brogrammer Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 OK, firstly... about us. I am 25, she is 18. In December, on the 13th, we broke up... she said "WE're just not right for each other"... so I ask her why, and she can't give me a straight answer--"we just clash"... again, I ask her how... and she still can't give me a straight answer. She tells me it just "doesn't feel right anymore". Turns out there was another guy in the picture (though they didn't have sex). On the 31st of December she called me up bawling saying she didn't feel right going from being in a relationship to being single. She was asking me how I was, how my Christmas was, etc... and then she still said "WE're just not right for each other, I'm sorry". Fast forward to yesterday... bam, she blows up my texts and Facebook telling me that she misses me after ten days of full NC. She says "I ****ing miss you and it kills me to admit it", but I kept it pretty cool--one worded responses. She then says "You really have let go of me, haven't you?" and I said "Yes, you're not a part of my life anymore". She tells me she doesn't know what she wants... and that she needs to fix herself, blah blah blah... and I am still left here, feeling confused. She continues to tell me about her dress, her marks on her test, etc... and I was not really replying in full. I don't understand her. Why would she feel the need to blow up my texts/Facebook to tell me she missed me if she doesn't really want me?? She has been talking to other guys I know that much (quite a few from what I understand) and she just... refuses to let me be, refuses to let me heal properly. When I am feeling fine and wonderful, she comes back into my life telling me she misses me but "doesn't know" about the future between us. She also demands that I let her bring her Christmas gifts to me PERSONALLY in September when she moves her for school because she "needs closure"... even though she said she needed closure last night for the phone call. Is this just a big game to her? Is there any chance for reconciling in the future? I am letting go of her very slowly... I didn't even really think of her until she called me yesterday... but now I am just... confused and hurting a bit.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 This is why so many people go no contact. All this is doing is stirring up your emotions and holding you back from moving on. I would be suspicious of your exes motives. She isn't asking to getting back together, she looking to fill the void left by the relationship, so she is using you for validation. I suspect if things had worked out with the other guy, she wouldn't be contacting you at all. She made the decision to end the relationship, now she has to live with it. Don't let her play games with your emotions. You are not her emotional support anymore. If this is setting you back then you need to stop replying to her messages or consider blocking her number. It may seem harsh but it might help you move on.
sowhynot Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Have some self respect man - SHE CHEATED ON YOU !!!! Trust me - she's done it once, she'll more than likely do it again - especially at that age. Sounds harsh but I would have no hesitation in blocking and moving on and save yourself a lot of future pain.
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