jumpman23 Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 So I recently starting date a lady from a blind date. Much in common, similar family backgrounds and interests in sports. We have gone on a couple dates in the past two months a variety of outings throughout town, going out for a drink, watching basketball game together, going to the park, spending time together watching a movie at my place. In all my other relationships, I have been able to physically escalate things by at least the first couple of dates. Here, we've just hugged and playful touching. She's relatively reserved, when we first met, she crossed her arms, which I interpreted as a lack of interest. Maybe this is her nature bc shes done this on other dates as well. Im not the most assertive person, but I would like to progress physically. Should I broach the subject with her? Or should I take her body language as a lack of interest? She has expressed interest in me by stating various date ideas of what we should do like going to my favorite restaurant, taking a paining class together. But Thursday we spent time together and she seemed distant. We text a lot which I guess is not the best way to express one's feeling.
Author jumpman23 Posted January 16, 2016 Author Posted January 16, 2016 Conservative might be the term.
truth_seeker Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 If she's conservative then you need to warm up to her. Set the mood so you can get closer.
HereNorThere Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 You keep referring to body language as if it's an exact science and it doesn't work that way. Sure, people do give off subtle hints that we can read, but it's not enough to read someone's mind and thoughts.
fitnessfan365 Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 (edited) Just a question. But are you sure she sees these get togethers as "dates"? I mean you say see them that way. But since you two do have a lot in common, what if she just sees you as an activity buddy that she likes to hang out with once and awhile? Also, twice in two months doesn't scream high interest level. If a girl is romantically interested in a guy, she'll usually want to see him more often and not primarily text. Texting suggests she's creating distance and only gets together with you when she's bored. Finally, I think the kiss of death was her suggesting a painting class. To give you an idea, my GF recently did a painting class with her girlfriends and her best guy friend who she suspects may be secretly gay. Now I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that. Just that it's not an activity a girl typically wants to do with a guy she wants to have sex with. Edited January 16, 2016 by fitnessfan365
Author jumpman23 Posted January 16, 2016 Author Posted January 16, 2016 You keep referring to body language as if it's an exact science and it doesn't work that way. Sure, people do give off subtle hints that we can read, but it's not enough to read someone's mind and thoughts. Maybe I'm looking too much into body language. She's different from the other ladies I've dated. I shouldn't speculate so much.
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