Eel751 Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I'm 19 my boyfriend is 20. We're in college and have been dating for a month and a half. We met through my roommate's friend's ex. My friend's ex said he only had one girlfriend and she cheated on him. My first relationship was ****ty too. We talked for 2 weeks before dating. We hung out alone once and he wanted to hook up. I got upset because a lot of guys only want me for my body. He was sweet about it, he wiped away my tears and apologized. He said he likes the fact that I didn't just jump into having sex with him. But the first night we all went out to party and I ended up going back to his room. I was going to stay the night after we fooled around but it got so hot so I left early morning. He said he felt ****ty when he woke up and I wasn't there. That's when I knew I think he was a decent guy. A lot of people have one night stands in college but the fact that he wanted something different told me this guy is ok. We spent a lot of time together whenever we hang out. I see no red flags in this relationship. My ex always wanted to have sex but I was a virgin and when I said no he'd make me uncomfortable and I'd want to get rid of him but with my current bf I could spend all the time in the world with him. He always asks if I'm sick of him yet and I always say no! I ask him if he's sick of me and he says no. We're long distance until next week when we go back to school. He's called me a few times and he texts me everyday asking how my day was. I feel safe around him. We are a lot alike and always have fun together. The last time he called he thanked me for being in his life. He hasn't felt this way in a while. He said he dated his ex for 3 months and he said he loved her but she cheated on him so he was upset for a while. I never loved my ex. We dated for 4 months. I was always uncomfortable and he made rude remarks about my family. I'm thinking of taking my current boyfriend home one weekend during school to meet my family. I met his family last weekend. I stayed a night at his house and went to breakfast in the morning. I think they like me! His aunt said I chose a great guy. His mom hugged me goodbye and his dad said I'm welcome back anytime. He told me, "I'm not going anywhere." Like as in I won't leave you kinda thing. I don't know whether to believe that. My ex was always after other girls. I'm scared because I feel like if he has to tell me that then it's not true. His actions are sweet though, like I have a gluten allergy so he bought me gluten free snacks at his house and he was like, "I wasn't sure which ones to get so I got all three." I'm scared of getting hurt because I really like him. The sex is really good too and we take a shower after and he's all cute and washes my hair. He's what I wanted my first relationship to be but it was **** and I am kind of scared to really love in love with him because he's perfect. I'm scared of perfection because if no one's perfect how is it real? Do I take it as it is? We are very open about our relationship like he asked me if I'm protective like if a girl tried getting at him if I would get mad and I said yes.. Also, he always tells me he really likes me and I say I really like him too because I really do.. Do you think this relationship seems good?
basil67 Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 This relationship is starting well. And you're right - nobody is perfect so what you have to do is temper your feelings a little until you know him better. Regarding getting hurt, it is always a risk. But with experience and resilience we learn that we can recover and live again - just as you are now from your previous relationship. Lastly, you don't know each other nearly well enough to make promises about never leaving, so recognize that this is infatuation talking and don't set a lot of store in it. All this said, move forward and enjoy. There are no guarantees in life so all we can do is the best we can 1
RySant Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I agree with Basil67. Enjoy it, envelop yourself in the love and infatuation but don't hold on to the promises. It's the infatuation talking. You'll know when he's really the one when the feelings died down a bit and he is still there with you.
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