Lord Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I am in a really nice relationship with my Girl and we both are sexually compatible. Since my sex drive is higher than her I often feel the urge(Almost daily) to have sex with her. I guess that's normal right? How do you tell your GF that you need to have sex with her without coming forward as too needy or horny? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I am in a really nice relationship with my Girl and we both are sexually compatible. Since my sex drive is higher than her I often feel the urge(Almost daily) to have sex with her. I guess that's normal right? How do you tell your GF that you need to have sex with her without coming forward as too needy or horny? Firstly, please don't tell her you need to have sex with her. You want to, but you don't need to. There's an important difference. Telling her you need it could very well come across the wrong way. She has needs too. Second, all you can do is feel it out and see if she wants to every day. Try gently initiating and see how she responds to you. Some women don't want to have sex every day. If she doesn't, don't push her for it. Respect her boundary. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 You need to stimulate her emotionally to get her stimulated....how? with romantic gestures like giving her a foot massage, cook dinner, walk by naked with a hard on, climb into the shower with her, put on some music and do a strip tease,.....have fun with it. If that doesn't work, masturbate. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Robratory Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I am in a really nice relationship with my Girl and we both are sexually compatible. Since my sex drive is higher than her I often feel the urge(Almost daily) to have sex with her. I guess that's normal right? How do you tell your GF that you need to have sex with her without coming forward as too needy or horny? Well, I usually just pull out my checkbook... sorry! But seriously, is she rejecting you, or why the concern? If you're not actually living with her, one would think you two would get it on every chance you had. Sex drive itself doesn't have to be a problem. If you're not even thinking about sex, someone can still put you in the mood for it. If you're with her for some time leading up to a point where sex is reasonably possible, then spend that time doing things that put her in the mood. Arouse her but without being overtly sexual. Compliment her, flirt with her, touch her on the arms, the shoulders, wink at her, act like you two have a little secret. Obviously, I don't know exactly what will work with your girlfriend, but you should. If she's rejecting you and acting annoyed, unless you're being a total pig, there's probably something else going on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
soph-walker Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I can't speak for other women, but kissing...like really slow and sensual kisses do it for me. Even if I'm feeling a little tired/stressed/hormonal. Speaking of hormones, women's sex drive can be subject to change in terms of their monthly visit from mother nature...bare this in mind. Sure there's a recent thread of a similar subject to yours... Whatever you do though, don't make her feel disrespected. Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 (edited) Before all that, you need to establish if you two are sexually compatible. Maybe she just doesn't match up with you in terms of desire. My GF wants sex everyday, multiple times even, and I like that. My GF starts coming onto me when we're cuddling, and gets horny if I put my penis down her throat. There's no convincing needed. I only pursue relationships with sexual compatibility. Edited January 18, 2016 by PogoStick Link to post Share on other sites
soph-walker Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I only pursue relationships with sexual compatibility. What's your age, Pogostick? I used to think pure sexual compatibility alone could drive a relationship, but I think having 'personality' compatibility shouldn't be overlooked and is also the key to a happy, long term relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
mike_89 Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Your libido sounds quite normal, don't worry about that. It's a bit of a problem if her libido is so low compared to yours. There could be things causing that, like the birth control pill which is known to lower libido as a side effect (there are different types of birth control pills, the ones with high progesterone and low oestrogen most often lower libido). You could look into that and discuss it with your girlfriend. If it's just her normal libido then try to get her excited more often, every woman has easily accessible areas that will get her excited if you toy around with them while not being sexual areas (her earlobes and the small of her neck are a good place to try). An important thing is to excite her often, but to not always have sex with her if you do this. If you have sex with her every time you try to excite her, she will know it is going to mean sex. You want her to not know if you want to or do not want to have sex with her at that moment, that will be even more exciting and a great way to make her put the moves on you as well (you know what's going to happen if you excite her like that and then just stop and continue doing what you were doing before ). If she really lets you know that she does not want to get excited or does not appreciate being touched like that.... well then I guess you're not so sexually compatible after all and that you have to get yourself off more often. Link to post Share on other sites
MoreAmore Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Kiss her and move toward the bedroom! Grab, whatev. I would be bummed if my guy wasn't initiating at least once a day. It shouldn't be too complicated. Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 What's your age, Pogostick? I used to think pure sexual compatibility alone could drive a relationship, but I think having 'personality' compatibility shouldn't be overlooked and is also the key to a happy, long term relationship. I'm 38 and my gf is 41. Sexual compatibility is one reason she likes me so much. Yes, we have other things too, religion and politics, intelligence and education. Link to post Share on other sites
Milhouse20XX Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 What's your age, Pogostick? Is that question REALLY relevant? People of all ages have varying levels of libido. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 She already knows you want to have sex right now dude; you're a dude! ..lol.. Trying to do it using your words is by definition needy. Link to post Share on other sites
Afro Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 Thanks for the replies. Yes we are sexually compatible and she never says no to anything. Its just that I dont want to come around as a douchebag (Maybe i think too much?) infront of her as I do love her so much and she loves me too. I guess i should learn how to make her more excited Link to post Share on other sites
Leucine Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 Just initiate. Never ask. Start kissing her and feeling her up. She will know that you want to have sex and either do it or turn you down, in which case you're probably not that compatible unless she has a very good reason. I don't think I've ever asked a girl in my life whether she would like to have sex, and very rarely been turned down. Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 FYI, many women love sex too! And they love you being sexy and dominant. Sounds like it would be good to just start asking her about her fantasies. Suggest going to a sex shop to look for toys together. Suggest watching porn together. Depends on the girl, but many love dirty talk and innuendo. What would she say if you text her at work saying "I can't wait until you get home so I can use you as my personal fk toy." My girl would become upset because she'll then have to wait 4 hours until it becomes reality. Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 She's obviously sexually attracted to you since she's your GF. So keep it simple. Make plans, and when you're alone you initiate and seduce her. The male/female dynamic on a basic level is about a guy taking charge so a woman can feel spontaneous and romantic being swept up in the moment. That's why so many women (including my GF) like sexually dominant men. Link to post Share on other sites
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