When the "BAD BOY" falls for you. Or maybe he didn't?

[sweetpea01]

I've been having a rough time with my boyfriend - I told him I needed space to date other people. He said okay...so I went out more, hung out with friends more, but that was it. Out of nowhere, I became friends with Sean, a guy who works at a coffee house/tea house close by. I go in there all the time with my laptop, work, etc.

 

I have seen him for the past year, but never even noticed him or exchanged words with him up until the past 3 weeks to a month. Probably cause he always saw me with my bf. One day, nobody else was in there, and we had a long chat. Our personalities really clicked, and we talked for hours. We ended up talking for hours every time I went in...he'd sort of leave the counter to someone else and come talk to me. We exchanged numbers, and started talking daily...3,4,5 times a day. By the way, Sean is totally a BAD BOY, and I'm more down to earth.

 

On Friday, I didn't go out, and he got off of work at 1 am. We went for a walk. He's REALLY flirtatious and is always messin' with me about how he wants to get me into bed, but I know we wont. We ended up sitting down on some stairs to my apt building, and I leaned over and kissed him! He was like, woah...and suddenly I felt like an idiot! Like I misread some sign or something. He was massaging my neck and back and my leg...so it seemed right!

 

Anyway, Sean sorta freaked out. I said, whats going on? He was like, we kissed?!?! I said so...I wanted to kiss you. Long story short, I started teasing him and said, you like me, huh?!?! Woo...I think you have a crush on me! He said, you are one cool chick. He kissed me on the cheek and neck a little, and walked me home.

 

Next day I called at 11 am, and was like, dude, are you still feeling weird? He was cool...we got over it, and hung out at the cafe. BUT, my bf called, and I was on the phone with him, and Sean got up and left. Keep in mind, Sean just broke up with a gf, and always talks about being a womanizer. I thought we had a mutual relationship where we coudl enjoy each others company both knowing we wouldnt want each other in the end. PLUS, I am moving outta the city, and he knows about me and bf.

 

So, I called, and said : Sean...you didn't say bye. He was liike, I waved. I said, I thought you were going outside to make a phone call. He said, well - when you acted like nobody was even with you, I'm not gonna stick around. I said, but I was on the phone literally 2 minutes. (I swear...it was 2 minutes and 24 seconds on my cell phone!). He was like, look, it's cool. You don't owe me anything. Then he says, you have lots of things to do. Get back to it.

 

So, we didnt talk. Today he called me twice, once this morning and he left me a song on my voicemail, and then again later, but I missed both. I just called him back, but he didn't answer, so I guess we'll talk eventually.

 

It's really hard to get this across on the computer, but I feel like somewhere along the line, his feelings switched over from hitting on me, to genuinely liking me. This guy that was sitting near us yesterday said we were a cute couple, and we didn't bother saying that we weren't even dating! And he stopped hitting on me so much, and just hangs out with me, or calls me to say good night or good morning.

 

So, anyone even been in a situation like that? Or has any insight into what this could even mean?

 

SP

[HokeyReligions]

Or has any insight into what this could even mean?

 

Yeah, maybe Sean respects boundaries and he knows that they still may exist between you and your ex, and between him and his ex. He doesn't want to screw up a chance of either of you getting back with your ex's. Maybe he is just getting his feet wet by flirting and is not ready for anything more. Maybe the Bad Boy talk is all talk because it helps him boost his own self-confidence.