Jacob1939 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 One simple , yet complicated question. I know i shouldn't even be thinking this , since i'm trying to move on , but it keeps bugging me.My ex gf broke up with me 2 1/2 months ago. Since 2 weeks ago , i've gone into NC to move on.But i still harbor a little hope she might be back , if i move on. What i was wondering is , should i unfriend her from social media (fb , IG) ? I can completely control the urge to check her post or see what she's up to , so that's no problem for me.I was just thinking of unfriending her in (foolish i know) hopes that she would wonder more about me if she couldn't see what i was doing in comparison to her checking my wall whenever see wants and seeing what i've been up to. Opinions?
smudge21 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 So you say you're okay with having her as a friend on social media as you can control the urge to look, but also constantly think about her checking out your profile and maybe coming back? Sorry mate, but you're living total in hope and that is a dangerous place to reside. I've done that, as have many on here, and despite how you think you are handling it, you aren't. You know she's still there and therefore you are not truly letting go. Plus, it seems you're using NC in a hope that she'll come back. That's not what it's about. You cannot control or mind read anyone else, so living each day wondering if she's thinking about you is only going to drag you down and stop you healing. The hardest part is letting go, but if you don't then you know you'll never be able to move on. Do what is right for you and only you.
Author Jacob1939 Posted January 18, 2016 Author Posted January 18, 2016 Yeah , but have her there or not , i'll still think about it.Granted , my eye does slip by the contact bar every few hours , but unfriending her altogether won't better the fact that i'm thinking about her , at least in my opinion. Plus , my question was would she wonder more if she couldn't see what i was up to?
brothers343 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Social media is a cancer (my opinion). Keep NC going. You don't need to know what she's doing. It's just going to be more headaches for you. And usually when you break up with someone and you take them back....there's gonna be a bigger chance you will break up again,and again,and again. Do you get my drift.
Wewon Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 I can completely control the urge to check her post or see what she's up to , so that's no problem for me. Well, I could tell you that there are two problems, I present to you, exhibit A. But i still harbor a little hope she might be back , if i move on. Exhibit B I was just thinking of unfriending her in (foolish i know) hopes that she would wonder more about me if she couldn't see what i was doing in comparison to her checking my wall whenever see wants and seeing what i've been up to. This is why you unfriend her with no intention of speaking to her again, to avoid doing unproductive things in the name of "hope".
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