justash-x Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Sorry if this is a long one! So I've never had the best luck in relationships, had 2 end out of the blue so was hoping it would be third time lucky, by the looks of it it won't be! We have been together 7 months, known each other 10. Things in general are great, we get in a few heated discussions but nothing major. He's 4 years younger than me and his dad to say the least is very protective. He made a rule we are only allowed to see each other once a week but that has gotten better. December was when it mainly started. It took me a while to meet him and he had told my boyfriend he will never agree with our relationship before he even met me (he doesn't have a mum). When I eventually met him I was petrified but he is really nice to my surprise. Has told me a few times I am welcome over anytime. Today I had arranged to go over but his dad told him I was not allowed and cancelled on me. He's even gone as far as saying I'm not allowed to see him on his birthday in a few days. My boyfriend has tried talking to him but all he says is 'you're too young to settle down' (he is 19). I am in no way looking to get married or have a child etc but on the other hand I don't think it's much to ask to see him twice a week? I think my boyfriend is a little scared of him as he finds it hard to stand up to him. I'm not sure how much more I can take of this as at the moment it seems like he's trying to get us to turn against each other and I feel it's starting to work. HELP?!!
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Until your BF stands up to his father (bear in mind he is a legal adult, and his dad has no right to make decisions for him) you will always be second peg. Until your guy mans up - then you've got no chance..... It's not your place to do anything. Your BF needs to grow a pair. Sorry, but it's that simple. You can consider as many solutions to the issue as you want. But until your BF actually tells his dad to back off, thie situation will continue.... 2
preraph Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Sorry. Your bf IS too young for you if he's still living at home and taking orders from dad. He's in a different stage. It's not that 4 years is a lot, and I've even sort of dated a guy still living at home, but his parents didn't try to boss him around much and he had been making his own living for a long time. He isn't going to grow into the man he will be until he's out on his own working and making his own way for a couple of years. I'd put him on the backburner and give him a chance to get that done.
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