abby_tx Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 I am in the process of buying a house with a sibling and I feel my current bf is a little sad. we've only been dating 4 months and the house plan came before him. not sure if i should just stick out apartment life until we get engaged but that's assuming we even get engaged.
smackie9 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 You keep your plans to buy a house with your sibling. Living together should happen when there is at least a ring on the finger or real plans to get engaged. You have only been dating for 4 months....not enough time to make any kind of future plans. Don't worry he will get over it. 2
smackie9 Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 If you two are living together aready......you are crazy.
Author abby_tx Posted January 18, 2016 Author Posted January 18, 2016 If you two are living together aready......you are crazy. nope. i have never lived with a boyfriend (even the one i dated for 7 years---that's a whole other story). i always thought i'd move in with them as soon as the engagement came. so let's say he proposes in a year. that's gonna suck selling a house a year after i bought it.
katiegrl Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 nope. i have never lived with a boyfriend (even the one i dated for 7 years---that's a whole other story). i always thought i'd move in with them as soon as the engagement came. so let's say he proposes in a year. that's gonna suck selling a house a year after i bought it. A house is a great investment. If you do get engaged and then married, you keep the house, and your sibling looks for a roommate to rent your room, or she moves out as well and you rent out the entire house. 1
Author abby_tx Posted January 18, 2016 Author Posted January 18, 2016 I honestly expected to come in here with a lot of replies saying I should wait to buy a house. Seems a lot of couples I know all moved in with their significant others fairly quickly (usually between 4-8 months).
ExpatInItaly Posted January 18, 2016 Posted January 18, 2016 I honestly expected to come in here with a lot of replies saying I should wait to buy a house. Seems a lot of couples I know all moved in with their significant others fairly quickly (usually between 4-8 months). I honestly think that's way too soon. I have lived with two boyfriends and would never again move in with someone I'd only dated a short time. Not the wisest idea. Speaking from experience, I would advise any couple to wait at least a year before thinking about making that step. It changes the dynamic of the relationship and it can be hard to make it work. It's not a small commitment, and I don't believe it's one people should make based on a few months of dating. You've been dating this guy for a very short time. Don't change your plans to buy a house with your sibling. You have no idea if this will work out with your boyfriend yet, so please don't hedge any bets at such an early stage. He's a big boy, he will live. Get to know him better before you think about moving in together or getting engaged.
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