My Mom wrote this poem

[katielee]

and I'm not sure what to do... if anything.

Her Mom (my Gramma) died a few months ago.

 

Today is Thursday. My mother will die on Saturday.

Waiting for everyone to be there.

Not me.

 

for some reason she didn't go to the funeral. She spent some time with her Mom the last few years but she pretty much hates her siblings so I'm guessing that's why she didn't go. I don't know. I didn't ask. I figured she has her reasons and she's 70 years old and knows what she wants.

 

But, she asked my opinion of her poem. I said the poem begged a question. But that it was good. And is she ok with her ambivalence towards her family?

 

I don't know if I should keep asking questions of her...

[burnt]

I didn't ask. I figured she has her reasons and she's 70 years old and knows what she wants.

 

You did the right thing; everyone has a different way of grieving for a loss.

 

You just being there is the best you can do. No, don't ask her any question, but perhaps do mention that if she wants to talk, you'll be there to listen.

 

I'm sorry for loss.

[Justqueztal]

and I'm not sure what to do... if anything.

Her Mom (my Gramma) died a few months ago.

 

Today is Thursday. My mother will die on Saturday.

Waiting for everyone to be there.

Not me.

 

for some reason she didn't go to the funeral. She spent some time with her Mom the last few years but she pretty much hates her siblings so I'm guessing that's why she didn't go. I don't know. I didn't ask. I figured she has her reasons and she's 70 years old and knows what she wants.

 

But, she asked my opinion of her poem. I said the poem begged a question. But that it was good. And is she ok with her ambivalence towards her family?

 

I don't know if I should keep asking questions of her...

Its ok you did the right thing.

In my opinion whe your not marry or have kids your family is your parents,brothers.

When you get marry or have kids you realize that now their you family and you will do anything for them(treasure them).

I think your the family she need now and forever.

I least thats my opinion hope it helps in some way.

[GemmaUK]

and I'm not sure what to do... if anything.

Her Mom (my Gramma) died a few months ago.

 

Today is Thursday. My mother will die on Saturday.

Waiting for everyone to be there.

Not me.

 

for some reason she didn't go to the funeral. She spent some time with her Mom the last few years but she pretty much hates her siblings so I'm guessing that's why she didn't go. I don't know. I didn't ask. I figured she has her reasons and she's 70 years old and knows what she wants.

 

But, she asked my opinion of her poem. I said the poem begged a question. But that it was good. And is she ok with her ambivalence towards her family?

 

I don't know if I should keep asking questions of her...

 

I would say that as she asked your opinion on the poem that she might like to have some questions or an open and relaxed conversation about things.

 

Sounds from your post like she loved her Mum but just had issues with her siblings?

 

We all have different ways of dealing and it's OK.

Your Mum could have kept this to herself but she asked you about it instead.

 

It's perfectly OK too that your Mum didn't go to the funeral (although perhaps she is missing a sense of closure so that may be why she asked you about the poem - she might want to open up to you).

When my Dad passed away my Brother booked a holiday so that he, is wife and my niece were away - my bro just couldn't face the funeral. Mum's was tough enough 16 years earlier!

It was OK with me and I could handle it. For me I could not have not been there.

 

Maybe ask her if she would like to talk and you can base that question on her asking you what you thought of the poem?

 

Sorry for your loss xx

[Tayla]

lost opportunities... *sad*.

 

Simply listen .

[ShatteredLady]

I'm sorry for your loss. My parents are about the same age as your Mum & they've had their own family issues. They do like answering questions & telling stories about their childhoods & their older relatives. Opening-up conversations about that could help her get through this.

 

Best wishes.