Lucrecia Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 I'm pretty embarassed posting this. My partner and I have been together for 3 years in September. We live together, have a beautiful home, car, the usual. I have a few health problems, MS being one of them, it has never changed my sex drive, its still as strong as it used to be. When we met, I was roughly a size 14-16 (UK size). Sex was great, then it became pure love making, the passion was strong for around a year, we wanted eachother, even in the simplest of terms, like cuddling in bed and general touching and kissing. Due to my health, I am now a size 24, I have battled with my weight, its been a constant struggle, I can't exercise and although I eat healthy foods it just piled on. For around the past year & a half, my partner constantly teases me, pretending to be joking but I know whats going on. I believe I am still the same person inside, but my partner says he has no initiative to have sex with me, claiming he just doesn't like big women. Now I know alot of you guys are probably sitting there thinking 'I wouldn't want to shag a fat bird either', but in all honesty, I can still do everything I used to do, does it really matter that much? I'm not a typical fatty, (no offence intented in any way to anyone) I wear nice clothes, try to always look my best, despite the weight I know have a pretty face, beautiful blue eyes and lovely long blonde hair, I just seem to be in some sort of body suit thats stuck. Tomorrow morning I am going to Spain for some medical tests, I could be gone for up to 2 months, I nipped in the lounge a minute ago, asked if we could go to bed, sort of a 'wink wink' situation. Got told 'No, don't even go there' in such a nasty harsh tone. Its friggin killing me, if my illnesses don't kill me, my heart will. Please give me some advice, I've tried telling my partner that perhaps being a 'shallow' person is coming into this a little too much and that perhaps he should try loving me for who I am and not what I look like, I still have the same personality, (aside from the typical mood swings) the same humour and the same heart, a heart that is being broken. I'm sick of being rejected, he even has the audacity to tell me how fat I am and what a turn off I am, but why should our whole relationship be about what he wants. I'm beginning to think perhaps there are a few underlying messages?? In desperate need! Lu x
laRubiaBonita Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 well first, is the weight something that you want to shed as well? and is there something that you can do about it, whether it be diet and low impact exercise (like swimming)?
Pocky Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Originally posted by Lucrecia Due to my health, I am now a size 24, I have battled with my weight, its been a constant struggle, I can't exercise and although I eat healthy foods it just piled on. Why can't you exercise? I thought exercise was supposed to help with MS. Sex is exercise - if you can have sex, why can't you do exercise?
Sal Paradise Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Originally posted by Lucrecia I'm pretty embarassed posting this. My partner and I have been together for 3 years in September. We live together, have a beautiful home, car, the usual. I have a few health problems, MS being one of them, it has never changed my sex drive, its still as strong as it used to be. When we met, I was roughly a size 14-16 (UK size). Sex was great, then it became pure love making, the passion was strong for around a year, we wanted eachother, even in the simplest of terms, like cuddling in bed and general touching and kissing. Due to my health, I am now a size 24, I have battled with my weight, its been a constant struggle, I can't exercise and although I eat healthy foods it just piled on. For around the past year & a half, my partner constantly teases me, pretending to be joking but I know whats going on. I believe I am still the same person inside, but my partner says he has no initiative to have sex with me, claiming he just doesn't like big women. Now I know alot of you guys are probably sitting there thinking 'I wouldn't want to shag a fat bird either', but in all honesty, I can still do everything I used to do, does it really matter that much? I'm not a typical fatty, (no offence intented in any way to anyone) I wear nice clothes, try to always look my best, despite the weight I know have a pretty face, beautiful blue eyes and lovely long blonde hair, I just seem to be in some sort of body suit thats stuck. Tomorrow morning I am going to Spain for some medical tests, I could be gone for up to 2 months, I nipped in the lounge a minute ago, asked if we could go to bed, sort of a 'wink wink' situation. Got told 'No, don't even go there' in such a nasty harsh tone. Its friggin killing me, if my illnesses don't kill me, my heart will. Please give me some advice, I've tried telling my partner that perhaps being a 'shallow' person is coming into this a little too much and that perhaps he should try loving me for who I am and not what I look like, I still have the same personality, (aside from the typical mood swings) the same humour and the same heart, a heart that is being broken. I'm sick of being rejected, he even has the audacity to tell me how fat I am and what a turn off I am, but why should our whole relationship be about what he wants. I'm beginning to think perhaps there are a few underlying messages?? In desperate need! Lu x Leave the shallow a**h***.
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