jdubinva Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I'll keep this short.. I recently got back into OLD after a relationship ended. Two women have asked to borrow money from me after the meet. One I had some interest in and with the most recent one there was no interest on my side. The dates generally went as planned, meeting for a drink and then talking about getting together again. The level of intimacy was kissing, nothing more (not that it should matter). Yet twice now I've been asked a day or two after the date to borrow money. One gave an exact amount of $580 for urgent house bills. Have any of you guys run into this? It's making me very skeptical of women on these OLD sites. Neither got a penny by the way!
SwordofFlame Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 Huge red flag. It sounds like they're desperate for money and good thing you didn't give it to them. 2
fitnessfan365 Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I'd see it as a blessing in disguise. You found out right away what their true intentions were. Imagine if these were women you'd been dating a few months and started to like that began to hit you up for money. Simply delete them for you life and meet other women. 8
Robratory Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I'll keep this short.. I recently got back into OLD after a relationship ended. Two women have asked to borrow money from me after the meet. Well, decide if it's an even trade, and if so, ask to borrow pussy. I mean, jeez, if only all human interactions were this honest... 2
carhill Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 OP, ever been panhandled? Hey, they can ask. Many do. Sometimes they hit the payoff. It's a numbers game. 1
Author jdubinva Posted January 16, 2016 Author Posted January 16, 2016 I'm sure some of them do find a sugar daddy or sucker. I didn't get the impression they were prostitutes at all though.
preraph Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 A whole lot of what is on OLD are prostitutes and con artists just looking to take advantage of someone. Don't give or loan money to anyone on OLD or in real life unless you're engaged to them. And block them immediately and if there's a way, report them to the OLD site. 3
preraph Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 Just say your denial above. If they're trolling for money, they are con artists at a minimum and probably prostitutes in real life.
No_Go Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I had a guy that started that way after 3-4 day to turn into a full-blown mooch that cost me thousands (>7000 for 6 months "relationship") Never ever even think of borrowing money to a date. Just run, delete her number and move on. 1
Ami1uwant Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I've never had that happen...them asking you to pay for bills is insane. I understand a valid unusual circumstance that this could happen in a relationship but most dont ask you for money. 1
Lily blue Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Huge red flag...run, run away. Nothing good comes out of that but heart break and disappointment. 1
kendahke Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 (edited) Oooh, that's tacky in the extreme. Instead of trying to find a boyfriend, they need to be trying to find a second job. At first, I thought you were dealing with women you hadn't met in person--catfish do this all the time. Romance scammers in internet cafes trolling women and asking you to wire thousands of dollars for "emergencies" and you're the only person on the face of the earth who can help them. Edited January 17, 2016 by kendahke 1
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 There are a lot of online sites especially for commercial "arrangements" like that, maybe you are on one of them by accident? 1
Wewon Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Next time you should offer them a job so that they can earn the money. Maybe you need your lawn mowed for a few months? 2
Author jdubinva Posted January 17, 2016 Author Posted January 17, 2016 I wouldn't want them anywhere near my home. With one of those dates the waitress was giving me a look like what's up with her. A woman's intuition maybe.
Author jdubinva Posted January 17, 2016 Author Posted January 17, 2016 There are a lot of online sites especially for commercial "arrangements" like that, maybe you are on one of them by accident? I guess POF falls into that category since I'm not on any other sites.
Methodical Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 I have to wonder what a person's plan b is when s/he doesn't successfully suck money out of their OLD. Had she not met you, then asking for the money wouldn't have been an option, (and thankfully you didn't fall hook, line, and sinker for whatever sob story you were given in hopes of monetary gain). Bet those women don't stick around, not that you want them to, of course. It does, however, validate that money was their real motive. I've never engaged in OLD, but after everything I've read, nothing surprises me. Ppl are brazen. 1
No_Go Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Plan B is just finding another host. The guy that I was "borrowing" money from me also used: -his ex wife -his ex gf - 3-4 guys that were friends of his - new old/irl dates - new "friends" Etc etc Each of them received a sobby story to give their cash (mine was his ex gf was stealing from him - turned the opposite!) I have to wonder what a person's plan b is when s/he doesn't successfully suck money out of their OLD. Had she not met you, then asking for the money wouldn't have been an option, (and thankfully you didn't fall hook, line, and sinker for whatever sob story you were given in hopes of monetary gain). Bet those women don't stick around, not that you want them to, of course. It does, however, validate that money was their real motive. I've never engaged in OLD, but after everything I've read, nothing surprises me. Ppl are brazen. 1
meanthingsisaid Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 I'll keep this short.. I recently got back into OLD after a relationship ended. Two women have asked to borrow money from me after the meet. One I had some interest in and with the most recent one there was no interest on my side. The dates generally went as planned, meeting for a drink and then talking about getting together again. The level of intimacy was kissing, nothing more (not that it should matter). Yet twice now I've been asked a day or two after the date to borrow money. One gave an exact amount of $580 for urgent house bills. Have any of you guys run into this? It's making me very skeptical of women on these OLD sites. Neither got a penny by the way! Tell 'em "Felicia. You need to borrow a job!" 3
dobielover Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 I've never heard of such a thing; WOW!!! Major red flag!!!
Bobbi7 Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 Please, don't fall for this kind of crap from women you meet online. Yes, big red flag. No one should ever ask you to borrow money after a few dates. A hospital bill? No way. 1
sambolini Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 eI guess POF falls into that category since I'm not on any other sites. I'm firmly convinced that, for the most part, POF represents the bottom of society's barrel (I'm not including the OP in that). The selection of women on there (at least in my area) was nothing short of dreadful. "Full time mommy" is not the occupation I'm looking for a potential partner to have. Very glad to hear you stopped seeing these women. The fact that it happened to you more than once is rather alarming. I can only echo prior sentiments and advise to run from these women. But I do recommend an additional action: stop doing OLD. I don't do OLD anymore. I had a match account a while back, but quit after a couple months. Didn't touch it for a few months. When suddenly about a week ago, my match app starts blowing up with all these messages, likes, and me being favorited. So I went to my profile and added a disclaimer that said I'm not subbed and have quit doing OLD, in the hopes that it would stop. It only got worse after that. So I deleted the app. Thankfully notification emails already go in my spam folder. Makes sense why it suddenly started up again; more divorces are filed in January than any other month in any given year. And these women were in their mid thirties to early forties. They're looking for the next ATM, which the OP has been directly experiencing. OP, meet women in real life. I've had much better luck that way.
truth_seeker Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 One of my friends he used OLD for years. He actually married some nut off of match... anyway, one woman he dated, after a couple of weeks she asked him for money. He bought her groceries, helped her out. He felt since she was giving him sex, it was okay. These two didn't last long together.
truth_seeker Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 e I'm firmly convinced that, for the most part, POF represents the bottom of society's barrel (I'm not including the OP in that). The selection of women on there (at least in my area) was nothing short of dreadful. "Full time mommy" is not the occupation I'm looking for a potential partner to have. Very glad to hear you stopped seeing these women. The fact that it happened to you more than once is rather alarming. I can only echo prior sentiments and advise to run from these women. But I do recommend an additional action: stop doing OLD. I don't do OLD anymore. I had a match account a while back, but quit after a couple months. Didn't touch it for a few months. When suddenly about a week ago, my match app starts blowing up with all these messages, likes, and me being favorited. So I went to my profile and added a disclaimer that said I'm not subbed and have quit doing OLD, in the hopes that it would stop. It only got worse after that. So I deleted the app. Thankfully notification emails already go in my spam folder. Makes sense why it suddenly started up again; more divorces are filed in January than any other month in any given year. And these women were in their mid thirties to early forties. They're looking for the next ATM, which the OP has been directly experiencing. OP, meet women in real life. I've had much better luck that way. I'm not saying all women, but most I've encountered on OLD were damaged. Scorned by ex boyfriends or husbands... serious mental issues... came from broken homes... downright gold-diggers looking for a free ride... just wounded souls looking to take advantage of some harmless sap. OLD is for the desperate and the impatient. IRL if you're patient and not desperate, you can eventually meet the one. This is just my take. I do not mean to offend anyone. 2
Gloria25 Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 I have to wonder what a person's plan b is when s/he doesn't successfully suck money out of their OLD. Had she not met you, then asking for the money wouldn't have been an option, (and thankfully you didn't fall hook, line, and sinker for whatever sob story you were given in hopes of monetary gain). Bet those women don't stick around, not that you want them to, of course. It does, however, validate that money was their real motive. I've never engaged in OLD, but after everything I've read, nothing surprises me. Ppl are brazen. Their "Plan B" would have been to get off their lazy butts and from behind the computer to actually "walk" the streets in search of "marks". I see this in real life now and then. When I was in the military, the "town HO" that I got dumped for? That was her "j....o....b", to troll places military frequented to hook marks. Like I'd be invited to a party, picnic, etc at a sergeant's house and there she was: heels, hair, nails and painted on jeans. I'd go to the club, there she was. Once she got into certain cliques, it was like she was trying to pass herself off as like a simple "friend of a friend" so people won't figure out what she was all about. And, I once asked what she did for a living....Get this: she "cleaned houses":lmao: Yeah, right...cleaning houses with nails like those? Ok, whatever. Maybe she should try the other "professions" that professional ho's try to say they are in like "real estate" or "student". 1
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