I was lied to, what say you?

[DrReplyInRhymes]

I have trust issues, this much I know,

Recently started seeing someone, it was all a go,

Connected very strongly, very intensely, I really like her a lot,

However, about 2 weeks ago, her story, or lack thereof, changed the plot.

 

She had an affair a while ago, to which I understand why it came to be,

Terrible marriage, no attention or sex, she claimed this was all before me,

However, the guy that she did it with, apparently, she works with him too,

And before we got together, they were still hooking up when she started to woo, (she chased me)

 

Recently, she admitted to lying about being in contact with this ****ing guy,

Still having his contact info after saying she deleted it, still entertaining his zipper fly,

Lied to me about being in contact, lied to me about how she stopped their fun,

Not once, not twice, but 3 separate times before she said the lies were done.

 

I broke it off with her immediately, but she's crying up a storm,

Talking at night with me telling me she wishes I was there to keep her warm,

Apologizing profusely about the lies, saying she was scared of losing me,

When in fact, the act of lying itself is what is urging me to get free.

 

However, she seems remorseful enough, she seems like she's hurt,

She continues to apologize and even when I don't want to talk, she isn't curt,

She knows that I'm on the fence, she knows that I'm basically out the door,

But it seems like the thought of not being with me is something she abhors.

 

I can't see this objectively, for my feelings have grown,

I've come to admire our connection, but it goes against what I've known,

This is the only thing she's lied about, is her "friend" that she used to bang,

As far as I know anyway, and obviously, my trust in her has began to wane.

 

Do I give her another chance? Am I a fool for doing so, given the situation I'm in?

She works with this guy, is in constant contact, and ample opportunity to start it up again,

In fact, she's never said a bad word about him, including the sex that they had,

But she's adamant to me that their hookups are done, and that she isn't "bad".

 

My trust issues I was forthcoming with from the very beginning from the start,

It seems like shes testing the waters to see how far she can bend my values apart,

But given the situation, and the contact that she constantly has with him,

The fact that she lied about multiple things to protect him has me thinking chances are slim.

[Nilfiry]

Claims to fear losing you but does questionable things behind your back.

 

The contradiction speaks for itself. You would be a fool for continuing that game. Let her cry all she wants. Maybe she will learn something.

[HereNorThere]

This is the last person you need to get involved in if you have trust issues and you already know this. The real question is - are you this desperate?

 

Have you ever read "The farmer and the viper" fable? I'll paraphrase, but it goes something like -

 

Farmer finds snake frozen and almost dead. He takes the snake home and warms, feeds and nurses him back to health. One day he reaches in to feed the snake and it bites the farmer leaving him mortally wounded. The farmer ask him "how could you do this to me, I saved your life?" and snake replies "What, you KNEW I was a snake!"

 

You already know she's a snake. If you want some quick action and can avoid catching feelin's, go for it. Just know you can never, ever invest any sort of emotional energy with a person like this. Oh, and always wear a condom, dude. Chances are you're going to be swapping fluids with the co-worker as well, so better be safe.

[BlueIris]

....... The fact that she lied about multiple things to protect him has me thinking chances are slim.

 

The lies were to protect her.

 

Go NC with this one.

She's a drama-generator.

[brothers343]

Brother I started reading your post but I already knew the ending. And I actually know the ending to your story. I think you might know it to. There's too many woman looking for good man to deal with this situation. You will never completely trust her and if one day your lucky to find trust in her, she will promptly tell you that she didn't know what came over her when she continued to have the affair that you thought she had left behind...I told you I knew how this was going to end. Find someone new and avoid the pain coming your way.

[smackie9]

Dump or you will be her chump.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

I fear I knew the answer, coming to terms with it was the test,

I do thank you for your advice thus far, plan for the worst and hope for the best.