And I thought I'd seen it all I could never be with someone who is so egocentric, callous, cold hear

[Trainwreckwatcher]

This is more of a vent than anything. I just don't understand men, but I glad to be without this one.

 

I was dating this guy. We got along really well. We also fell in love. If you looked at us on paper, we matched up across the board . We clicked in so many areas. At least so I thought. Anyway, he had this tendency that when we'd have a disagreement, his first reaction was to say "Maybe I should just go." What? Maybe it was him afraid he was going to get his ego bruised or something, if I said something he didn't like.

 

We were recently away together. We live in different states, but manage to see each other often. So, we're out at dinner while away, and we have another small disagreement. He actually raised is voice to me in a restaurant because I offered another suggestion for a word he was using that I didn't think fit in with the scenario we were discussing. So once I again, I get the "I think we should go back to the hotel and I should just go." I said maybe we should go back to the hotel and discuss it further. We leave and head back to the hotel and he tells me that he doesn't think we should discuss anything, and that he is going to just go. He thinks we are better off as friends, and he doesn't want to lose me from his life. Needless to say, I sat there pretty stunned. Before I could even open a dialogue, he had packed his stuff, kissed me on the forehead and left. WOW! Guess that relationship is over.

 

We belong to a message board, and he sent me a message on there the next day. I didn't respond. Meanwhile, I notice that he and this woman are flirting back and forth. I also get a message from a friend who is on the same board letting me know that my ex and this woman have been messaging back and forth and are now talking on the phone. Great. Nothing like hearing that to make your day, after you were dumped only 3 days prior.

 

A few days later I get a phone call from him checking to see how I'm doing. I'm not about to say miserable, because I won't give him the satisfaction.( Miserable only lasted for a moment, you'll see why) He tells me that I mean the world to him and he thinks I am one of the most amazing people he's ever known. He thinks it will be great to continue being in each others lives as friends. Whoopie. I tell him that we can be friends (not really caring to, but what the heck. It's not as if it really will continue. Right?) Anyway, he tells me that he and this woman from the board are talking. I asked him point blank how he could move right on to someone else in less than 7 days after walking out on me. He tells me that he was in love with me, but he fell out of love the night he left. Ok. I guess I'm supposed to buy that? Bud, you weren't really in love with me if you can fall out of love on a dime. Don't insult my intelligence by thinking I'm gonna fall for that one. After a little more chitchat, we hang up. At this point I'm thinking I won't be hearing from him again. Oops. Wrong again.

 

He calls me again a few nights later and starts talking about his new woman. Seems they have exchanged a few hundred messages on the board we go to (which I have stopped going to), talked on the phone 2 nights in a row for a total of 7 hours, and exchanged pictures. Well, he starts to tell me that this woman only sent him a picture of her head, and not a body shot, and now he is worried that she is a "larger type" and now isn't interested in dating her. Can we say shallow? He continues on to tell me that before the started talking on the phone, that she shared with him that she is 26, a virgin, and has never had a long term relationship with a man. The longest she has ever dated anyone is two weeks. He's 35. He knew then that he wasn't really interested in her, but he admitted it felt good for his ego to have her interested in him. Next he tells me that he's going to gently slip into their next conversation that his girlfriend is coming home from vacation so he won't be able to talk as often. Um.....what girlfriend?

 

I'm sure you're asking yourselves "Why does she keep taking this man's calls?" Well, it's kind of like watching a train wreck. You don't want to watch, yet you can't help yourself. He calls me the next night to tell me that he slipped in the GF thing and she was a little stunned. A little? I don't think this poor woman even saw that one coming. I can only imagine her heart ache. She, I'm sure, was under the impression that this man was into her. He gave her all the signs that he was interested. Took it from private messages on the internet to a more personal environment with phone calls, and then changes on a dime. Hmmm, that looks familiar! Then he tells me he isn't going to talk to her anymore on the phone, he'd going to cut it off. Well, he talked to her again that very night. WTF? How mean can a person be? Is it really worth it to hurt someone and use them just to have your ego stroked?

 

Another interesting tidbit is that he told me in that same phone conversation that he got an email from an old girlfriend that he dated for 10 months. She broke up with him for someone else, got pregnant, and got married. He had seen her about 2 yrs ago and she told him that she wasn't happy in her marriage. Now that she has contacted him again, he thinks it's because she is going to tell him that she has left her husband and wants him back. He told me that he still has feelings for her and would certainly love to get back with her. Ok, at this point I can't help but think this man is looney and has completely lost his grip on reality. He breaks up with me, and within a total of 10 days has fallen out of love with me, moved on and past another woman, and now is going to fall back into the arms of an old love? OMG! All I can say is thank you. Thank you for dumping me. It was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I could never be with someone who is so egocentric, callous, cold hearted, shallow, and just plain oogy.

 

I wonder how many women he's going to have gone through in a month.....LOL!

[HoneyWheat]

I was laughing so hard by the end of this post

 

 

i hope to follow your example

 

smart girl to watch the train wreck all the way through