jerrygordon3 Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 we have quite the "Jerry Springer relationship". i seem to be on a roller coaster. amazing relationship, but then somehow I mess up and she hates me but still calls me constantly and texts me, even though its all mean **** like, "I'm so hurt i ****ing hate you" etc. we got back together and decided it was going to be the last chance or we would end it permanently. a few days ago I felt bad about totally blowing this girl off who had been texting me and was seriously a nobody but she was really nice. two weeks after the ex and i got back together she was hitting me up to make plans and I just ignored her and blocked her number. couple days later I felt bad and texted her saying i was just busy with life and didn't have time for her. my ex.... we were working out together and she reached for my phone just to show me something and i pulled it away from her and she saw me deleting the text. obviously this just made matters worse because now she doesn't believe me. she cheated on me multiple times and I caught her, so i pursued other women, there was a lot of drama, honestly my gf ( ex or whatever) just seems to be really wishy washy and really really immature. ( i.e. never knows what she wants, gets super hurt and lashes out, requires tons of attention, never seems to be happy, very emotionally driven, etc.) she's texting me right now and I'm just remembering how impossible it was to make her happy last time around. there was always something, but she has high standards and i did always let her down before. she didn't like porn or me following girls on instagram that were "slutty" and i did anyways and got caught. just little things that have pretty much always kept me in trouble. I'm tired of feeling like I'm in trouble though. buttttt. i do feel like i did something VERY wrong this last time by deleting the text instead of just showing her. when is enough enough though. it's been a few days but it's constant anger and ****... I've never encountered such a text book emotionally driven crazy gf before. it seems normal for the movies and stories I've heard but my exes have all been level headed not such fiery types.
Nilfiry Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 You should have gotten out after the first time. I am not against people getting back together, but you have to examine the reason why you broke up in the first place. Usually, if it does not work out the first time, subsequent times will merely be repeats of the first, as it seems to be the case with your relationship. It is far too easy to let your emotions and desires get in the way of your judgment.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 This relationship is dead in the water. Seriously. You're not good together and you're not happy. It's toxic. It is time to break up forever.
Qboro90 Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 I'm sure your gf is one of those drama magnets where there's always something going on that's a hassle. However you'd be remiss to think that you're not at least 50% at fault for everything that's gone on in your relationship as well. When you actually think she's the one with the problem for getting pissed about you following/liking hot girls pics on Instagram or talking/keeping in contact with other girls in general, even if you're not hooking up with them or ever hooked up with them, then you're just as immature as she is. In my early 20s I fought the battle with arguing that it meant nothing when I liked or followed a models picture on IG because I'll never meet that person and it's just something a guy does. Then once I matured I realized that it's just something that's disrespectful to do when you have a gf. Her friends can see what you like and follow and it makes her look bad when you're active on other girls social media accounts, regardless of who they are. When you're fed up with being in trouble, maybe it's a good idea to stop texting other girls and getting caught so often so that she doesn't trust you and always questions your actions. Either be a smart guy and change the girls name in your phone to one of your guy friends like a normal dude who doesn't wanna get caught, or keep poking the bear and being an idiot with you building up your back up roster for when your relationship ends the next time. You both have cheated on each other. Logic would tell you that you and her aren't special and aren't the exception to the rule. In fact, you're eventually gonna realize that you just shouldn't date one another at this point because it's not enjoyable or healthy.... Or you're gonna keep being the couple that breaks up and gets back together a million times that all ur friends know is dysfunctional and needs to end but are sick of telling you the truth at this point. Then she'll either cheat and date someone else, or you will... Or WORST case scenario is you'll get her pregnant and then you'll be stuck with this chick for the rest of your life in some degree and also have a kid because you were too dumb to get out when you should've. So get out and realize that there are plenty of hot crazy chicks out there that you can mess around with and your gf/ex isn't the only one who "gets you". Just like if you got hit by a bus tomorrow, she'd be posting Instagram pics with her new BF on vacation this time next year. Does the thought of her as your wife and mother of your kids excite you? Do u look forward to that? If it's not an absolute yes! Then stop wasting your own time and dip.
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