Angel29 Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 I have been friends with a guy for a year. We get on so well and he has everything I look for in a partner. In the summer he asked me out but I said no, mainly as I had stronger feelings for someone else and I wasn't sure if I fancied him. Even if I thought it would work I did not want him waiting around whilst I wasn't over someone else. There is nothing wrong with this guy and he is decent looking. A few days after he asked me out he left the area for work commitments which is why he asked me out as he wanted to do it before he left. He has been back a few times whilst working. Last month for my birthday he said it was important to celebrate my birthday and he bought me a birthday cake, meal, a rose and perfume and said I deserve it, other friends were at this meal. One of his friends always says it's a shame and says the guy is a nice guy, which he is. Shortly after my birthday he has been dating this girl but he did not tell me. I don't know why he didn't tell me as I thought we got on. I saw him this weekend for a friend's party. He said he was glad to see me and that things haven't been going well with this girl and he can't wait till she has gone. His friends said they have split up but she won't leave him alone but she is moving back abroad for good next week. He said the girl has made his life really unhappy and that we must catch up. I admit I did feel a bit jealous when he was with this girl but don't know if that is me being selfish. I am just confused about how I feel and don't know if he has moved on or not.
Author Angel29 Posted January 22, 2016 Author Posted January 22, 2016 He has broken up with her now and she has left the country. He has contacted me since and I wonder why he wants to meet up at a nice restaurant if we are just 'catching up'.
Robratory Posted January 22, 2016 Posted January 22, 2016 Well, you need to figure out if you wanna or you don't wanna. If you do wanna, then stopped worrying, relax, and go to the nice restaurant with him. And if you don't, tell him sorry but no, and end all but the most casual and accidental contact with him for good. Men and women, especially when young, being "just friends" inevitably ends with someone crying. Why? Because the reason they're friends is that one of them wants to be more than friends, but the other one doesn't, so the first one hangs around as a "friend" hoping that some day a miracle will occur. Of course it won't, so just don't.
Zippy2000 Posted January 23, 2016 Posted January 23, 2016 What do you mean whats going on? He asked you out. You werent available. Your not his girlfriend He can see who he wants. Hes just your friend. He wants to be with you. He says we must catch up and your on here asking questions. Go out with him if you like him! Its not rocket science.
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