itsdinaah Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 We had our first kiss and then the next day he didn't text me first like he usually does. So I texted him later that day and everything was ok. He was taking a lot longer to respond though. We also didn't talk on the phone like we usually do and I know he wasn't busy. Today he didn't text first either. Did he lose interest? Is he expecting me to initiate first? We've only been dating for a few weeks now but we had the "What are we" conversation. I'm alright with texting first every now or even equal texting (he texts first one day then I text first the next day).
Gaeta Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 if you had the 'what are we' conversation than what are you? Did you talk about exclusivity? Dating?
Ami1uwant Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Stop overthinking this...... If I was the one constantly initiating communication I would stop because I want to see how much interest there is from her. 2
Author itsdinaah Posted January 17, 2016 Author Posted January 17, 2016 if you had the 'what are we' conversation than what are you? Did you talk about exclusivity? Dating? Yeah as in exclusivity. He told me it felt like I was his and asked me if I was ready.
YourCupOfTea Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 (edited) Don't worry about it. It could have a million reasons that may have nothing to do with you. Just give it some time and space. You are already dating exclusive after a few weeks (!) That must mean that he likes you. And if he starts to lose interest there is not much that you can do anyway. You can check in with him every once in a while, but don't push it, and just see what happens. Usually they will pick it up later if you just don't freak out and text too much. Edited January 17, 2016 by YourCupOfTea
Author itsdinaah Posted January 17, 2016 Author Posted January 17, 2016 We talked for a really long time before deciding to be exclusive. I guess I'll just wait and see what happens. Should I not text him first.and wait for him to text first?
Gaeta Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 We talked for a really long time before deciding to be exclusive. I guess I'll just wait and see what happens. Should I not text him first.and wait for him to text first? Here is what is happening. When you meet a man and he likes you he goes in chase mode. From there he will do everything to win you over. He will text, call, take you out, give you compliments etc. Then you have the talk about exclusivity which mean you are all his from now. He doesn't need to worry someone else will steal you away, he doesn't need to worry about chasing you, texting you, calling etc. Your boyfriend is now sitting back on his hands. You can take the lead and initiate all the texting or you can slow down, don't text him, wait that he realizes that if he doesn't put in some efforts you won't either.
Qboro90 Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Oh jeez... Just text the guy when you want to talk to him! What's the big deal?! He shouldn't have to text first ALL the time. Or even most of the time. You shouldn't even be counting or thinking about who texts first and who initiates. He's your BF... When you feel like talking to him... Talk to him. When he feels like talking to you, he'll talk to you. Maturity 1
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