TedR Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 I have a question and looking for some feedback: I've been single for about 8 months now since my girlfriend of 4 years and I split up and moved out. It was amicable and we've remained friends since. We text often and work together (though in a large office building so never see each other) so it's easy to chat about goings on at work etc. She texted me recently and said she wanted to let me know that she had dinner with a friend of mine (also works in the building but don't ever see him) and that they may be seeing more of each other. I don't have a ton of friends in the city but he was one of the few that I would go out with from time to time and have beers etc. She and I won't ever be back together and I know we'll both move on, so I'm not really jealous per se but, I have to admit, it was sort of a punch in the gut trying to digest that info. I haven't talked to him, but he is recently divorced so I suspect I'd wonder what he would think if I went out with his ex wife. Anyway, I've decided that my best bet is to not have contact with any of them any longer. My question is though, is that a complete jerk move on his behalf? I feel that there is an unspoken line and he/she crossed it. Heck, I'm a bit older so I'm not gonna go beat him up on the playground but I just want to know if its even worth thinking about or just saying "the heck with it, who cares..?"
mightycpa Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 Yeah, it kinda is a jerk move. He should have at least asked you if you would be OK with it. Do you have any interest in the mother of his children? Even if only for a night? Turnabout could be fair play. You do have one trump card to play, and that is your recent presence in his latest conquest. For example, you could ask him if he can still detect your scent, or ask her if she's pulled a certain move on him yet. But if you don't really care, then why the punch in the gut? Isn't that a little dramatic?
Learningtowalkagain Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 He broke guy code. Like cpa said, he should have ran it by you first. I met my daughters mom 10 years before we started dating. She dated my cousin in high school. When her and I started to get serious, the first thing I did was told him if he has a problem with it I won't pursue her. He gave me his blessings and was awesome about it.
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