Gloria25 Posted January 22, 2016 Posted January 22, 2016 Well, I finally got it... I sorta caught him "following" me around, and while I wasn't at my most fabulous by way of dress and rushing to get to my job, I decided to speak to him before I lost the opportunity to. Well, it was a polite exchange. He said he got my messages but didn't bother to respond cuz he didn't want to pursue any kind of relationship with me. I didn't grovel, beg, and/or demand explainations cuz I'm a mature woman and when someone is clear about where I stand with them, I respect that. So, goes to show that people - especially guys - shouldn't fear of rejecting and/or breaking up with someone. Yes, it's gonna be bad news and hurt, but worst is hiding, ghosting, flaking. I used to throw angry fits and even post about it cuz I didn't have clarity. Stringing someone along and/or not leveling with them is worst than the actual break-up and/or rejection. So, I'm not gonna lie and say that I'm disappointed and a bit hurt, but not angry and have the clarity/closure I needed.
67Chevelle Posted January 22, 2016 Posted January 22, 2016 So, I'm not gonna lie and say that I'm disappointed and a bit hurt, but not angry and have the clarity/closure I needed. Being upfront and honest with someone is always the BEST choice in such situations. Now if only I can get all the other women to believe it, because personally I've never had one date provide clarity/closure.
Author Gloria25 Posted January 22, 2016 Author Posted January 22, 2016 Being upfront and honest with someone is always the BEST choice in such situations. Now if only I can get all the other women to believe it, because personally I've never had one date provide clarity/closure. Well, you haven't been on a date with me But seriously, if I have a few emails, txt, etc exchanges and/or go out on a date with a guy I'll simply tell him that 'I just don't see it working out for X reason' and I wish them well. Just like twice I got a negative response - others were cool and even thanked me. Even if you don't tell them the "real" reason (ie your breath stinks), I don't leave them hanging either and/or continue to interact with them - especially in a manner to make them believe they still got a chance. You don't do that to people. 2
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 22, 2016 Posted January 22, 2016 Ok so promise you are done with this for once and for all? 6
Author Gloria25 Posted January 22, 2016 Author Posted January 22, 2016 Ok so promise you are done with this for once and for all? No need for snide remarks... And FYI, he didn't jump, run and hide and call for police rescue him. Cuz while some people look at my posts/threads about this situation and want to say/think that I just make this all up in my head - he darn well knows that I'm not some delusional, psycho/stalker chick and that he was doing some stuff that might make someone scratch their head. And that's the downside of flirting...some people mistake it for interest.
almond Posted January 22, 2016 Posted January 22, 2016 No need for snide remarks... I don't think it was snide...I just think that a lot of us can see how obviously unhealthy your fixation on this guy was, and hope that you can now move on to bigger and better things 5
Imajerk17 Posted January 22, 2016 Posted January 22, 2016 (edited) No need for snide remarks... And FYI, he didn't jump, run and hide and call for police rescue him. Cuz while some people look at my posts/threads about this situation and want to say/think that I just make this all up in my head - he darn well knows that I'm not some delusional, psycho/stalker chick and that he was doing some stuff that might make someone scratch their head. And that's the downside of flirting...some people mistake it for interest. That's hardly a ringing endorsement of your behavior. It sounds to me that he was trying to dispatch of you w as little fanfare as possible. What concerns us though, was that you were bothering a married man. With a small child. With no regard for anyone's feelings but your own. No one accused you of making this story up FYI. I truly hope for everyone's sake, ESPECIALLY his wife and young child, that from now on you leave that poor man alone. Edited January 22, 2016 by Imajerk17 1
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