Cant get away from friend

[Justqueztal]

The thing goes like this.

My name is David, so i have this friend(girl) that at first i just thought of as a friend but than this feeling came out about like 3 months of being friends in that point of time we really became best friends wich is strange giving the time. So i just didnt want time to pass by, i told her my feelings and got rejected, i was sad at this point didnt know what to do i didnt want to lose her becuase she became importante for me so i stay friends with her.

Time pass by and i got jealous and it started to hurt being friends with her so decided to be apart from her, it just that i see her in school every day so it was hard to forget her and control my feelings, she gave me space at the time but one day i saw her sad so i started talking to her again but of course my feelings again.

At this point in time i talked to her about my feelings that is hurt To be with her she told me that she will acept me with those feelings (i think about she that thinking about my and so i stay by her side) but with naot being in a love relationship

I decided to stay away from her, she started to look for me, i stay determine.She recently came by and i told her how i felt ,i told her to stay away please and not look for me but she said that she dosent care and will keep looking for and its confuse my and it hurts a lot.

Its hard to still be friends with her but i dont know what is she thinking.

I need opinions

Edited January 19, 2016 by Justqueztal

[angel.eyes]

She wants to be platonic friends only. You wish to date her. Dating is not an option here.

 

You'd already explained that you can't be around her as just friends. A true friend would be considerate enough to give you space. She (selfishly) refuses because she wants you around as a friend. At this point, the smart thing to do since you continue to have feelings for her, would be to avoid her...ignore her...whatever it takes to not hang around her.

[Justqueztal]

She wants to be platonic friends only. You wish to date her. Dating is not an option here.

 

You'd already explained that you can't be around her as just friends. A true friend would be considerate enough to give you space. She (selfishly) refuses because she wants you around as a friend. At this point, the smart thing to do since you continue to have feelings for her, would be to avoid her...ignore her...whatever it takes to not hang around her.

Thanks for the replay I apprecite it.

I have try really hard.Its not that she calls me sometime, she calls me every day (really and i dont answer of course)

The case is that in those days she called me and i didnt answer her grandfather past away and i of course felt like **** for not answering her calls, she came to my house and she started to cry and .....you know it i feel like ****.The worse is that in those days a got really sick and was diagnost with a illness(dont really feel to say was it is).The more i don't what her coming by i don't whant her symphathy becuase it gets me confuse and sad.

I dont know how to be more direct than what i have said

[angel.eyes]

Block her phone number!

 

I'm sorry her grandfather died, but you aren't her only friend in the world. Why do you feel responsible for being her savior? She has other friends and family who can support her. Surely she can speak with them instead of calling you every day. Again, she's not really being your friend. She's using guilt and anything she can to keep you on the hook. A true friend would realize that this is difficult for you, leave you alone, and pick someone else to talk to of her grandfather died recently. She's just focused on what she wants, not who gets hurt in the process.

[Wewon]

She recently came by and i told her how i felt ,i told her to stay away please and not look for me but she said that she dosent care and will keep looking for and its confuse my and it hurts a lot.

Its hard to still be friends with her but i dont know what is she thinking.

I need opinions

 

I hope that you recorded the time when this happen, that way you can have an exact record of when she clearly showed to you that she is NOT your friend.

 

Friends don't do this, they accept that a person is struggling and give you the space that you need. She prioritizes her wants above yours, isn't that a wonderful trait?

 

She's not a good friend and would likely not make a very good girlfriend based on this particular trait alone.

[Justqueztal]

Thanks for the reply.

I know what your talking about last time I talked to her about it I was so foward about how things are and Id asker her if she didnt thinks how i feel or dosent even have consideration on how i feel (didnt get an answerd).

Trust me ive been so foward to her about this, last time she started crying and its not that i want to hurt her, she said the same old stuff, she told me in our native language that she "loves"me (the word she said its kind of love but not exatly) so much that she cant do what i asker.

Its in a point where i think it hurt her how i am with her but it hurts me too.

I only think why does she keeps doing it, looking for me and all that stuff if it hurts her too. What is she looking for? What does she wants? What is the reason for doing this stuff if I reject her? Why keep this if its hurts her too? A friendship that can not be, i cant control my feelings and i hope she understands it OPINIONS

Edited January 19, 2016 by Justqueztal

[preraph]

She's just feeling guilty and trying to make herself feel better. She isn't mature enough to know the nicest thing she could do is let you move on.

[Justqueztal]

She's just feeling guilty and trying to make herself feel better. She isn't mature enough to know the nicest thing she could do is let you move on.

Thanks for the comments.I hipe everything goes we'll.

I update if somthing new comes out

Thanks a lot to everyone

[preraph]

Yes, I hope things go well for you. Remember to look out for your own interests here.