what is she implying?

January 17, 2016

I'm going to try to be brief with this but to start off I want to say that I'm not going to give any details about this person (like her name and stuff like that) because i respect her and would never out someone like that.

I'm 25 and Theres this girl a year younger than me who started talking to me online 10 months ago on another forum. she initiated EVERYTHING..started replying to my threads, then PMing me, and eventually offered her cell# without me even asking...

she said she had recently broken up with her bf...so we've been texting for a while and talked on the phone a few times...shes really escalated things to the point where she says she loves me, wants a future with me, and wants to move to florida with me (we live on opposite sides of the country)....

although she keeps putting off the day of us actually meeting irl ..(she says august ) because she says that she's afraid.....on top of THAT she told me she doesn't want to put a label on us but wants to remain as "more than friends" even though she's the one who initiated all the talk about being "in love" with me, and talking about what if we get married some day and have kids.........

her words don't seem to be matching up with her actions so far and I'm really confused.

here's the REAL kicker: last night we were texting and i told her that I'm crazy about her, as in I think about her all the time and wonder if she's feeling okay or how her day has been.....immedietly after i text that she responds with this:

"I have to tell you the truth- I asked a psychic on etsy about you and I-they said we weren't meant to be together and i didnt want to believe it...i asked another psychic and she said there are a lot of obstacles to us meeting in person, but if we do we will have good chemistry, but i will have to choose between you and another guy who was supposed to come into my live in october or before the end of the year, but this recent psychic said in february"

honestly does that sound like a cop out to you guys? i mean why would she even say that?

I just don't know if she's trying to say that chances are slim between us and she's trying to let me down easy.....

January 17, 2016

It sounds like she is a bit too superstitious for her own good.

January 17, 2016

Online dating can be a really exciting and fun Hobby but relationships are serious business. Just like the IRS calls businesses that take more money to run then they actually generate a 'Hobby' rather than a real business. Relatinships are a precious investment of your time energy and heart it needs effort to keep it going. You need to think about weather you are really getting a 'return on your investment' like meeting in person or some firm commitment. She is sending you on a roller coaster ride because she wants to see how you will react not because she is going to take the authentic action of meeting you. Cut your losses and move on.

January 17, 2016

It sounds like she is a bit too superstitious for her own good.

i think maybe thats possible.....after my reaction the other night she said that her family is planning a trip to las vegas in august and that we should meet up there...and she's been doing other romantic stuff for me since then because i think she knows that i was hurt by what she said....so its evident that she DOES care about me...

and i know what people say about online/phone relationships but iv tested her intentions to the point where shes nearly lost her temper with me over the phone....so i feel like i KNOW shes serious about me because if not she would have ditched me by now simply out of frustration....like, she wouldnt be putting in that kind of effort if she didnt care.

but its just, that thing about the psychic that really bothers me....after my reaction to what her saying that (I called her up, was pretty hurt, ect)I was about to break it off but she cried a bit on the phone and ended up saying that the psychic reading was probably BS anyway and it probably its lame anyway...but then I asked her today: "so whats going to happen in february" and she said "I honestly dont know but i want to be with you" .....is she trying to prepare me for something?....it seems like shes leaving a door open for a guy to come into her life but she doesnt want to admit it so she used the psychic thing as a cop out.......i almost have this feeling of like impending doom or something because I know february is coming up but idk whats going to happen.

Edited January 17, 2016 by Will9

January 17, 2016

No offend.

She seems nut.

U should run lol

January 17, 2016

honestly does that sound like a cop out to you guys? i mean why would she even say that?

First of all? Did you check anything about her? Did you see her on cam? Did you check that she's real? That she is who she says she is? Did you check out her info (like her school/job/uni, home address...)? Before investing in a trip to Vegas, please put in ten bucks for a real check on her identity, to avoid "surprises".

Secondly, she sounds like a nutjob, because what she texted you is something that might be sent as a joke, or for fun, to know what you think about that... but not to be taken seriously. But from her tone, she IS taken all that seriously. Unless she's just playing with you (provided it's a "she").

I would have answered with matching seriousness, something like: Thank you for letting me know. I take your point of view very seriously, so I am ending any contact with you immediately. I wish you the best.

January 17, 2016

First of all? Did you check anything about her? Did you see her on cam? Did you check that she's real? That she is who she says she is? Did you check out her info (like her school/job/uni, home address...)? Before investing in a trip to Vegas, please put in ten bucks for a real check on her identity, to avoid "surprises".

Secondly, she sounds like a nutjob, because what she texted you is something that might be sent as a joke, or for fun, to know what you think about that... but not to be taken seriously. But from her tone, she IS taken all that seriously. Unless she's just playing with you (provided it's a "she").

I would have answered with matching seriousness, something like: Thank you for letting me know. I take your point of view very seriously, so I am ending any contact with you immediately. I wish you the best.

iv found plenty of info of her, seen pictures and video, talked to her on the phone, seen her fb, know that she has a mom and sister, ect

its just that i can't tell if the thing about the psychic was said so she can get a reaction out of me/see my response.

what do you mean "playing with me" ? like she's just messing with my head and isn't serious about me/planning on kicking me to the curb?

January 17, 2016

She consulted psychics on etsy?

That's a new one.

Don't waste any more time on her.

January 17, 2016

iv found plenty of info of her, seen pictures and video, talked to her on the phone, seen her fb, know that she has a mom and sister, ect

That's what she gave you. That's not checking her info.

its just that i can't tell if the thing about the psychic was said so she can get a reaction out of me/see my response.

That might be.

what do you mean "playing with me" ? like she's just messing with my head

Maybe

January 20, 2016

yeah idk....i think a care about her way more than she does me, but im not sure....iv noticed she rarely asks me any questions...isnt that what someone does when they're interested in you...

she SAYS all this stuff about loving me and wanting me but I really have a hard time feeling it....sometimes it seems like she really doesnt care.

January 20, 2016

nm..............

January 21, 2016

yeah idk....i think a care about her way more than she does me, but im not sure....iv noticed she rarely asks me any questions...isnt that what someone does when they're interested in you...

As a general rule, yes. But at times, there are things that we are not aware of. Like, for instance, I was not used to ask my boyfriend how he was all the time. But that didn't mean I didn't love him. I guess it was more of a cultural thing. In my mind, if anything was wrong with him, he'd tell me. While in English speaking countries, this is more the custom: you ask "how are you" all the time, even more than once a day.

January 22, 2016

You live on other sides of the world. You should let this girl go becouse this relationship is not going to go anywhere. Don't ever think that she's being loyal to you in the other side of the world. It doesn't take a mind reader to let you know that your setting your self up for hearache.

January 22, 2016

You live on other sides of the world. You should let this girl go becouse this relationship is not going to go anywhere. Don't ever think that she's being loyal to you in the other side of the world. It doesn't take a mind reader to let you know that your setting your self up for hearache.

i really think you're right....iv told her basically this exact same thing...i love her and all but its seems like she could so easily not be loyal to me if she wanted to, although iv practically grilled her on my concerns and she always tells me that I'm the only one...at this point, if i wasnt worth it to her then it seems like she would have said "**** it" by now....but she hasn't....she doesn't want me to leave her....shes really intent on keeping me around and that HAS to mean SOMETHING right?......iv literally told her "idk if this is working for me" and whatnot, but she always pulls me back in.

i mean we've had long arguments about certain things but she has YET to throw in the towel...it seems like if she didnt really want me/didnt really care then she would have kicked me to the curb by now for being such a pain in the ass.

btw, she's only the 2nd girl in my entire life who's told me she loves me.....iv only had ONE gf in my life.

out of ALL the redflags/concerns that have been brought to attention in this thread, trust me i have thought of them ALL....my brain tells me that this whole thing is false....but my heart won't let me believe it.

Edited January 22, 2016 by Will9

January 23, 2016

"I have to tell you the truth- I asked a psychic on etsy about you and I-they said we weren't meant to be together and i didnt want to believe it...i asked another psychic and she said there are a lot of obstacles to us meeting in person, but if we do we will have good chemistry, but i will have to choose between you and another guy who was supposed to come into my live in october or before the end of the year, but this recent psychic said in February"..

Number #1: If you haven't yet met, it's all fantasy and NOTHING is real.

Number #2: Re-read number #1.

Number #3: Watch the Catfish Show on MTV about 2,000 times and you'll see that just about everyone whose been played online by their 'true love' comes to find out they were conned in one way or another.

Number #4: Has she been tested psychiatrically? Either you've found yourself a genuine socially stunted nut-job, or she's just doing what most of them do when it comes time to put their money where their mouths are and actually MEET in person - she's coming up with ludicrous excuses to avoid it. Most of them DO come up with silly excuses to avoid meeting at all costs because they never INTENDED to meet. Some people love creating romances online and getting caught up in the fantasy of it but they never actually intend to go any farther than that. The fact that she came up with this ridiculous reason to put off meeting you just proves what I said about these types.

You're wasting your time and have been for 10 months. Sorry.

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