aries girl Posted January 23, 2016 Posted January 23, 2016 can I ask why guys pull away or mia and then come back again expecting things to be the same?
Amelie1980 Posted January 23, 2016 Posted January 23, 2016 can I ask why guys pull away or mia and then come back again expecting things to be the same? I think the type that do it are manipulative and like to manage down your expectations. They train you to expect it. 2
dobielover Posted January 23, 2016 Posted January 23, 2016 Usually, because they believe you're more emotionally invested than they are, and they need to manage that investment and your expectations. It's usually precipitated either by (1) clingyness/neediness/pressure from the woman, or (2) increased emotional intimacy which makes them question their ability to be in the relationship to the same level you are. I do not think it's intentional manipulation. I think it's an instinctual behavior, in the same way that clingyness is an instinctual behavior for many women.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 23, 2016 Posted January 23, 2016 This very much depends on the guy and your specific situation. Some do it because of external stress and they need to process it alone. Some do it because they need to ease into intimacy, more so than women do. Others do it because they don't want to commit and don't want you to expect it, either. They could be dating other girls. It's very hard to say without more information. Is this happening to you, OP?
Amelie1980 Posted January 23, 2016 Posted January 23, 2016 This very much depends on the guy and your specific situation. Others do it because they don't want to commit and don't want you to expect it, either. They could be dating other girls. This is the reason mine did it.....he lied about it all and kept me just interested enough that I didnt walk away until he had what he wanted that it.
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