Wote Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Hey all, Where to begin.. This was a super fast emotional ride that still has my head spinning and my heart hurting. A few months ago, I met what I thought was the most attractive girl I've ever seen. We exchanged a few glances, and next thing I know we've hit it off and we plan a date. We text for a few days.. And then the date goes perfectly. The chemistry even in the first night bewteen us was unreal. About a month of seeing each other just about daily, and having an absolutely incredible time together, she starts hinting at wanting to be exclusive. I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that this girl is the one for me.. And a few days later I casually referred to her as my girlfriend. I don't think I've ever seen someone happier. The next month goes by, and everything is perfect. No real fights, we love the time we spend together, basically we just can't get enough of each other. We spend New Year's Eve together.. And predictably it was amazing. She even told me that she loved me. I know that's incredibly early, but honestly I thought I felt it too, and caught up in the moment I said it back. The next day, I don't hear from her at all. I get a call late that night that says she till wants to date me, but that it got too serious too fast, and she's scared and 'needs space.' I tell her I completely understand, that I want us to last, and she can have as much time as she needs. Literally the next day, she winds up coming over to my family's house for a big holiday party. I insisted that she didn't have to come, and she insisted that she wanted to. The night went incredibly.. I wind up taking her home and spending another incredible night with her. We make plans for another date to see a movie later in the week. A few days later, we see each other at the gym and everything is amazing. I keep reminding her we said to take things slow.. And she says she knows but any time we are together we just can't stay away from each other. The next night, I get a text from her dumping me. I find my stuff I had at her apt (just a couple t shirts that she slept in) the next morning at my place of employment. Hell of a turn of events, huh? I did exactly what you're not supposed to do. I called her. Texted her. Told her how much I cared and loved her. No response whatsoever. About a week later, after not contacting her at all, I break again and text her. Asking her to meet up. Since her place is on the same street as my buddy's, I decide to give her a call when I head to his house, since I'm in the area. She doesn't pick up the phone, and I walk into my friends house. End of story. Well about an hour later, I get This angry message about how I'm a crazy stalker, never to talk to her again, I'm a psycho and she dumped me because she needed space, etc etc. She blocks my number, and thats the end of it. I just heard through the grapevine that she's already seeing another guy. Basically, I feel like we rushed into things and it scared her off. Is there any fixing this? While it was incredibly fast, it was sincere. I don't think someone can say the l word and not mean it, or insist to meeting family only to dump the person a few days later. Over the period we dated, I learned an incredible amount about the girl. Her life secrets, biggest fears, stuff that you don't just tell someone. It was an incredibly intense relationship. Is there any fixing this? Obviously the best course of action is no action.. As I learned that by being an idiot and attempting to talk to her way too soon. I don't plan on being pathetic and just sitting around waiting for her to comeback.. I had that sad phase already. I have a lot going for me, but I was much happier with her in my life, and I'm probably lying to myself, but she had me convinced that she was much happier too. I wish I could just explain to her that I know we rushed things and I want to start over, but that's impossible at this point. Any help would be great! Thanks.
drallafi Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 That's... wild man. Can I ask how old she is?
Author Wote Posted January 17, 2016 Author Posted January 17, 2016 Hey, She's only 19.. Which really scared me at first. That being said, she's not a normal 19 year old. Incredible struggle of a "childhood." Rape victim, druggie parents, homeless at 15. Now she has her own place, own car, working full time, and paying her way through school too. When I met her, I thought she was in her mid 20s. Her resilience is what made me fall for her. I'm 26. I've never even dated a girl more than a few months younger than me, and while I was hesitant at first, she seemed more mature than some of older women I've been with.
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