Quokka Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 So I got drunk and was hanging outwith the girl I'm very much into. We've slept together and hung out together a lot. However, she's so aloof and bounces back n forth and she never lets me get close to her. Anytime that we talk for a long period of time she just up and dissapears. I forgot I wrote this and I just found it. The reason I'm sharing it is to figure out if it's something I should say to her personally? Here I miss you in the most complicated way. Not to complicate things but I'm so good at that. Sending mixed signals is what I'm best at. And I'm not trying to get in my feelings but it's the way I feel. I get lost when our eyes meet. And I want you to see that I mean what I say. And when you fall asleep at night I want you to think of me. That may seem a bit narcissistic but if only I could be your number one then I would be happy. I haven't felt like myself lately and I blame myself lately for all the regrets that keep me up at night. I wish I could send you this and maybe you'd understand but you'll probably take it as something I shouldn't of said. Which is completely understandable considering the circumstance. I wish you knew what it was like to love you. If you did, you'd get the late night messages that I send to you. But instead I keep them in my notes because my anxiety won't allow me to send them. And if only you knew how much I was willing to give to you maybe you'd show me the love that I feel for you. And for all of the things I typed and didn't send and for all of the nights I stayed awake thinking of you. I hope you know that it's always been you and it will continuously be you. Deep **** right?
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 Drunk-messages should follow the empty can into the bin.... 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I'd feel seriously disturbed if I received a message like that from a guy. My first thought would be "OMG.... Stalker? Creep? I really cannot relate to this at all!" and I would avoid him like a bad dose of hives..... ETA: If she's that aloof, then she's playing with you. You're a commodity she enjoys playing with. How about you "man up" and make yourself less available? She may begin to respect you then....... 1
katiegrl Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I'd feel seriously disturbed if I received a message like that from a guy. My first thought would be "OMG.... Stalker? Creep? I really cannot relate to this at all!" and I would avoid him like a bad dose of hives..... ETA: If she's that aloof, then she's playing with you. You're a commodity she enjoys playing with. ***How about you "man up" and make yourself less available? She may begin to respect you then....... ^^Agree with TM 100%. That message belongs in the trash. Has the ick factor written all over it.... sorry.
Erik30 Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 Never send that unless you want to scare her off for good. It's too much. She's a flakey girl who probably likes to keep it casual. You should accept that's just the way she is. Back off, and see if she changes. (Which I doubt) Find someone who treats you like you want to be treated.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I'm a woman too, and I'll echo the others: don't send that. Look at it as a journal entry. But please don't give it to her. If she's not letting you get close to her, there's a reason - could be totally unrelated to you, but that note is not going to help matters. It will probably have the exact opposite effect you're hoping for. I think it's probably time to just let her go. It's not worth the emotional energy to keep letting this one leave and come back. The right girl will stick around consistently.
thejabberwocky Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 Honestly, this is a recipe for her to think you are a stalker. It's only romantic if she's also feeling this strongly for you and it doesn't sound like she is. I suggest you play it cool and don't make her feel uncomfortable with something so heavy!
preraph Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 It's good you got your feelings out on paper, but that's not for her to ever see. That's for you. She isn't very interested in you and this would send her running. Fear isn't attractive to women, so you always want to do your best to keep that fear to yourself and deal with it yourself and then act normal and confident, even if it's only acting at first. Unfocus on her. Go out with other friends or go travel but so something you totally enjoy and stop focusing on her and give yourself a chance to meet someone who is interested and who you're not afraid of.
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