Snix0805 Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 It's been 3 months since that day my heart was broken. I was left for someone else. I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant but lost it immediately. It's been a difficult road and I'm still grieving over it. My ex has blatantly told all our friends that he didn't regret leaving me at all and is a lot happier without me. I've heard from friends time and time again, it's his loss. How could it be his loss when I was the one dumped, he doesn't even see his loss and is so happy to be with another girl. Isn't it really that I lost him, I lost a partner, a friend and a lover? I lost our child. I lost every bit of dignity and pride when I begged for him back. So how can it be his loss?
Methodical Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 Your friends are telling you that he did't deserve you, that you are worthy of a man who won't treat you so poorly.
RySant Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 Hmm... I have read your first thread and you just had a wrong relationship with the wrong guy. I mean, he's a coward for not letting you go when you asked him since he doesn't want to be alone. Although, he's not happy with you anymore, he wants you because he needs someone with him, not because he loves you. I just hope you dumped him when you still had that power but now that he got it, there's no turning back. It's like a job, he's unhappy with you but still needs it but when he found another happier one, he immediately moves. I am sorry, but I hope you find this a lesson and just remember to take more care of your next relationship and choose a man with actual balls than your coward ex
Rocci di Persia Posted January 21, 2016 Posted January 21, 2016 You should be very proud that you have made it to 3 months so far. Have you been in no contact this whole time? This includes not stalking which I see in your original story you admitted you were still doing a bit. If you have not stopped, please do yourself a favour and implement whatever you need to to refrain from that, e.g. whenever you feel the need to check up on him, post here or call a family member or friend. Keeping tabs on your ex and the other woman will actually hinder your healing. He doesn't care about you. You have to care about yourself. Learn to love yourself. Regain your sense of self back and feel empowered about your life. How is your job hunt going? I think your main focus right now is to land a job. You need to stay busy doing that and then once you have a job, you should be too busy to be thinking about this anymore. You will be meeting new people and having new experiences. You won't be idle and moping. In the meantime talk it to death with us, with friends and family. Work out all your grief. Keep up NC. The longer you sustain it, you will feel less attached and you will see clearly what a poor partner he would have made long-term. You don't want to be saddled with that. P.S. Your ex is a flake. You want to be with someone who can weather all sorts of storms with you and not bail when it's hard. I feel sorry for the other woman already. He's sapping her for her positivism. Wait till they encounter their first storm. He'll do the same thing. Sniff around for another one to sap from. 2
Author Snix0805 Posted January 21, 2016 Author Posted January 21, 2016 (edited) Thanks everyone, a lot has happened since my posting of the details of my breakup including me finding out I was pregnant but he thought I was using it to get him back and did not believe me at all. I have seen him thrice last year since the breakup with the new girl and he really is happy and those days were really a mess for me I was NC for two months (i stopped my stalking) which I just broke two days ago when I downloaded Skype and it automatically logged into his account (trust me Idk either what the f*** happened, maybe because he used it before on my laptop and his details were saved) i did not read his conversations save a few lines from a conversation he had with that coworker that immediately popped up into my screen. There were I love yous and other flirting messages and I was just so hurt that I wanted to get my feelings out of the way and sent him a message. I do hope that was the closure I was looking for. I reactivated my facebook and blocked and deleted other mutual friends including his family except for those whom I have become good friends with. He has me blocked Already. I have gotten rid of everything he gave me except my labrador. Still, the pain is there. I still haven't found a job because I got so stressed from everything and basically fell into a slump. Been seeing a therapist for my depression and anxiety. But everyone has good points. I just wondered why people keep saying it's his loss when I'm the one who lost a lot. It's taking me some time to realize that I lost a cheater and a douchebag Edited January 21, 2016 by Snix0805
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