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Ladies what interests & hobbies do you want your ideal guy to have?


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I've seen women say I want a guy that's sporty, active, into art, music, reading, travelling, dancing, nerdy stuff etc. Just curious as to what interests you prefer a guy to have?

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Yo. I'm a man BTW lol. I think women put there idea of what they want in a man on a pedestal and then just go for what they are attracted to. There are billions of woman who are all into diff things. Todays young women are diff as they tend to follow society more (my opinion) .. I just think woman go for what they are attracted to. I dated a girl who didnt really care that i was smart or athletic or anything like that. She just liked my personality and was attracted to that.

 

So yeah. Women settle for what they like and are attracted to. Which could me a million things.

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Music, but only if it's similar to my tastes. I like someone who is literate and has read a lot. I like going out in nature to see rivers or wildlife. My ears would perk up if a guy was really into animals. So going to the dog park or just walking dogs. I think it would be fun if a guy enjoyed cooking because it's a good ongoing conversation about food and restaurants and cooking to keep up a dialogue.

 

I like a guy who enjoys television (again, if it's anything I would also want to watch) but it wouldn't work out if all they did was watch sports. I wouldn't mind if they wanted to go bowling once in a while or to play pool.

 

Basically, you can't just tailor yourself to anyone because everyone is different, but it's important you do a variety of things so that when you do meet someone, you have that going for you - not to mention the more activities you do, the more likely to meet someone doing it.

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acute interest in knowing and understanding himself. I can survive with or without the rest.

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I would like him to enjoy going to the theatre, cinema, pubs and hiking etc. General fun activities and fun things as well as the classic "Netflix and Chill" :D It would be great to have someone who I can turn round and say "lets go skinny dipping in such and such a place this weekend" and he will say great lets go!

 

But I would also like him to have hobbies that I don't want to get involved in... Keeps him out of my hair for a bit so I can veet my bikini line without him seeing me doing the classic "veet walk" that all we women know so very well!I want some time on my own sometimes... Call me selfish but too much of a good thing gets tiresome sometimes.

 

So in fairness I want a guy who likes what he does and enjoys life...

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i would like him to enjoy going to the theatre, cinema, pubs and hiking etc. General fun activities and fun things as well as the classic "netflix and chill" :D it would be great to have someone who i can turn round and say "lets go skinny dipping in such and such a place this weekend" and he will say great lets go!

 

But i would also like him to have hobbies that i don't want to get involved in... Keeps him out of my hair for a bit so i can veet my bikini line without him seeing me doing the classic "veet walk" that all we women know so very well!i want some time on my own sometimes... Call me selfish but too much of a good thing gets tiresome sometimes.

 

So in fairness i want a guy who likes what he does and enjoys life...

 

^^ this ^^

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I'm a stickler when it comes to interests.....has to be into cars and knows how to work on them. Nothing worse than trying to have a conversation with a guy about cars, that doesn't even know how to change the oil in his own car.

 

Music....I have a very keen interest in music, with a musician's point of view. He needs to be like minded, not just a mass collection on his iphone.

 

Beer. I love beer, and love a man that likes to be adventurous in trying different craft beers.

 

Must like sushi. Love going for sushi. If hear "ew raw fish" he would be out. My husband kept his mouth shut and tried it for the first time on out first date. He loved it. That scored huge points with me lol.

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i have mostly dated jocks ....what really was cool was when the guys i dated loved words and literature as much as i did...all my dates have loved music....but then i havent really met anyone male or female who doesnt appreciate music......deb

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Hahah smackie, apparently you would love my guy ;)

 

Builds and races cars, past band member, music affianto and part time radio DJ, craft beer expert (left the auto industry for the craft beer industry), and LOVES sushi.

 

Like smackie, all of these intests he has attracted me, I too can work on cars and enjoy them. So that is a huge plus, I would have reservations about dating a guy that didn't know how to drive a stick shift.

 

I have always enjoyed music, and regularly go to shows, so that's something else to share. Plus he has expanded my music knowledge so much, and constantly exposes me to new stuff which is a treat.

 

I love good food, and I am very adventurous, so that is something else I like to share with a guy (and I seriously eat sushi 5 days a week - I live in Japantown!)

 

The beer part isn't important to me, but I am a social drinker, and would want a guy who is as well.

 

And lastly, he is a serious mountain biker, which is a great compliment to my horse back riding. We go do our own sports and train without having to worry we are spending too much time away, as we both understand the demands of our choosen sports.

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This question will answered differently by everyone, but here's my personal take:

 

I love to travel and have a keen sense of adventure and curiosity about the world. I would not mesh well with a man who isn't interested in the world around him and doesn't have a desire to travel. This also extends to so-called "cultural" activities; I like visiting museums, galleries and monuments

 

I also enjoy cooking and trying new food. Tasting new cuisines and visiting food festivals is a pleasure for me, and I couldn't handle a picky eater who is unwilling to join me in this.

 

Fitness is a passion for me. I work out and take care of my body as much as I reasonably can, and appreciate a man who does the same. I'm not interested in gym-rat, muscle-head types, but being physically active is important for me.

 

I adore reading and enjoy talking about good books. A man who loves to read is attractive for me, because I believe that reading is a great way to learn and stimulate our imaginations.

 

Having said all that, I don't mind at all if my man has hobbies or interests I don't share. I think having your own interests is also very important. And heck, I could learn something new from him too.

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Question for the ladies regarding the car answer and the thread topic.

 

I think I sell myself short with women because I don't advertise the things know.

 

Frankly, I'd sound like a pompous jerk if I tried to list off the things I know, both academically, from life growing up in a rural area and from being an entrepreneur in various industries.

 

So, cars for example... I don't even own one right now. They don't interest me at all, other than getting from point A to point B. So, it's Uber and rental cars for that.

 

At the same time, I could replace an engine or transmission, I diagnose and fix my vehicles I used to own myself (using both my mechanical and computer skills via the codes) and could probably build a car...and have thought about doing so for fun.

 

But... this information and lots more like it is kept very close to my chest when dating because I have no idea how it should be worked in. It would come up down the road when a car breaks, but girls assume I know nothing because I don't tell them for fear of sounding like a know it all.

 

What's a guy supposed to do about this?

 

Usually, I keep the conversation focused on her and it's usually very trivial/mundane stuff. I'm going to sound like a douche now, but there are very few people with the diverse knowledge base I have. I can't talk to 99% of the population about most of it, so I hide it.

 

How are you supposed to demonstrate you know about something without being a douche or having canned stories to prove it (vs natural conversation focused on her)?

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Hahah smackie, apparently you would love my guy ;)

I think that is what really sold my husband was the fact that I'm a car chick. When we met I was also working as an auto body mechanic, which was unheard of at the time. He wasn't about to let me get away lol

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I like men who are athletes and into athletics the most.

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It's just conversation.....you find something you both have an interest in and go with it.

 

being a know-it-all, d ouchy, means you take over the whole conversation.

 

I myself don't say "I know how to do this and I did that" I would say "I'm a nostalgic person, I have a weakness for the 29's to 34's. I hope to have one someday...then again I have a pretty big want list, I like a lot of different cars". "How about you?"

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He must like reading books - not necessarily the same ones I do, but just have an intelligent and inquiring mind.

 

And he must like the outdoors and not be afraid of getting dirty. If not, then it just spoils all the fun.

 

He must not spend longer to get ready in the morning than I do.

 

He must be relatively fit - doesn't have to be a fitness God though.

 

He must like traveling, particularly to cultural sights. I work in a museum so it'd be cool to meet someone who appreciates museums and what we do.

 

Now, where is this man? It's so hard to find a guy with all these qualities. :love:

 

Actually this thread has been pretty helpful because it's made me realise what the most important interests are for me.

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This question will answered differently by everyone, but here's my personal take:

 

I love to travel and have a keen sense of adventure and curiosity about the world. I would not mesh well with a man who isn't interested in the world around him and doesn't have a desire to travel. This also extends to so-called "cultural" activities; I like visiting museums, galleries and monuments

 

I also enjoy cooking and trying new food. Tasting new cuisines and visiting food festivals is a pleasure for me, and I couldn't handle a picky eater who is unwilling to join me in this.

 

Fitness is a passion for me. I work out and take care of my body as much as I reasonably can, and appreciate a man who does the same. I'm not interested in gym-rat, muscle-head types, but being physically active is important for me.

 

I adore reading and enjoy talking about good books. A man who loves to read is attractive for me, because I believe that reading is a great way to learn and stimulate our imaginations.

 

Having said all that, I don't mind at all if my man has hobbies or interests I don't share. I think having your own interests is also very important. And heck, I could learn something new from him too.

 

I wish you were a man because I would so date you based on those qualities hehe. :D:p

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It's just conversation.....you find something you both have an interest in and go with it.

 

being a know-it-all, d ouchy, means you take over the whole conversation.

 

I myself don't say "I know how to do this and I did that" I would say "I'm a nostalgic person, I have a weakness for the 29's to 34's. I hope to have one someday...then again I have a pretty big want list, I like a lot of different cars". "How about you?"

 

Thank you.

 

Opened a new thread because it's a more complex issue...

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Any healthy, legal, ethical interest that keeps him occupied WITHOUT ME, and does not involve spending all his time with other women. Preferably something time consuming or requires travel, so that he is not around a lot.

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Ooooh I forgot... die hard musicians, especially if they are song writers too! :love: :love: :love:

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Eating p*ssy. As long as it's mine.

 

Chiling at home watching family guy and foxtel big bang theory and we have started to watch Gordon Ramsay's series about restoring failing restaurants.

 

Occasionally going to the most fancy restaurants.

 

Starting a Saturday or Sunday with a drive.... to the shops where we watch a movie and he treats me to a charm for my Pandora. Or a drive to wash our dog at the pet store and a walk. Or a random stop in to a gallery. Or a cafe. Then spend the rest of the day chilling at home, having sex. And more sex.

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I don't prioritize a man's hobbies in dating, in that I don't sit around imagining what he should like to do. I just would like us to have some similar interests, lifestyles and values so that we can enjoy things together but that doesn't mean he needs to have a specific set of hobbies.

 

For example, I love traveling and I also have to do it a lot for work. It would be very hard and near impossible for me to be happy with a man who didn't care for traveling. This is more of a lifestyle issue though. Likewise, a big part of how I socialize with friends and also for my work is going out to dinners and things like that, so being with someone who liked that and could hang is best, as it's more of a lifestyle thing. It's nice if we had a tv show we both liked and could watch together, but it's not a a requirement. Similarly, it's nice if we share some similar music tastes so on car rides, in our house, it's much more pleasant lol, but not a dealbreaker. However, in general, hobbies that aren't tied to lifestye, I don't really think about it, unless it is again something antithetical to who I am or some obsession that would make us incompatible, then I don't think too much about it and am glad to learn about a man and his interests. My boyfriends were similar in some traits but were also different in many ways with different interests and it was fun to learn about what they liked. It's exciting to see where we like similar things and also cool when it's different and I can learn about something new even if I don't end up sharing in it.

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So in fairness I want a guy who likes what he does and enjoys life...

 

Yes!

Things are interesting and fun with someone who enjoys them.

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Lucky is the woman who says Xbox, procrastinating household chores and testing the limits of personal hygiene on the weekends. The rest of you are just plain ****ed...

 

;-)

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Simply wouldn't work for me if a guy I was with wasn't heavily into music... playing, listening to, watching, everything, as that's the biggest interest and one of the most important parts of my life. I've never had a relationship with someone who wasn't a musician, although it comes with its downsides, most younger guys in bands tend not to be in the kind of time of their life where they're looking to settle down so I've definitely wound up with my share of commitment phobes inadvertently.

 

Regarding other interests, I look for someone who's into reading, is aware of current affairs and interested in political issues, who's able to have an intellectual debate and leans to the left in their political bias. Other than that it's pretty wide open. I just want someone into music who can have an intellectual discussion without feeling out of their depth. It's also nice if someone is a foodie like me and is happy to try new recipes and restaurants and doesn't just eat junk food all day.

 

The kind of interests that are an automatic turn off to me are someone who's heavily into sports, someone who spends their life in the gym or anything to do with cars.

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