Is she really in love with me?

[Davidjo]

Okay so I've been dating this girl for around 7 months and I'm into her and she seems to be into me but I can't help but wonder if she's putting on a act because she's just at the time of her life where she wants to settle down and have kids and I just so happen to be the best candidate for her right now.

 

My first concern is that she just seemed to fall for me a little too easy. (Not to sound big headed but I'm good looking, in good shape, have a good career, drive a nice car, have values and a good heart). But she started talking marriage and children after only 3 months in. This would usually turn me off but I'm at the stage in my life where I want those things too. But is it normal for a girl to just meet someone and get like that so soon? She tells me that I'm the love of her life, but hasn't known me that long.

 

She also let it slip the other day that she wouldn't have appreciated me if she'd met me younger in life, which made me question the type of person she is..

 

What are your thoughts on this?

[Httm]

There is no way to know. That is life. If you weren't showy with the car, for example, y9u might have a better idea.

[TaraMaiden2]

Okay so I've been dating this girl for around 7 months and I'm into her and she seems to be into me but I can't help but wonder if she's putting on a act because she's just at the time of her life where she wants to settle down and have kids and I just so happen to be the best candidate for her right now.

 

My first concern is that she just seemed to fall for me a little too easy. (Not to sound big headed but I'm good looking, in good shape, have a good career, drive a nice car, have values and a good heart). But she started talking marriage and children after only 3 months in. This would usually turn me off but I'm at the stage in my life where I want those things too. But is it normal for a girl to just meet someone and get like that so soon? She tells me that I'm the love of her life, but hasn't known me that long.

 

She also let it slip the other day that she wouldn't have appreciated me if she'd met me younger in life, which made me question the type of person she is..

 

What are your thoughts on this?

 

Let me tell you how it went with me:

I fell in love with my H within one week of knowing him.

It definitely wasn't lust; it was love. He maintains he knew when we met, we were going to get together, and within a fortnight he knew he wanted to marry me.

 

That was 12 years ago.

We're both 50+.

 

If she's older, please believe me when I tell you: In general, women are far more sure of their feelings, desires and sentiments than those pretty young things....

 

I don't think it would have worked out with my H, when we'd been younger, either.... we were neither of us 'in the right place' to have appreciated one another....

 

Remember, you would have been younger too. Do you think you'd have been so 'ready to settle down' then too?

[Davidjo]

Let me tell you how it went with me:

I fell in love with my H within one week of knowing him.

It definitely wasn't lust; it was love. He maintains he knew when we met, we were going to get together, and within a fortnight he knew he wanted to marry me.

 

That was 12 years ago.

We're both 50+.

 

If she's older, please believe me when I tell you: In general, women are far more sure of their feelings, desires and sentiments than those pretty young things....

 

I don't think it would have worked out with my H, when we'd been younger, either.... we were neither of us 'in the right place' to have appreciated one another....

 

Remember, you would have been younger too. Do you think you'd have been so 'ready to settle down' then too?

 

 

 

Thank you for your response. I think I might be questioning her true intensions because I was in a 12 year relationship before her and felt really close to my ex but she betrayed me in the end. And then there's another part of me that just wishes I'd spent all of those years with this new girl that I'm now crazy about. However it kind of hurt me a little when she said that she probably wouldn't have appreciated me if she'd met me back then.

 

So I wonder if she is only seemingly in love with me because she wants the family, marriage and stability and is she just making do because she realises that most men lie, cheat and are cheap

 

But your story does give me hope

Edited January 20, 2016 by Davidjo

[carhill]

OP, tip:

 

You'll be the love of her life until you're not. Sure, that could be the old folks home. It could be next week. No guarantees.

 

If you like how things are going, keep showing up. If she demonstrates the behaviors and psychological makeup of someone you feel safe and trustworthy of having children with, do that. Again, no guarantees. It's a math problem with infinite variables.