tro-mat Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 My ex gf (which I dated for 7 years) cheated on me for 1 year plus. Now I have trust issues. I feel that every girl will cheat. I dated this girl for 2 months, and we went overseas together. During the trip, I had a lot of flashbacks with my previous gf and I felt very hurt so I didn't treat this girl well. After coming back, I didn't contact her immediately. A few days later she told me that she doesn't want a fling relationship. But I told her before that I can't commit because I'm not ready to trust anyone. Is there any underlying meaning to her message? Can I trust her?
brothers343 Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 Just becouse your ex cheated doesn't mean the girl your seeing is gonna cheat. Some woman cheat and some don't. Some man cheat and some don't. Everytime you meet someone new it's a gamble. You have to go through the process of knowing that individual. In your case you should just chill out until that feeling of anger leaves becouse you seem like your not ready to be with someone else. Not yet at least.
smackie9 Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 It doesn't matter what she had said or if you can trust her, this is you needing to step back from dating and give yourself some time to heal. You are not ready yet.
Nilfiry Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 Most likely... she is telling you that she wants a more serious relationship because she can tell you are lacking serious commitment. No one can tell you whether or not you can trust her because we do not know her, and even if we did, there is no guarantee. You can know a person, but you cannot know their thought. if you have trouble trusting people, you should probably enjoy the single life a bit longer to rebuild your confidence in people. Your trust issues will more or less push away people who can potentially be great for you, and that will only hurt you more in the long run. Take a break.
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