I think my boyfriends family thinks I'm cheating on him but I'm not

[JackieB]

A couple of weeks ago my boyfriends sister got drunk and said something about seeing a random guy drope me off at their house one time to my boyfriend. He called me about it and i said that it might have been my brother she saw drop me off but there's certainly no "random guy." My boyfriend said ok and he forgot about it and so did i. But just the other day i was in my boyfriends room alone while he was out and i overhead his mom talking to her daughter on the phone (not the same sister who tried to say i was with a random guy). I only heard bits and pieces. First i heard my name which caught my attention then a "cheating on him" and then something like "but everybody likes this one." That's not all. My boyfriend has been sick and had a burning feeling when he peed like he had a blader infection. He asked his mom about it and she said "well it's so uncommon for males to get things like that and the only other possibility is an STD." I overheard that too. Now my boyfriend and i have both been tested and we are both clean. We have been faithful to each other so there's no way he could have an STD. So all these little things are leading me to believe his family is thinking I'm cheating. I'm not and I'm with him most of the time. As far as i know no one has tried to tell him I'm cheating and non of his family members have said anything to me directly either. I honestly have no idea where they would get that idea. I doubt my boyfriend would believe them if they did try to tell him about me supposedly cheating. He has a lot of trust in me.

So what i want some advice on is this? What do i do if they do try to say I'm cheating or confont me about it? My boyfriend lives with his parents and sister and I'm at their house a lot so I'm around them everyday.

So far I've just been acting oblivious to what I'm hearing behind closed doors. I've always been making sure i am doing everything a cheater WOULDN'T do. Like i always ask my boyfriend to hold my phone or i will pretend to be busy and ask him to check my phone when I get a text. I do that in front of jis family so that maybe it will make them change their minds. I know it's dumb and borderline manipulative but hey I'm no cheater and if doing stuff like that on purpose saves me from getting called one then so be it.

Any other advice or thoughts would be appreciated!! Thanks!

[smackie9]

His family hates you. Either you call them out on their accusations to straighten them out or you dump you BF because his family is bat sh it crazy.

[JackieB]

I don't think they hate me. They have always been nice, invited me to family activities, initiated conversations, etc. They haven't acted weird around me or anything so that's why I'm so confused. I could have totally misunderstood everything i heard but it really sounds like they are suspecting I'm cheating.

[loveweary11]

Did you hear "cheating on him" or maybe "cheating on her?"

 

The uti (although I've had a couple in monogamous relationships) is the burning clue

 

Pardon the pun.

[HereNorThere]

In my experience, only a guilty person would get this defensive. You're too obvious to not get busted.

 

If you truly haven't cheated, just offer to take a polygraph and move on.

 

I think you should just confess and stop stressing over it.

[JackieB]

I truly have not cheated on my boyfriend. The whole purposely doing stuff a cheater wouldn't do for his family to see is just how i am. I hate confrontation and people hating me. I cannot prove that i didn't cheat so i feel like the only other thing to do is to appear as innocent as possible.