ToughShell Posted January 19, 2016 Posted January 19, 2016 We've been apart for over six months now. She never really actually gave "us" a real chance. She would frequently cancel less than 24 hours before. She said she wasn't ready then a couple months later said she could do it but then recanted that statement. Anyway, it took me forever to stop thinking about her and put myself back out there. But now she's stuck in my mind again. Though I'm not letting that stop me from dating, she's all I think about especially at times like that no matter how hard I try to just stay focused on the now. I know it's kind of ridiculous to still be caught up on someone to this degree after 6+ months, but I can't help it. She has always said she still wants to be friends, but for the past month or two has been ignoring me (I have not been pushing for a relationship). Is there any chance I'll get her back? My gut says no, but I need confirmation and friends and family aren't helping one bit. I've never felt this strongly about anyone else, including previous relationships.
brothers343 Posted January 19, 2016 Posted January 19, 2016 It's been six months brother. Anything can happen but to me it sounds like she's moving on. Plus you need time away from her,,you need to go NC for a while. Your not seeing things clearly at this moment becouse she still governs your mind. Let go and see the situation as what it is. Start putting in your mind that the thing that you once had eith her is gone and it may never come back the way you want it. Everyone goes through this. There's no exceptions to the rule.
moebius Posted January 19, 2016 Posted January 19, 2016 She offered you a friendship which didn't even give you after all. And maybe that was smart. I agree with brothers343 she already move on. And what is left looks like an obsession.
smudge21 Posted January 19, 2016 Posted January 19, 2016 There's no rules in regards falling for someone or moving on from someone. These things just happen out of our control. You can't make yourself heal, it will happen over time. She is still in your thoughts and your heart and she may be for a while to come, or she may start to fade the more you talk about it. One of the hardest things is having feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. As much as we want or hope they'll change and come to us, sadly nothing we do will make that happen. You can spend your life thinking about them whilst they are living theirs. Or you can move on and let go.
Author ToughShell Posted January 20, 2016 Author Posted January 20, 2016 Thanks. I'm trying my best to clear her from my mind. It's inevitable redundancies like this (what my mind warps them into: far out of proportion, I know) that trigger my doubt of ever having a successful relationship. I wish I wasn't this sensitive. It sucks royally! There have been times I've felt like I was collicing, but I appreciate the help. Thanks again
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