as interested and kind, but then ghosts or fades or doesn't follow through. It took me a while in dating to realise that some men like to fantasize out loud and talk about what "we" will do in the future. But they have no intention of making it happen! I am the type of person who guards their words and if I say we should do something, I actually mean it. So when I came across these we guys who talked about the future, I thought they meant it. Then I was often surprised when they faded or didn't actually make the plan happen. I would call those guys frogs - full of promises with no follow through.
truth_seeker Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Lots of guys suck, but not all of them.... If you find that every flaw that a guy could have is a potential deal breaker, you’ve pretty much ensured that no man could qualify to be your partner. What makes a dude a frog? Some women (not talking about OP) are just seriously arrogant. I think everyone who meets someone should look in the mirror and ask themselves "what makes you so freaking hot?" "what do you bring to the table, in a relationship?" How do you rate... your looks, your personality, your education, your intelligence, your background, your finances, your future potential, do you drive a cool car, is your living space clean, do you have a sense of style, do you brush your teeth, do you drink a lot, always doing drugs, are you lazy, are you always staring at your smart phone, are you a social media junkie, are you selfish, clueless, mean, rude, are you engaging, a good communicator, funny or are you intellectually vacant closed off... Women on OLD sites will have crap like "I want my man to have a good body.." when they themselves are overweight, unhealthy whatever... but it always gets back to what do you bring to the table? Back to my question, what makes a dude a frog? To answer your question, I think when she says a guy is a frog, it means that guy/frog did not meet her expectations. Again, that's my guess, but lets wait for her to respond. When I meet someone now, I try to get inside their head to find out if anything is in there. If nobody is home, I turn around and leave.
preraph Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Mortenschild, there was a time after a really bad episode in my life, bad breakup, that four guys I already knew all decided to be with me in varying roles. None of them were the right guy, but each had something to contribute. A couple would get me out of the house and buy me a good meal. One was someone I could talk to about my career, which was the most important thing to me. Between them, I had plenty of things to go do, like gigs, etc. It got me through a very dark time in my life, and I remained friends with them all for as long as life kept us in the same orbit. I wrote in my journal at the time that it took four different guys to fill the needs you normally hope one will fill. Sometimes it just is what it is. As Janis Joplin once sang, "Get it while you can."
Gaeta Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 You make some really good points, but I also question your "frog" remark. Were these guys in particular jerks? Inconsiderate? Insensitive? Were they just nice guys who simply didn't do it for you? What I would call a frog is a man making good appearance at first, telling me he is looking for a relationship, that he's serious, etc. He appears motivated, he's easy on giving compliments and calling. Usually by date 2/3 his words start not matching his actions anymore and you realized you are being taken for a ride.
Larryville Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 To answer your question, I think when she says a guy is a frog, it means that guy/frog did not meet her expectations. That is the problem, women assume that men don’t have standards either, many process life as if it is all about them. The very reason OLD is so screwed up, how many women “listers” those who have a strategic bullet point list of desired traits that dudes MUST have in order to be considered worthy of being considered. If things don’t work out between two people, it just does not work out. Dudes don’t have to be labeled “frogs.” If you want to attract quality you yourself must be quality. BTW what is the female equivalent? This process will get harder down the road. More young boys and girls growing up without good relationship role models. If you have never seen or experienced two people genuinely loving and caring for one another, sacrificing for one another, watching two adults talk to each other with respect. My point a man OR a woman can be a frog unless there is this word for women I’m missing. 2
OnlyHonesty Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Even when a woman says nothing about her history, she speaks volumes about her past.
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