Dantheguy3 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 She blocked EVERYONE! I don't get it... Hey guys! First post on here, sorry for the length! So my girlfriend of 3 years and I broke up the first week of October, just before both of our birthdays (same day) we had a great relationship the last 3 years. Our families got along great, always around each other, fun, and just overall pretty good. The catalyst was a pretty big argument, nothing disrespectful like name calling, but the fight was about our issues like communication. We almost broke up but decided not to. I went to her house the next day and we talked it out more, ultimately agreeing to stay together, and her telling me she sees a future in our relationship. However over the next few days I noticed she was being short with me and not being herself, and she later revealed she doesn't think she can do our relationship right now, despite what she said. She said she loves me but she just started a teaching job which was too stressful and our argument didn't make things easier. I asked if there was also someone else because her behavior felt so familiar to me. When there was someone else in the past, women acted like this towards me. Their behavior switched up out of nowhere. I also asked if she wanted this to happen or had been feeling this way for a while, I was being so good to her, and she said no, and agreed I was good to her. Of course I spent the next week or 2 trying to convince her to stay, reminding her of her words within the last week or 2 about wanting me around all the time and seeing a future for us, but she seemed so unaffected, like I was easily disposable. It was the weirdest thing ever, especially when not long ago, she was telling me how great I am. I said it feels like she wanted me out of her life and she said she couldn't imagine it but she just wasn't feeling it right now and wanted to be alone for now and see how things would be. I stopped trying. Over the next month or so, she would text me about things I posted on social media, ask about my job search (I was looking really hard for a job in the city we moved to after grad for about 2 months by then) and small talk ("what are you doing?" texts every few days, up until Halloween) but I kept it short and nice didn't talk about us or the relationship. Week after Halloween I get a text from her asking if we can just be friends for now or if we should stop talking and how she hates how short I am with each other now, and I told her It's not like I can speak to her the same way, making her laugh and talking to her all day, and she just didn't seem to realize the position she put me in. It was like she didn't care at all, because we were together for so long and she didn't try to make things better. She insisted she still wanted me in her life. I told her I can't be a friend right now when she handled things so poorly. It felt like a cheap move to make us seem like everything is good then she would just move on. She said she doesn't want anyone else. It was on good terms and I just let her know that I would need her to admit her faults and actually talk to me about our unresolved issues to start being friends. We didn't talk for another few weeks, not even the holidays, but were still friends on social media. Days before NYE, I noticed she unfollowed me on Instagram. The day before NYE i unfriend her on Facebook. Not sure if this is related, but On NYE, i posted a picture with a female friend out at an event. On New Year's Day, I check Facebook and she blocked me. Strange, because I didn't see a need for it, but I didn't ask about it. Last week I get a call from my mother, who was close to her, and she told me she thinks she was blocked by her (she didn't know i was blocked)... She says she talked to my aunt and sister, and my ex blocked and unfriended them also. Apparently she has blocked AND unfriended every family member of mine from Facebook and Instagram Any ideas why this may be? It's not like I bothered her or anything so it seems really strange... We didn't have a nasty breakup, but I was the main one trying... We weren't on bad terms, and she claims she wanted me in her life and saw a future, but does this... My family didn't even talk to her on Facebook. They liked each other's pics and she recently was liking some of their pics days before (which in reality means nothing but still weird) just a simple unfriend would have stopped all of us from seeing anything she didn't want us to. All of this in my post has happened in about 3 months and 2 weeks to put it in perspective. I'd imagine that it's because there is a new boyfriend or love interest in pics she doesn't want me or anyone involved with me to find out about? That would make me think she isn't too confident in her decision if so. Especially after saying it wasn't anyone else.. Or It could very well just be a way to get over me? Do people block entire families when trying to get over someone? She seemed extremely unaffected & didn't seem to care about losing a boyfriend/relationship of 3 years throughout this so I can't imagine it's because she can't stop looking at my profile or can't get over me. Seems really extreme. I'm just curious. I don't get it! Any thoughts? I don't see many posts from people about whole families being blocked ha
mightycpa Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 I'd like to try and do my best impression of your ex Imagine how I must feel to have to hear you tell me NO, I WON'T BE YOUR FRIEND! How dare you! OK, if that's the way you want it, let me show you what life is like without me in it!You said it yourself: She insisted she still wanted me in her life. I told her I can't be a friend right now when she handled things so poorly. There she goes again. Can't say I blame her and for you, sounds like you should thank your lucky stars. It's funny, I was just talking to my Mom tonight, and she was asking me about a girlfriend from a long, long, long time ago. I think she wanted to look her up. <shudder> She started telling me about some conversations she had with her way back when, trying to get us back together after we'd broken up. I had no idea. I'm not sure what to make of the relationships between Moms and their sons' girlfriends. Looks like you won't have to worry about it anymore.
five2nine Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 If I were trying to get over someone, I would block and remove everything in my life that reminded me of them too. Maybe certain people can handle it if the relationship ended peacefully with no hard feelings. But I personally wouldn't want to deal with any constant reminders. I just wouldn't have any need for those people anymore. For what? She ultimately changed her mind and she is free to do so. 3
stillafool Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 She blocked you and everyone involved with you so she can move on and heal. She is doing the proper thing to get over your relationship. If she wanted to stay in touch or know things about you she wouldn't have split. Look at this in a positive way for it will help you move on faster also.
VeveCakes Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 It's easier for her to move on when she can't see your posts. You should consider doing the same.
basil67 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 She insisted she still wanted me in her life. I told her I can't be a friend right now when she handled things so poorly. ...... I just let her know that I would need her to admit her faults and actually talk to me about our unresolved issues to start being friends. You made it very clear that you can't be her friend. So she's unfriended you and those who remind her of you. I'm not sure why you don't understand this.
cupcakebunny Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 That's typically common with true no contact. If it's your friend/family/work buddy that you have no friendship without outside of your old relationship -- they usually go. She's trying to move on. You have told her you aren't interested in what little she is willing to give at the moment, so she's taking steps to avoid things that remind her of you because it hurts.
Erik30 Posted January 19, 2016 Posted January 19, 2016 You unfriending her probably made her finally realize that you really don't want to be friends. You unfriended her so why should you care that she blocked you? You made it pretty clear to her that you don't want contact. I also blocked people in the past who unfriended me, because it's annoying to still be able to see their comments and photos they're tagged in. 1
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