Dating is So Frustrating

[TiestoCorsten]

I have a very close friend of mine who is VERY similar to me - same hobbies, interests, values, etc... He's a white guy while I'm ethnic. We're both pretty good looking - I would say he's an 8/10 while I'm a 7.5. He's about 5'8 while I'm 5'10. He's pretty average in terms of success/ambition/income while I'm in the top 0.01% for men my age. We're both pretty masculine and smooth when talking to people. He's been with 15-20 women and whenever he's single, he easily finds a relationship. I'm basically the opposite - I've never had a girlfriend and have had zero dating experience.

 

 

It's just so frustrating. Everywhere we go, he comes across women interested in him which never happens to me. I went out to the bars last night and this waitress that I've known for a little while, who NEVER shows any interest in me, encountered my friend and now wanted to know where I live and wanted to hang out with us after her shift is over. It's just unbelievable. My friend is not any more confident than me - me and him are about the same personality wise.

 

 

Are women really that shallow nowadays? I think women are more shallow than men are nowadays honestly.

[deckard11]

Yes, women are shallow these days and way more shallow than men.

[soph-walker]

Yes, women are shallow these days and way more shallow than men.

 

Now now, play fairly. In your experience, woman have been shallow.

 

OP, do you think there's a chance you could be sending off signals that you're desperate to meet/chat to women? As a woman, it's something we can smell a mile off. I'm much happier to get to know a guy that seems quietly confident in himself.

 

You also make it seem as though your friend is your competitor; comparison is the thief of joy!

 

there may be things about yourself that your friend wishes he had/was.

[smackie9]

Ask your waitress friend what's the deal and to be honest. We can't tell you the right answers, but some of those women who he encounters or has dated can tell you why. You need their perspective to see the honest truth why. Right now all you are doing is being narrow minded, saying they are just shallow....that's the easy way out.

[ZA Dater]

Ask your waitress friend what's the deal and to be honest. We can't tell you the right answers, but some of those women who he encounters or has dated can tell you why. You need their perspective to see the honest truth why. Right now all you are doing is being narrow minded, saying they are just shallow....that's the easy way out.

 

I find this frankly staggering. Do you really think any of those women are going to give the OP an honest answer? I'd wager floods in Death Valley are more probable.

 

 

My guess is they would skirt the issue completely.

 

 

If I had to guess why I'd think its probably a case of one of you being perceived as more fun and more experienced than the other, unfortunately as I have discovered inexperienced radiates like the sun and there is nothing you can do to hide it. Unless you can pull off a totally false act.

 

 

What is unusual is they aren't chasing the higher earning more successful person which is what makes me think its more about who is more fun and maybe you do come across as desperate, don't worry I am desperate each day. Money cant really over come a more "fun" guy, especially if these females are between the ages of 19-26.