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I really am getting advice for a friend. Does NOT want to go through with wedding. Wedding is one week away. What is worse....breaking up with his fiance a week before and having to tell 200 guests (many from out of town) or going through with lavish wedding and waiting a month to speak up? If you were the bride to be...what would you want? There is no easy answer!

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Yes there is. Get off his cowardly ass and go over there and tell her now.

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He needs to tell her today. What kind of an ass marries someone and then walks out a month later! I can't believe he's even considering this option. This man is not a nice person.

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What do you mean there isn't an easy answer. Yes it is. It's really cut and dry, simple and black and white.

 

He needs to break it off before the wedding. Don't have people coming to that wedding, spending their money just for you to tell her AFTERWARD that you don't want to be married.

 

Stand in your ish, sit her down and let her know that you don't want to get married. It's bad enough "he" waited a week until. I'm sure he knew way before now. But whats done is done,

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If he does it now it is just a break up. If he does it later it is a divorce.

 

Divorce is a hell of alot harder.

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tell him it'll be a lot more traumatic for her to get dumped after the wedding. She'll lose all faith in men, if he acts like a chicken. Plus, women sense these things, it's not like it'll be a complete surprise to her.

 

Chicken way out: email. Then he goes to a trip somewhere for a few weeks, to drop from the face of the Earth. Let his brother or best friend or father handle the messy part of finances, cancelation fees, etc.

 

If emotional part isn't working, tell him he'll lose way more money if he cancels everything now than if he waits to get married. Time is money.

 

Sh*t happens. What's right is right.

  • 3 weeks later...
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He should tell her as soon as humanly possible and it should be his responsibility to let family and friends know the wedding is off.

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