greyskies Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 I'm so pissed off right now I could just spit. I have a friend whom when I met him he was going through it with this ex gf of his and I was there for him and let him talk it out with me gave him advice. This girl was not for him at all and he knew it and so did I. But they got back together and it was all good and they would both visit now and again. As I got to know his GF she seemed to be Al-right not anything like he made her out to be at all. Well they kept breaking up and getting back together and every-time he would come running over to me to cry on my shoulder. And I never turned him away. Well this last time I let him come again and he was here for like two days and all I did was give him my undivided attention. He wants her to commit and she wont. And I don't blame her. Well this last time he was acting like he was never ever gonna speak nor see her again, and even went as far as giving me some things of hers to return. Then last night after leaving here he IM's me and says I just love drama and BS in my life and thats why I love her. Then he went on, he was saying that I was talking to her and I knew where she was and he heard this and he heard that. He was accusing me of talking to her and not telling him what I knew. Well just a few minutes ago I found out from his gf that the entire time he was here and crying on my shoulder he was texting her. And so he was falsely accusing me of doing just that. Knowing he was texting her the whole time. I told him to pound sand and to never contact me again. But I'm kind of hurt that this friend did this to me. Why are people like that?
HokeyReligions Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Some people are just so self-centered that nurturers like you & me get hurt. I'm glad you are standing up for yourself. It hurts, but hold your head high that you were a good friend and a good person and it's this guy's loss. He was using you as a crutch. I've been someone's crutch before too and after a while it gets tiring and I realized I don't need to enable anyone else. Let him go and be proud that you know how to be a good friend and a caring person. Maybe he will eventually figure out that the world doesn't revolve around him and he can't force anyone else's actions.
WhatAmIDoin Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Ok, I read all these posts and considering that I am the friend thats self centered, and a jerk and everything... you don't know the whole story. That Girl she was referring too in the story would give me **** everytime we left her place. She would keep on saying to me, "So did you have fun at your girl friends?" over and over and over again. She made my life hell after we left. And what do you mean that she won't commit and you don't blame her? Read my post to hear my side of this story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t64764/ Oh ya and she forgot to mention that there is a 20 year age diifference from her to me. Self centered my ass... I gave so much to her and totally lost my families respect for her. Telling them I would be somewhere at 10 and then not even showing up and stuff like that multipul times. Giving her money when i was unemployed... I was more of a friend than who ever reads this will know. Its really sad to finally hear what you think of me for real.
millefiori Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by greyskies He was accusing me of talking to her and not telling him what I knew. Well just a few minutes ago I found out from his gf that the entire time he was here and crying on my shoulder he was texting her. And so he was falsely accusing me of doing just that. Knowing he was texting her the whole time. WhatAmIDoin, is this true or not?
WhatAmIDoin Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 It is true... so what i texted her maybe once to 4 times a day... but what you don't know is that the two of them get together and tell each other lies and bull****. You have no clue how many fights I got into for **** that wasn't real. The relationship with my gf was very confusing and very tough for me. I want to let go and i can't. So why does that make me a bad person?
WhatAmIDoin Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Grey would be mad at me for things she told her and I didn't even do what I was being accused of and it worked visa versa... Ya when she hurt me I went to her because I finally could without the 30 minute ride home with the nagging in my left ear... if that and the unability to let go of my relationship, if that makes me selfish than I am.
millefiori Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by WhatAmIDoin It is true... so what i texted her maybe once to 4 times a day... but what you don't know is that the two of them get together and tell each other lies and bull****. You have no clue how many fights I got into for **** that wasn't real. The relationship with my gf was very confusing and very tough for me. I want to let go and i can't. So why does that make me a bad person? Honestly, I just see you as a person who doesn't take responsibility for his actions and that also makes me doubt your qualities as a partner. It's really childish what you did.
WhatAmIDoin Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Ok let me explain the content of these text messages that I was sending.... i would go over all bent out of shape over my girl friend, then she would say oh shes at this theame part with her sister, sisters boy friend, and her son... who have no clue in this world how out of caracter that is of my girl friend to do that. But to then say she just got a call and from the sisters boy friend and he yelled out her sons name.... just to find out that she didn't even go to the theme park that day. In my opinion i am saying that the three of us are equally wrong. I'm not a saint and i don't mean to come off like I did everything right. And if you knew the whole story you would agree. you basing me on one moment in time instead of looking at the whole picture. I'm far from self centered that it's not funny and is probably a mental disorder for me. Like I said if you knew everything you could see that the three of us are all wrong.
millefiori Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 WhatAmIDoin, I'm sorry, but I don't understand your story at all, it's so confused that I actually don't know what to say....
Author greyskies Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 I never said she was with them I said MAYBE she was with them since they were there and because I didnt want you running off the deep end to where she could be. You called and said shes with MI** I can feel it and I know what that does to you so I said what you said about her being with them at MM. You just run with everything you hear. You even hear something from someone and then tell someone else a totally different story. If you dont think your wrong for the things you did then you just need to go through this again until you do get it. And I think thats sad. That you cant learn from this freaking experience. All I can say is I tried to be your friend and you had no regard for me, my friendship, the time I spent listening to you and supporting you and giving you my undivided attention. Its cool though I just know I went through alot of stress worring about someone who could careless about me or the person I am. I know Im a good person, I know I was your friend for one reason to be your friend. ANd what in the hell does my age have to do with any of this. What you think Im interested in you? Please give me a break. You are so unstable I could never deal with the crap you put your gf through. Like (I love you, and then if she went to see her son you cut up her clothes, call her grandmother and tell her things that no one should tell someones grandmother, take the clothes you cut up and dump them in her fathers driveway. etc. etc.) All that stuff is not normal!!!
Author greyskies Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 If you can tell one single person on this site that I was not your friend and rate who was whose friend by the things they gave each other. You dont base friendship on that at all. Like you said you have never concidered me a friend and thats so cool. So that mean all the nice things you did do for me were in vain. Fake, phony, and without the thought of being good to a friend whom has been good to you in return. You know you are not a selfish person that is for sure I do think your a very giving person but you give way to much to everyone you shouldnt and give nothing to those you should. And if you tried thinking of the important people in your life instead of her or even myself. You would be a much happier person. Like I have always told you I will never turn you away in the time of need no matter what you do. You were very special to me and you know that. I'm gonna miss hanging out with you. But a girl can only do so much before she has to put her foot down. I hope all your hopes and dream come true. And hope your new job is going well.
wyzeup Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 It all wreaks of Jerry Springer. More than a coincidence that Grey's pal just happened to come across this site and this particular thread, wouldn't you say? Did you let him know you posted here so that you could keep the drama going if people took your side? This all sounds like grade 9 stuff. Why don't y'all just sort out your dirty laundry in real life and take a break from the drama and "he said, she said" petty childish stuff.
Author greyskies Posted June 16, 2005 Author Posted June 16, 2005 I still have every right to come on this site and discuss what ever is on my mind. Just because two people know each other bands you from LS? I have no romantic feelings for this man and I can tell him what the hell I want to tell him to his face or on the phone. I didnt even think he would remember my name on here to be honest with you. I dont have the desire to play drama games I have enough of that in my life as it is. My goal in life is to help other to love them unconditionally and to be supportive of anyone who may need me to be. If that makes you judge me in a bad way then thats cool it dont bother me in the least. So sorry if anything I said put you in a bad mood.
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