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When do you talk about moving in with a significant other?


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I am in the process of buying a house with a sibling and I feel my current bf is a little sad. we've only been dating 4 months and the house plan came before him. not sure if i should just stick out apartment life until we get engaged but that's assuming we even get engaged.

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You keep your plans to buy a house with your sibling. Living together should happen when there is at least a ring on the finger or real plans to get engaged. You have only been dating for 4 months....not enough time to make any kind of future plans. Don't worry he will get over it.

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If you two are living together aready......you are crazy.

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If you two are living together aready......you are crazy.

 

nope. i have never lived with a boyfriend (even the one i dated for 7 years---that's a whole other story). i always thought i'd move in with them as soon as the engagement came. so let's say he proposes in a year. that's gonna suck selling a house a year after i bought it.

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No why not share the house.

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nope. i have never lived with a boyfriend (even the one i dated for 7 years---that's a whole other story). i always thought i'd move in with them as soon as the engagement came. so let's say he proposes in a year. that's gonna suck selling a house a year after i bought it.

 

A house is a great investment. If you do get engaged and then married, you keep the house, and your sibling looks for a roommate to rent your room, or she moves out as well and you rent out the entire house.

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I honestly expected to come in here with a lot of replies saying I should wait to buy a house. Seems a lot of couples I know all moved in with their significant others fairly quickly (usually between 4-8 months).

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I honestly expected to come in here with a lot of replies saying I should wait to buy a house. Seems a lot of couples I know all moved in with their significant others fairly quickly (usually between 4-8 months).

 

I honestly think that's way too soon. I have lived with two boyfriends and would never again move in with someone I'd only dated a short time. Not the wisest idea. Speaking from experience, I would advise any couple to wait at least a year before thinking about making that step. It changes the dynamic of the relationship and it can be hard to make it work. It's not a small commitment, and I don't believe it's one people should make based on a few months of dating.

 

You've been dating this guy for a very short time. Don't change your plans to buy a house with your sibling. You have no idea if this will work out with your boyfriend yet, so please don't hedge any bets at such an early stage. He's a big boy, he will live. Get to know him better before you think about moving in together or getting engaged.

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