William Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 Folks, due to a number of threads on an apparently similar topic, we merged them and invite members to continue the discussion here. There may be some duplicate content and replies from the thread starter may be delayed. Thanks! 1
ExpatInItaly Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 Yes, this is a break-up. He doesn't want to hurt you but he also doesn't understand that he's giving your false hope. A man who really loves you and wants to be with you doesn't ask you to move out. Sorry, OP. I think it's over and you should consider yourself single now. 2
lana-banana Posted January 24, 2016 Posted January 24, 2016 Here's the thing about breakups: they're really hard! It's tough to know what to say and how to say it, especially when you genuinely care about the other person. And if the other person starts crying or trying to work things out, it gets exponentially more difficult. You, as a dumper, become desperate. You know you want them out of your life but have no idea how to get them to accept it without hurting their feelings more than you have already. So you try to be nice about it and suggest you can be friends, or figure things out later, etc---anything to get them away. What I'm trying to convey is your boyfriend is feeding you a load of horse manure and probably doesn't even realize he's doing it. He is trying to assuage his own guilt and make himself seem like a good guy. He doesn't want you to think he's bored or leaving for another woman, so he used the old "self-discovery" excuse. All the stuff about loving you so deeply is just his attempt to not hurt you even more; he clearly doesn't understand how much damage that does to you. They're just words. He doesn't mean them. No, he isn't interested in reconciling or working it out sometime in the future. As ExpatInItaly said so succinctly, someone who loves you doesn't ask you to leave. 2
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