loveflower Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 can't help activate fb again... and saw this male friend posed with his new GF...I knew that when I saw his posts about flying back to his home country with a girl. still not liking it when I see them posing close finally... I thought he had a thing for me? many years ago when I asked to him to pretend to be my bf to show off to another man in an event, he refused...later I accused him of not being a good friend, he said I used him, I said 'what do you have to lose?' I had only treated him totally as a friend. so I thought he had a thing for me. we non NC for many years now... I know I am irrational, I don't even know how I feel about him...but damn he does have a hot body, was told a former model... damn, feeling a bit jealousy now...kind of happy for him though... I guess I only have myself to blame, he was the most enthusiastic person that like my posts, but I never did the same to him...guess no more like from him from now on... sigh...that's life...
Author loveflower Posted January 21, 2016 Author Posted January 21, 2016 I think he is quite a selfish person...do you still consider someone a friend when she or he doesn't help you?
almond Posted January 22, 2016 Posted January 22, 2016 can't help activate fb again... and saw this male friend posed with his new GF...I knew that when I saw his posts about flying back to his home country with a girl. still not liking it when I see them posing close finally... I thought he had a thing for me? many years ago when I asked to him to pretend to be my bf to show off to another man in an event, he refused...later I accused him of not being a good friend, he said I used him, I said 'what do you have to lose?' I had only treated him totally as a friend. so I thought he had a thing for me. we non NC for many years now... I know I am irrational, I don't even know how I feel about him...but damn he does have a hot body, was told a former model... damn, feeling a bit jealousy now...kind of happy for him though... I guess I only have myself to blame, he was the most enthusiastic person that like my posts, but I never did the same to him...guess no more like from him from now on... sigh...that's life... Yes, you are being irrational. Your post was a little hard to follow, but I'll try... You asked a male friend to pretend to be your boyfriend many years ago...he refused, yet you decided that he must have had feelings for you anyway? You then accused him of being a bad friend, which is quite immature in my opinion. You then state that you only ever treated him as a friend, but still decided that he must have had a "thing" for you? You say you've been NC for years? But now you see that, all these years later, he is with someone? And you're jealous and upset about it? You didn't really have feelings for him though, but your main concern is that you won't be getting as many Facebook likes from this guy now that he has a girlfriend? Lol. And you're calling him selfish and stating that he doesn't help you? That's just silly. I think you need to get a grip and realise how silly this is. Work on engaging with your own life more so that ridiculous things like this won't bother you. 1
Els Posted January 22, 2016 Posted January 22, 2016 Err, have you considered that you shouldn't be going through FB so much? This isn't your first thread about FB and guys from your past... What other hobbies do you have? Do you have anything interesting going on in your life? 2
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 22, 2016 Posted January 22, 2016 can't help activate fb again... Yes you can. You're just a bit of a masochist though... and saw this male friend posed with his new GF...I knew that when I saw his posts about flying back to his home country with a girl. still not liking it when I see them posing close finally... I thought he had a thing for me? many years ago when I asked to him to pretend to be my bf to show off to another man in an event, he refused...later I accused him of not being a good friend, he said I used him, I said 'what do you have to lose?' I had only treated him totally as a friend. so I thought he had a thing for me. we non NC for many years now... I know I am irrational, I don't even know how I feel about him...but damn he does have a hot body, was told a former model... damn, feeling a bit jealousy now...kind of happy for him though... I guess I only have myself to blame, he was the most enthusiastic person that like my posts, but I never did the same to him...guess no more like from him from now on... sigh...that's life... If this is your life, you really need to get out more. Shut down fb. delete your profile, log off and meet some people. It takes work - on both sides - to keep something going. I'm sorry, but I'm afraid from what you said, you were the selfish one. Not him. He HAS his life and seems happy. YOU are the one who messed it up and missed the boat ... But instead of pining - be proactive, and DO something about it!
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