tajimamori Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 There are two 28 year old men of equal appearance. They are both relatively physically fit and of high intelligence. The only difference between them is that one is the CEO of a successful tech company whereas the other is an unemployed university dropout who lives with his parents. Is there any difference in their attractiveness as a casual sexual partner?
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 It depends on their prowess. Believe me when I tell you, no matter how up the ladder a guy is, if his little buddy can't get up there with him and do the work, sooner or later, no amount of social position is going to stand him in good light. I've met really rich guys with little or no confidence or personality. I've med regular Joe's who can stop the world in its tracks... Contrary to popular belief, money/position really ISN'T everything. But everyone - regardless of gender - has sex with a purpose or reward of some kind, in mind. Whatever that reward might be, we all 'sell' ourselves for carnal intimacy in one way or another ...
Author tajimamori Posted January 18, 2016 Author Posted January 18, 2016 It depends on their prowess. Believe me when I tell you, no matter how up the ladder a guy is, if his little buddy can't get up there with him and do the work, sooner or later, no amount of social position is going to stand him in good light. I've met really rich guys with little or no confidence or personality. I've med regular Joe's who can stop the world in its tracks... Contrary to popular belief, money/position really ISN'T everything. But everyone - regardless of gender - has sex with a purpose or reward of some kind, in mind. Whatever that reward might be, we all 'sell' ourselves for carnal intimacy in one way or another ... I wasn't asking whether it is very important but rather just if having started a successful company gives any increase to attractiveness
Terry8889 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Well even animals like birds or spiders pick their mate based on physical attractiveness and other traits.The goal of every biological being is to reproduce with a suitable partner with strong and good qualities that can be passed on the next generation. Therefore based on this many people would find more attractive to get laid with someone with "good" traits like being a professional, stable, good income, family oriented, etc. Unconsciously, we see this person as a better provider which increases the chances of healthier and more successful offspring that might result from the encounter.
RecentChange Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Makes a big difference for me. I am attracted to personality as well as a hot body. And I am a driven person -and I am attracted to driven people. The slacker at home isn't going to be as attractive to me as the successful professional. And men who have that sort of success tend to have confidence that carries over to other areas of their life. In my experience that includes the bedroom. I would view the living at home guy as having some growing up to do. I want a grown ass man.
Emilia Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 It's casual sex. Who tells the truth when it's casual sex? No-one
RySant Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Where can I get a 28-year old hot guy who is already a CEO? 6
basil67 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Which one is more enjoyable to hang out with?
soph-walker Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 If it was casual sex, why the heck would it matter what they did? If it was a physical attraction, they could be a dustbin man and it wouldn't matter? If I was in a relationship with a guy, his career may be of slightly more importance to me...hoping we would have similar morals etc and enough time to spend together. Casual sex is just casual sex! 1
SwordofFlame Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 There are two 28 year old men of equal appearance. They are both relatively physically fit and of high intelligence. The only difference between them is that one is the CEO of a successful tech company whereas the other is an unemployed university dropout who lives with his parents. Is there any difference in their attractiveness as a casual sexual partner? Yeah the difference is where are you going to have sex if the unemployed man still lives with his parents? This is assuming the woman also has living conditions that are not conducive to having sex. Also if he's high intelligence, why is he unemployed? This really isn't a realistic scenario at all. 2
preraph Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 If it's casual sex, then who cares what he does? As long as HE knows it's casual sex, there's no reason to care other than do you find him physically attractive and good in bed. If you're interested in his career, I have to believe you're not really interested in casual sex but are looking for someone. 1
mike_89 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 It matters. Ever since I got a job at my university girls on Tinder (I put it in my profile) are actually asking me out on dates, that had literally never happened before. And it's not because I look any different. If anything I look worse because I work out way less and my fat percentage is a lot higher now, and yet it's easier to find sexual partners now that I'm earning a decent chunk of money and have a good prospect at future jobs. The same is true for all my friends, after getting good jobs they had an easier time finding sexual partners. 2
mrldii Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 There's probably a difference; the person who actually has a job (regardless how high up a ladder) has the opportunity to meet more people than the guy who's living in his parents' basement and doesn't even have the money to pay for the pizza that the hot delivery chick brings him, which is the way many casual encounters start (if we're to believe porn movie *plots*).
oregon0011 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 It matters. Ever since I got a job at my university girls on Tinder (I put it in my profile) are actually asking me out on dates, that had literally never happened before. And it's not because I look any different. If anything I look worse because I work out way less and my fat percentage is a lot higher now, and yet it's easier to find sexual partners now that I'm earning a decent chunk of money and have a good prospect at future jobs. The same is true for all my friends, after getting good jobs they had an easier time finding sexual partners. Yeah. Totally agree. Studies dressed up a male model as a McDonald's worker, and placed a pudgy middle aged man on a yacht. They showed women these photos and the vast majority found the pudgy older dude on a yacht as far more attractive.
Emilia Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 It matters. Ever since I got a job at my university girls on Tinder (I put it in my profile) are actually asking me out on dates, that had literally never happened before. And it's not because I look any different. If anything I look worse because I work out way less and my fat percentage is a lot higher now, and yet it's easier to find sexual partners now that I'm earning a decent chunk of money and have a good prospect at future jobs. The same is true for all my friends, after getting good jobs they had an easier time finding sexual partners. Do the women know that it's casual? Or do they only find out after sex? 1
hasaquestion Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 If it was casual sex, why the heck would it matter what they did? If it was a physical attraction, they could be a dustbin man and it wouldn't matter? If I was in a relationship with a guy, his career may be of slightly more importance to me...hoping we would have similar morals etc and enough time to spend together. Casual sex is just casual sex! Because someone who has enough charisma, intellect, and overall value is more likely to turn you on? Everyone is different. Not everyone's sexual attraction is purely based on how someone looks in a picture. And 'physical' for some can encompass elements of personality. There are plenty of girls for whom what they want in a sex partner is similar to what they want in a boyfriend. Attraction to status, and value in general, and sexual attraction, aren't necessarily separate for a lot of people. I'm sure there are plenty of women who do the "you-me-f**k in bathroom" gig but I don't encounter it. I mean, I've slept with strangers and it was never "you-me-f**k" - it was always a matter of making them laugh, and impressing them, and connecting with them, be it at a party or a night out. Maybe some men drag random women into their rooms like cavemen and have sex with them. I know I can't do it. Also, confidence is mostly an external manifestation of accomplishing things. Women always say confidence is a turn-on. Well it follows that the guy who has more to be confident about has a leg up. I think the problem with a thread like this, is the same problem that you have with most thread about whether or not (gender) prefer (this) or (that). People tend to be unreliable observers of their own fitness, intelligence, kindess, etc. So they'll report that no none appreciates their kindness when it might be that they are simply not that kind. Or that no one appreciates their intelligence when it might be that they're simply not remarkably intelligent. If you are truly outstanding at things then people (and the opposite sex) take notice. 1
MissBee Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 There are two 28 year old men of equal appearance. They are both relatively physically fit and of high intelligence. The only difference between them is that one is the CEO of a successful tech company whereas the other is an unemployed university dropout who lives with his parents. Is there any difference in their attractiveness as a casual sexual partner? The answer will obviously vary by person. Maybe for some folks they would rather have sex (and it's easier) with the CEO at his own place or a nice hotel rather than at the parental home of the other guy. But there are lots of variables in this situation that cannot be answered unless you're in the situation with real people... Sorry. People may be similar on paper, or even different, but how you feel about them will differ and influence your choices....even with jobs, candidates may have similar ages, qualifications, experience, but you click better with one than another and it then comes down to that. So same here, it is unlikely simply a matter of CEO vs college drop out for sex, but the choice will also be made based on how you feel about these people. Drop out may turn you on more for whatever reason so you work around the obstacles, or maybe CEO turns you on more. It totally depends. 1
carhill Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 The uncommitted guy who lives at home will have more time to play with more women and hone his sexual skills, and his mind won't be as distracted since he's not doing megabuck deals with his eye always on profit. The sexual brain will be more at the fore, hence a more focused casually sex partner. This presumes the CEO isn't on coke or some mind-altering drug which allows him to sleep one hour a day. Heh.
thefooloftheyear Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Would Olivia Munn give Aaron Rodgers the time of day if he was stocking the shelves at Home Depot? Nope.... TFY 1
hasaquestion Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Would Olivia Munn give Aaron Rodgers the time of day if he was stocking the shelves at Home Depot? Nope.... TFY Dude looks like a Furby doll with his helmet on.
carhill Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 However, the average HD hunk will have more time on his hands and meet more women, both married and unmarried, to have casual sex with. Heck, I've had my fun with married women at HD since I'm there so much with projects. A really good looking guy could hook up with women like shooting fish in a barrel there. Some probably do
jen1447 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Unsuccessful guys have to still own it tho to have sex appeal, and that's a tough sell from mom's basement. So penniless starving artist street urchin guy could conceivably be sexy but not someone whose mom still irons his pants. (This assumes the living-at-home stereotype, which is by no means always the case.)
carhill Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Ha, ha, true story. My childhood best friend, at least until puberty hit, was, probably still is, a Brad Pitt doppleganger and he was, well, let's just say the ladies of all ages loved him. Back when I still lived in town, wanna guess where he lived? Nope, not at his parents house, but rather in a house trailer behind the gas station he had worked at since he was 16. I mean, this guy was James Dean. I ran into him later on when I was caregiving and back in the neighborood (his parents still lived down the street) and he had finally moved in to an apartment because, well, they closed the gas station. How old were we? Heh, nearly 50. Still, all those years, he always had a girlfriend whenever I saw him. He was either driving a 60's Ranchero or a 50's Ford pickup and yup, right there with the stick shift between her legs Anyway, he was the guy that taught me how skills with the wimmin and being easy on the eyes wasn't some mysterious fiction like Thelma and Louise, rather real life. It works.
HillValley Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 Unsuccessful guys have to still own it tho to have sex appeal, and that's a tough sell from mom's basement. So penniless starving artist street urchin guy could conceivably be sexy but not someone whose mom still irons his pants. (This assumes the living-at-home stereotype, which is by no means always the case.) I knew a girl in college, with rich parents, who had her boyfriend living with her off her parents money and he played video games all day. I feel like unsuccessful guys are sometimes good at reading people. They learn how to manipulate people so they can be unsuccessful without being desperate. Like they know how to keep getting hired for jobs without ever being dishonest about why they have so many jobs on their resume.
HillValley Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 I think the problem with a thread like this, is the same problem that you have with most thread about whether or not (gender) prefer (this) or (that). People tend to be unreliable observers of their own fitness, intelligence, kindess, etc. So they'll report that no none appreciates their kindness when it might be that they are simply not that kind. Or that no one appreciates their intelligence when it might be that they're simply not remarkably intelligent. If you are truly outstanding at things then people (and the opposite sex) take notice. Serial cheaters/womanizers wouldn't be serial if they weren't doing it to multiple people. I agree, I think some guys/girls are just good or honest at recognizing traits in themselves or others that they know makes them more successful. From the outside, unsuccessful people are perplexed how they can get a wall street banker and the check-out girl at CostCo yet some of us are never in a relationship.
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