OLD and women borrowing money

[jdubinva]

The lack of female input is cuz IMO, groups of people regardless by race, gender, etc, don't wanna be honest and admit they got dirty laundry.

 

BTW, I don't consider these women "hookers" and/or "prostitutes" per se, but they are using what they can to get a quick buck out of guys both online/offline. Sometimes the play on a guy's emotions and/or offer sex - even if it's one pop of sex, followed by endless manipulations cuz he is hoping to get more sex out of them.

 

I have a friend who has another "friend". She'll call my friend out of the blue asking for "help" to pay celphone, water, etc. My friend feels sorry for her and always shells out a buck or so to "help".

 

I don't know what to label these women? "Blue collar golddiggers[/B]"?

 

I think that probably sums it up right there. I'm not wealthy and they're not impoverished. They may be having temporary financial issues. I didn't inquire that far.

[dreamingoftigers]

Yes. I was just sharing my story as one minute you think you met a cool person, but the next they're gone without any reason.

 

Oh, another woman I connected with asked me flat out: "Do you make enough money to afford me?" lol. No offense to this woman, but she's average looking acting like a Hollywood Movie Star.

 

Man. That's gross.

 

Who raised these people? It seems so basic: don't suck a bunch of money from someone. That makes you icky.

[oregon0011]

Well, I just had to respond to this jerkishness.

 

I just reread your thread.

You did ask for guy input, but it turned out that you actually got A LOT of female input right up until this comment (and then some after).

 

Males that posted:

SwordofFlame

Fitnessfan365

Robratory

Carhill

Ami1uwant

Wewon

Sambolini

Meanthingsisaid

Truth_seeker

 

Total: 9 posters; 11 posts

 

Females that posted:

 

No_Go

Preraph

Lily_blue

Kendahke

Rejected Rosebud

Methodical

Dobielover

Bobbi7

Gloria25

Stillafool

& yours truly dreamingoftigers

 

Total posters: 11 total posts: 17

 

There was more FEMALE posting & posters than male.

Not that a sample size of approximately 20 people is an accurate global sample to determine if women in general are OLD hookers (seriously!).

 

So I'll ask you some other questions:

 

1. Do you post your salary in your dating profile?

2. Do you brag about your financial acquisitions on dates 1 or 2? You see my father tells everyone how he just has so much money and he's "really really rich." He thinks it makes him more likeable. (Gag) However he gets asked often if he can loan people money (duh). Frankly, it gets very very very old very very very quickly.

3. Do you have a job that is linked with the impression of great wealth?

4. Do you mention financial security etc. As an asset in your profile?

5. Do you take your dates to "the nicest place in town" instead of coffee on a first meeting?

 

Or is it just a run of bad luck on a free dating site?

 

 

 

I would explain it like this.

 

When I was younger this never happened. I was In college. Crappy car. Etc. at the same time, I was never messaged in online dating.

 

Now, nearing 40, and being decent looking, I am bombarded with messages from all ages of women and in one way or another it comes down to money. Either outright pay to play. Borrowing money. Asking about my house, cars, proffesion. Etc. it does not matter which dating site. They are all more or less the same.

 

And this is not a few scattered women. My profiles make no mention income.

 

The reality is that women have many options online, and they either want to make money for sure, OR do not want to get to know a guy who is not a good provider. Pretending the vast majority of women are not like this must just come from some sort of emotional argument.

[dreamingoftigers]

Ohhh...I thought were still talking about POF. Even I've never seen that before!

 

Is Tinder really that much worse?

 

I heard of a little mini-scam where they'd get guys to deliver them pizza acting like they'd hookup. Then they would just take the pizza and leave.

 

I think most quality women meet men IRL.

 

When online dating first became a "thing" I thought it was a pretty poor idea to get involved in.

 

I really don't think it does a great service to most people that go on it with genuine intentions.

 

I think most young women get "I'll give $$$$ for xxxx" messages on a fairly regular basis.

[dreamingoftigers]

I would explain it like this.

 

When I was younger this never happened. I was In college. Crappy car. Etc. at the same time, I was never messaged in online dating.

 

Now, nearing 40, and being decent looking, I am bombarded with messages from all ages of women and in one way or another it comes down to money. Either outright pay to play. Borrowing money. Asking about my house, cars, proffesion. Etc. it does not matter which dating site. They are all more or less the same.

 

And this is not a few scattered women. My profiles make no mention income.

 

The reality is that women have many options online, and they either want to make money for sure, OR do not want to get to know a guy who is not a good provider. Pretending the vast majority of women are not like this must just come from some sort of emotional argument.

 

"The vast majority"

 

God, I hope not.

 

Has society degraded that badly?

 

I'm 33 and have not noticed this as a trend.

 

I can't imagine the demand curve would really pay out if it was a "majority."

 

Have to ask my husband about this. He was doing OLD.

[truth_seeker]

 

I think most quality women meet men IRL.

 

 

^^ 100% agree.

[oregon0011]

"The vast majority"

 

God, I hope not.

 

Has society degraded that badly?

 

I'm 33 and have not noticed this as a trend.

 

I can't imagine the demand curve would really pay out if it was a "majority."

 

Have to ask my husband about this. He was doing OLD.

 

I think what is even worse is when old retired widowed men resort to online dating and are taken for everything in a brief period of time. I have seen this happen a few times to parents of extended family members. Guys can be stupid when it comes to sex.

 

I think so many women have financial issues, that when I date a girl, and they know what I make, it is hard to NOT give them some help. In a way sometimes making decent money makes them resent you. Even if you did not meet them online.

 

It's all new to me as when I was younger I was always broke. I started earning more during marriage, and now I am divorced.

[dreamingoftigers]

I think what is even worse is when old retired widowed men resort to online dating and are taken for everything in a brief period of time. I have seen this happen a few times to parents of extended family members. Guys can be stupid when it comes to sex.

 

I think so many women have financial issues, that when I date a girl, and they know what I make, it is hard to NOT give them some help. In a way sometimes making decent money makes them resent you. Even if you did not meet them online.

 

It's all new to me as when I was younger I was always broke. I started earning more during marriage, and now I am divorced.

 

This is a foreign concept to me.

 

I am from Alberta. Even a recession here is better than the rest of the country's "boom time."

 

Been across the country at least a dozen times in the last 11 years, so I say that with certainty.

[truth_seeker]

Ohhh...I thought were still talking about POF. Even I've never seen that before!

 

Is Tinder really that much worse?

 

I've met a couple of nice women on Tinder but sadly most of them have been trashy women.

 

1. Woman wanted me to take her to a concert and buy $300 tickets. I said no. She said: good luck. On her profile intro she complained not meeting the right men. Ummm.... talk about twisted logic. She expects a good man to throw money at her? Idiot.

 

2. One woman demanded I post more pics even though I posted 3 three. Her photos were far away full body shots and close up from the neck up. I questioned her photos and she told me to go f-ck myself and deleted me.

 

3. Other woman we had great conversation for like a week. I was out one night and she happened to be at a bar not far from me. She invited me to meet her and her friends. I went and when I got there she looked drugged out of her mind... a guy was there (her boyfriend) he was looking for a fight. The b-tch played me only to start trouble. I left.

 

I only use it as it's easy, not much effort, and I know someone who had great success as he met his current girlfriend on there.

[truth_seeker]

Man. That's gross.

 

Who raised these people? It seems so basic: don't suck a bunch of money from someone. That makes you icky.

 

I thought she might have been joking... but who knows with people. Seems everyone has an agenda.

[dreamingoftigers]

I thought she might have been joking... but who knows with people. Seems everyone has an agenda.

 

Terrible joke.

 

Seems like so many people want everything for nothinh, get it, and still aren't satisfied.

 

But honestly, Tinder is largely superficial right? So if I was a Tinder person I wouldn't be expecting to meet a quality person. I'd be expecting a quick lay.

 

Just like I wouldn't try dating on Craig's list, or by working in a strip club.

[oregon0011]

Terrible joke.

 

Seems like so many people want everything for nothinh, get it, and still aren't satisfied.

 

But honestly, Tinder is largely superficial right? So if I was a Tinder person I wouldn't be expecting to meet a quality person. I'd be expecting a quick lay.

 

Just like I wouldn't try dating on Craig's list, or by working in a strip club.

 

Or pof. Of match. Or okcupid. I mean if you tell anyone a horror story from one of these sites they retort "ohhh. Of course. You met on okcupid. No wonder!!"

 

Anyway, it usually many of the same people

On all the sites. It's takes like 3 minutes to make a profile.

[kendahke]

 

And the lack of female input HERE makes me wonder whether it hits close to home.

 

then you must not be paying much attention to my #12 post and others by women on this site.

[truth_seeker]

 

But honestly, Tinder is largely superficial right? So if I was a Tinder person I wouldn't be expecting to meet a quality person. I'd be expecting a quick lay.

 

 

I agree with you, but why then do women post on there Tinder profile "not here for a hook up" when its a hook up app?

[oregon0011]

This is a foreign concept to me.

 

I am from Alberta. Even a recession here is better than the rest of the country's "boom time."

 

Been across the country at least a dozen times in the last 11 years, so I say that with certainty.

 

It's really has little to do with the economy. It's just far easier money. And many pretty women are not in high paying fields. Even if they are more money never hurts.

[oregon0011]

I agree with you, but why then do women post on there Tinder profile "not here for a hook up" when its a hook up app?

 

It's barely a hook up site anymore than other online dating. Most of the women clarify they want a relationship. The others are looking for money. Very few women need to go there to have casual sex.

[dreamingoftigers]

I agree with you, but why then do women post on there Tinder profile "not here for a hook up" when its a hook up app?

 

Seems like they want to "date."

 

But in general I think it's a pretty terrible to look for a relationship in a "hook-up zone." But I guess people try it.

[truth_seeker]

I think Tinder is mainly for attention. It's nice to chat someone up and feel wanted. To actually get out of the house and meet them IRL is a different story. I've done it a couple of times and wish I didn't.