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Ladies how many of you consider love making is just a duty ?

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Phoenician Established Member

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Ladies how many of you consider love making is just a duty ?

 

why ?

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It should never be a duty.

If it is, it's likely you're with someone that isn't completely right for you.

 

I love intimacy and pleasuring my man, if he feels good, I feel good.

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Phoenician Established Member

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It should never be a duty.

If it is, it's likely you're with someone that isn't completely right for you.

 

I love intimacy and pleasuring my man, if he feels good, I feel good.

 

he must be a lucky man , you are a normal lady , giver ; if I was with somebody like this , I will be a king ; now iam really feeling so depressed, rejected.

 

I am not that lucky ; but what puzzles me that my wife claims that she loves me .

 

she even sometimes rock the world enjoying sex, only when she wants , only the way she wants .

 

yet it is obvious that if I want anything it won't happen .

 

so the question really is :

 

 

Those who do sex sometimes like a chore ; do you really love your husband yet you don't won't to see him in pleasure ?!!!

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she even sometimes rock the world enjoying sex, only when she wants , only the way she wants .

 

That is not viewing sex as a duty. That is enjoying sex.

 

If you want her to have sex when she doesn't want it, that would be duty sex. Is that what you want? For her to have sex the ways you want, when you want, out of duty?

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Ms. Faust Established Member

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I am very physically attracted to my husband, and I love him so much.

No, I do not think of sex as a duty, but I very dutifully comply, because I love being intimate wiith him.:love::love::love:

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Find a straight woman;) if a woman loves a man she wouldnt treat you the way you decribe:( Im sure you are a very sexy man dont let that go to waste anymore:cool: just watch out for the same kind of woman so you dont make the same mistake twice:)

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OP, I think you've watched too much porn and think sex is about a woman doing whatever you want most. That's porn, not lovemaking. Sure, there are tradeoffs in sex, but I have found that if I start feeling like I'm servicing a man, he won't last long. You have to both find something together you both enjoy, which shouldn't be hard, and not expect a woman to perform things that she doesn't enjoy.

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Tayla Established Member

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Since escorts, porn stars and paid sex aides consider this a job, they cannot be included in this general survey.

 

Thankfully those who participate in love making, usually do so willingly.

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he must be a lucky man , you are a normal lady , giver ; if I was with somebody like this , I will be a king ; now iam really feeling so depressed, rejected.

 

I am not that lucky ; but what puzzles me that my wife claims that she loves me .

 

she even sometimes rock the world enjoying sex, only when she wants , only the way she wants .

 

yet it is obvious that if I want anything it won't happen .

 

so the question really is :

 

 

Those who do sex sometimes like a chore ; do you really love your husband yet you don't won't to see him in pleasure ?!!!

 

 

 

I think it's important to consider that each one of us has a different sex drive. It's likely that when she's really enjoying it, she's completely in the mood for it.

 

Not all of us want it every day, some of us don't need it for weeks/months and some of us never want it - just how it is. I'm sure she worships the ground you work on :)

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Michelle ma Belle Established Member

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Lord have mercy! How depressing is that?

 

No, I can honestly say that I have NEVER viewed sex of any kind with any partner as a chore. I greatly enjoy sex and intimacy and I especially love pleasing my partner.

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dreamingoftigers Established Member

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Lord have mercy! How depressing is that?

 

No, I can honestly say that I have NEVER viewed sex of any kind with any partner as a chore. I greatly enjoy sex and intimacy and I especially love pleasing my partner.

 

I will say the one time that I let my ex saran-wrap from head to toe to tickle and suck on my feet was rather dutiful.

 

I didn't get much out of that aside from my feet getting annoyed.

 

But I am not sure that falls under "love making" for me as much as it did for him.

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Robert Z Established Member

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As women get older, plenty consider it a duty. Eventually it ends. One survey showed that something like 80% of married women have little interest in sex after ten [maybe 20??? not sure now] years of marriage.

 

One would not tend to expect women with no interest in sex to post in a forum like this.

 

 

Many escort and sbs probably enjoy sex more than a significant percentage of the female population. That is why they work as escorts.

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I will say the one time that I let my ex saran-wrap from head to toe to tickle and suck on my feet was rather dutiful.

I didn't get much out of that aside from my feet getting annoyed.

 

But I am not sure that falls under "love making" for me as much as it did for him.

 

:D:laugh::lmao:

 

Oh my goodness DOT, I had a laugh out loud moment in the office reading that statement.

 

I will concede with you on that point.

 

You're a saint in my books for indulging your ex :)

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dreamingoftigers Established Member

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As women get older, plenty consider it a duty. Eventually it ends. One survey showed that something like 80% of married women have little interest in sex after ten [maybe 20??? not sure now] years of marriage.

 

One would not tend to expect women with no interest in sex to post in a forum like this.

 

 

Many escort and sbs probably enjoy sex more than a significant percentage of the female population. That is why they work as escorts.

 

Uh-oh. Statistically I only have four months left.

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GemmaUK Established Member

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When the sex is dire then yes it is.

 

When other stuff in the RS is not good then yes it is.

 

When all is well it never is.

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Phoenician Established Member

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That is not viewing sex as a duty. That is enjoying sex.

 

If you want her to have sex when she doesn't want it, that would be duty sex. Is that what you want? For her to have sex the ways you want, when you want, out of duty?

 

And if she only enjoys it once every few month ?

and all others are missionary ?

not even accepted to be kissed?

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And if she only enjoys it once every few month ?

and all others are missionary ?

not even accepted to be kissed?

 

What's your goal here?

 

Do you want her to have more duty sex?

 

Do you want her to enjoy it more?

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Phoenician Established Member

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What's your goal here?

 

identify how many lovely wives refrain from giving pleasures though they claim to love their hubbies

 

Do you want her to have more duty sex?

definitely not

 

Do you want her to enjoy it more?

 

I wish

i am torn

xxoo Established Member

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You'vd said that she enjoys sex when she wants it. You should focus on what makes her want sex.

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Madame_Noire Established Member

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It should never be a duty or a chore. If it is, then there are issues that need to be addressed.

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dreamingoftigers Established Member

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:D:laugh::lmao:

 

Oh my goodness DOT, I had a laugh out loud moment in the office reading that statement.

 

I will concede with you on that point.

 

You're a saint in my books for indulging your ex :)

 

"Try everything once" eh?

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Phoenician Established Member

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You'vd said that she enjoys sex when she wants it. You should focus on what makes her want sex.

 

yeah , once every threemonth .

 

after shopping , and if i never argue with her for a week

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Grant deeds. Never underestimate the erotic power of grant deeds. :D

 

Seriously, OP, good on ya, but bovines will sooner take flight than an open discussion about feeling duty when having sex will take place. In that vein, it's almost antithetical to consider sexual duty and 'making love' in the same sentence. A duty to love? Get out the shackles and the waterboard.

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serial muse Established Member

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Grant deeds. Never underestimate the erotic power of grant deeds. :D

 

Seriously, OP, good on ya, but bovines will sooner take flight than an open discussion about feeling duty when having sex will take place. In that vein, it's almost antithetical to consider sexual duty and 'making love' in the same sentence. A duty to love? Get out the shackles and the waterboard.

 

I don't understand what the bolded means. I thought we were talking about people?

 

Oh wait, I see. You meant swine will fly. Got it.

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Gloria25 Established Member

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And if she only enjoys it once every few month ?

and all others are missionary ?

not even accepted to be kissed?

 

I don't get it...

 

If you say she enjoys sex "on her terms" then why does she only want it once every few months, "missionary" is the position, and doesn't want you to kiss her :confused: ?

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