sam88921 Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 Here's the scope. My girlfriend and I, have been dating for over 8 months. She got on my nerves one day and I nearly broke her up, and as a joke I told her that the only way I would stick with her is if she was pregnant. Now I said that as a joke since we never slept together. A few days later she calls me and tells me she is scared because her period is late and she has major cramps, and that she thinks she is pregnant. To my knowledge, that was impossible but then again maybe somethings slipped out without either of us being aware. I told her that we should both go to a doctors immediately but she refused and she still refuses. Eventually I began to think she is lying and told her that if she was then it would be the end of our relatioship. To this day (so 2 weeks later) she still claims not to know whether she is 100% pregant and no matter what I tell her, she doesn't want to find out. Now the fishy thing is that girls usually have periods each 28 days, and only after 12 days she said she missed her period. Pardon me girls but the last time I checked, if your period isn't schedule for another 28 days, why would you start freaking out after 12 days and telling your boyfriend you might be pregnant? Do you think she is just playing games or is she just psychologically damaged and wants to be needed and never be let go?
Merin Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 What am I missing? You said the 2 of you never slept together (so you didn't ever have sex?) AND now she's saying she's pregnant?
Debster Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 She got on my nerves one day and I nearly broke her up, and as a joke I told her that the only way I would stick with her is if she was pregnant. Now I said that as a joke since we never slept together. Not a very funny joke. Actually a pretty hurtful joke if you ask me. Maybe she's decided to play one of her own jokes back.
Author sam88921 Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 Never slept together and never cummed near her; BUT what if I had some "wet dream" wihout realizing and she slept in my bed and some semen touched her? Things like that could happen. Sperms are strong and they'll do whatever they can to live and swim upwards. I believe they have a lifespan of 6 hours in plain air and up to three days inside a woman's body.
NTB Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 Originally posted by sam88921 Never slept together and never cummed near her; BUT what if I had some "wet dream" wihout realizing and she slept in my bed and some semen touched her? Things like that could happen. Sperms are strong and they'll do whatever they can to live and swim upwards. I believe they have a lifespan of 6 hours in plain air and up to three days inside a woman's body. are you trying to say you had a wet dream sperm got on your bed and then your gf sat on that very spot and the sperm jumped up swam all the way to preggo her excuse me........... :lmao:
Author sam88921 Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 Yes thats what I am saying. Now is tha possible or she just playing with head?
Author sam88921 Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 Either way , whether a sperm can preggo someone without actually having sex....................WHY the hell would she pretend to be pregnant?
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 If you did not ejaculate anywhere in the vicinity of the opening of her vagina, or get some on your fingers and then finger her - then there is no way for it to get inside her, unless she scooped up a blob herself and jammed it up in there. If she is pregnant, then know this much: it won't be yours (unless she helped herself to your sperm and impregnated herself with it - in which case you are screwed).
NTB Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 no that can't happen and if it does then you my bro have the super sperm she is messing with you or she cheated on you either way don't sweat it and wait out the 9 months
Author sam88921 Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 Well I doubt she is pregnant since she's not ever calling and talking about it. Whenever she calls she just starts bitching about things at home, and never cares of whether she is pregnant or not. On my part, I told her that if she is pregnant then she'd make a terrible mother since she doesn't give a damn about it. She seems to be suseptable to any mean comments, sort of like having a heart...err I mean not having a heart.
crazy_grl Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 I'd say there might be a 0.000000000000000000001% chance that she actually could have gotten pregnant by you. And you're right to think that 12 days after her period, she shouldn't be considering herself 'late'. I doubt that she even believes she is pregnant. It was cruel of you to say that the only way you'd stay with her was if she was, and she's possibly got abandonment issues and trying to use the only way she knows to keep you. I'm guessing that you're both pretty young, because it seems like you're both acting childishly. Ordinarily, I'd advise you to sit down and have a rational discussion about this, but I doubt that either of you are capable of doing that effectively at this point. That will hopefully come with time. If you decide to go this route, I suggest letting her know that you'd support her if she was pregnant, but that it's not fair for her to try to use that as a way to manipulate you into staying with her. Tell her that you understand why she might do that, because of the stupid thing you said that probably led her to believe that was her only choice. But let her know that that kind of behavior would only drive you farther away. And don't sound like you're being accusing when you talk to her about it. (Edited to add more leading zeros to my percentage estimate.
Author sam88921 Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 It was mean of me to say that, but I was not trying to be mean but honest. She's got to a point where she only gets in the way of my life and studies and work. And I told her not to say she is pregnant if she's not because that will only make me want to lose her faster, yet she still persists. If she does love me, why would she say such a big thing in order to keep me?
Author sam88921 Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 By the way, when a women becomes pregnant, does she stop having her periods for 9 months? Or how does it work?
blind_otter Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 Originally posted by sam88921 By the way, when a women becomes pregnant, does she stop having her periods for 9 months? Or how does it work? Yeah, because a period is when a woman's uterus sheds the nutrient lining it built up for the implanation of a fertilized egg. Some women experience breakthrough bleeding during the first trimester for reasons unknown. Google pregnancy. You'll find the info you need.
Mary3 Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 Your semen had to come in direct contact with her vaginal canal. As other posters suggested , it had to be on your finger and inserted , or you had to have rubbed your penis on her vaginal opening and ejaculated while your penis was pressed against her vagina and some traveled up there. Her theory of being pregnant does not stand at 12 days gestation unless she was already pregnant with someone elses child, or menstrated while pregnant or has an unkeen sense that she is * with child * . But the average works like this , After her period she does have a window around 12th day post and thats when she is ovulating and if you did have sperm go inside her then its possible on her ovulation day , sperm meets child of the future. But it seems she is using this because you told her you would only stay with her if she was pregnant and is scared you are going to leave and so she says " Hey guess what I am pregnant " in hopes that you will fall to your knees and assemble a brand new crib for your new baby and talk about a great future. You guys dont have a great future though and you need to use condoms in the future if you dont want to be " Dad with Baby " Either way demand a pregnancy test . Give her 10 days to go to a clinic and produce one. The clinic may have a false negative report which could be la ter positive so numerous tests might be in order. Why are you with this girl if you are so miserable ?
crazy_grl Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 Originally posted by sam88921 It was mean of me to say that, but I was not trying to be mean but honest. For the future, please don't ever say that to a woman again. A guy I know has had his life royally f*cked up because a girl who wanted him, who he considered just a friend, got him drunk and used him to get pregnant, because she foolishly thought it would make him want to marry her. If you don't want that to happen to you or other guys, don't go around giving girls the impression that that kind of thing is the way to keep a guy. She's got to a point where she only gets in the way of my life and studies and work. Then you really shouldn't be going out with her. You're not doing her any favors by sticking in a relationship that's not working. And I told her not to say she is pregnant if she's not because that will only make me want to lose her faster, yet she still persists. It's probably in the way you said it. Like I said, it will take time and experience to learn how to deal with relationship issues. If she does love me, why would she say such a big thing in order to keep me? Possibly because she doesn't know any other way, and doesn't yet understand what love is. She's desperate to hold onto you any way she can. Another option is that she's a manipulative b!tch, but not knowing her, I couldn't tell you which it is. It's probably best to assume that she's just got issues. Possibly abandonment issues, but there's no way to know for sure. You should just get away from her in any case. But *don't* just disappear on her or make her feel like dirt. Be the better person and explain that you don't think the relationship is working out. Tell her that if she turns out to be pregnant, you'll support the baby, but that you do not want to be with her romantically. Tell her that if she wants you to take her to the doctor to get a pregnancy test, you'd be happy to go, but that you don't see the need for communication with her otherwise.
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