Dani999 Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 I've posted on here in the dating section what I was going thru with my boyfriend. We figured out that issue, but now I just went through something else with him. I'm a mess and don't want to call my friends because I don't feel like talking to anyone in voice, but I'm turning to you all. This is what happened. I was just talking to him about a difficult thing I'm going through right now in my life. He said I was handling things the wrong way. I replied that I'm taking care of it, don't worry. His exact reply to me: well F$@# OFF THEN. And then he hung up on me. I called back because there is no way he is going to get off talking to me like that. He said, whatever I was just trying to help you. Telling me to !@#$ off because I'm trying to deal with my life situations in my own way. What a sweetheart huh? I started talking about us and how I'm not happy with our relationship. Well one of the things I said made him angry and he hung up on me again!! That was it for me. Finally got a hold of him again and I said exactly this to him, 'You hanging up on me while I'm trying to work out or figure out things with you just made up my mind. We can't be like this anymore. We can't be together anymore. I'm sorry things turned out this way.' And that was it. A few mins later, he texted back saying : "This isn't how things are supposed to be." We all know that I deserve so much better then him, but it has been 4 years together so this is so hard on me. I'm sure you guys understand how it is. Even when things are going that rough in the relationship, when you love somebody so strongly and for a few years it is so hard to just turn and walk. Should I just break contact from this moment on? What would you do?
Author Dani999 Posted June 7, 2005 Author Posted June 7, 2005 Right after I sent my post I got a text from him. It says, quote: I'll do anything to make you happy no matter how unhappy and hurt i am about this. good bye baby Here comes the tears... This isn't the first time we broke up. Before he backed off for about a week and then did everything in his power to win me back like calling and leaving messages, mailing me letters, sending me cards and flowers. Talking to my friends about how I'm doing. I know this is going to happen again especially after reading that message he just sent to me. I really don't know how to handle this and don't want to make another mistake. Edited to add: About what he said to me in my first post. The whole !@#$ off thing. He has a big fault where he doesn't think before he speaks so sometimes things come out of his mouth that are so wrong and he knows how wrong it was the second after he says it. But that's no excuse for his behavior to the one he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
immizunderstood Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 You need to decide if this is something you could continue for your time period together. I mean, how did you feel when you said it was over? Did you feel like " thank God its over, it hurts but I'll just rather move on" or were you like " i can't believe I just did that" If your answer was yer to Number 1 then you know what you need to do. If it was yes Number 2 then you're not ready to move on. Your mind maybe be telling you yes but your heart is not ready and she is telling you no. You have to be able to think rational, not with the heart because sometimes the heart makes you see things that are not there. Be careful. Do what your instincts tell you. Either way, it wouldn't fail you because your gut knows best.
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