Jmarie Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 My ex and I broke up in August, but he is constantly in and out of my life. One minute he wants me in his life, because he cares so much about me. The next he'd rather be moving on, meeting other women and would prefer to act as if I don't exist. Recently he's been contacting me nonstop. I was stupid and let him back in despite how hard it's been for me to cope with the breakup. For the moment we actually seemed ok. Up until now he contacted me saying he thought I was being dull and boring, which he found unattractive. I know myself, and I know this isn't true. I love laughing. Being weird and silly is just in my nature. If I can't be myself I end up being quiet, because I don't know how to be anything other than who I am. I have been quiet with him, because part of the reason we broke up had to do with me. I hurt him as well, so (excuse me if it sounds stupid) when i'm being myself i feel like i'm just hurting him more by showing him the exact reasons why he fell in love with me, and reminding him how much we both messed up and why we aren't together. I tried defending my behavior and all he did was yell and tell me how I'm acting with him just mirrors the person I will grow to be in the future. So I'm basically going to be a dull sad person according to him. He said I deserve to be told I was a piece of **** for what I did, and that he no longer wants to be in my life. He does this all the time btw, and I just don't know what he really wants. I know I don't deserve this treatment, but how do you walk away from the person you honestly believe is your soulmate?
PegNosePete Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 You believe your "soulmate" would treat you like that? Rreally? That is not a soulmate as I believe it to mean. You tell them you don't ever want to hear from them again, and block every method of communication you have. 1
DarkHorizon Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 I know I don't deserve this treatment, but how do you walk away from the person you honestly believe is your soulmate? Your soulmate wouldn't treat you like that. Period. I know it sounds harsh, but it IS that simple. If you don't walk away (applying no contact), you will never give yourself the chance to meet your true, real, soulmate. Disappear from this guy's life, so you can save yours.
sandylee1 Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 You block him from all avenues of contact and be glad you're no longer together. He's a very mean person. ...you don't need him in your life.
mightycpa Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 I don't think "soulmate" means what you think it means. noun: soulmate a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner. The operative idea being IDEALLY SUITED.
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