Art_Critic Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 If she's still interested then she'll pursue. but you are already missing that she is showing you with her silence that she isn't interested and is interested in the guy she went on vacation with. Save the text... let her go and don't contact her again...
Author nocte Posted January 16, 2016 Author Posted January 16, 2016 but you are already missing that she is showing you with her silence that she isn't interested and is interested in the guy she went on vacation with. Save the text... let her go and don't contact her again... If she's still interested in being FWB, that is. She's not looking for a relationship and thinks I am.
dobielover Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 If she's still interested in being FWB, that is. She's not looking for a relationship and thinks I am. Because you are. Your OP was all worried about over texting, and your subsequent posts are turning it around and trying too hard to show that you don't care and are going to say goodbye and ask to be FWB (goodbye but FWB? which is it?), are pretty obvious indications that you really like this girl, don't want to let her go, and are really disappointed in how this is going down.
Art_Critic Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 why would she be interested in a FWB ? the silence is because she doesn't want that, she wants the other guy... if she wanted a FWB situation she would already be in contact with you to keep it going.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I agree with your reasoning. Call me selfish, but the problem with this approach is that it'll re-enforce the whole "I'm so in love with you, what's wrong?" thing that she thinks is going on with me. I'm 99% sure nothing ****ed up has happened, otherwise she'd tell me by next week. Reason to send it is to show that it's no biggie, this wasn't as serious as you thought I was taking it and it's all good. If she's still interested then she'll pursue. Please trust me when I say she won't buy it and it will still read as an attempt to hang on. She knows you really like her; your thread up until this point indicates as much too. So it's a bit too late to claim otherwise, you know? And don't read into her social media sad-face. If she can't clearly communicate to you that she is sad because of you, she doesn't have the communication skills necessary for a healthy relationship anyway. I have a feeling it wasn't directed at you, and people who use social media as a means of getting attention in that way are kind of immature, in my point of view. So disregard her activity online. Her actions speak louder than any words could right now. Just close this chapter. You didn't do anything wrong. She just wasn't looking for the same thing you were.
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