awkwardandhandsome Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 Hi guys and gals just wanted to ask people that had experienced with nc rule, I mean no contact as in bettering yourself and then getting them back. I was the dumpee and she didn't want to lose me because she loves me but I drove her to it. Its been 3 weeks in to nc and I see that she isn't with anyone and I don't think she wants a hookup/relationship with anyone. Anyway questions for guys that were dumped, 1. how long did you date and how long were you in nc for, until one of you contacted each other> 2. any luck? if so did it last? 3. if you contacted them, how did you? a text? a call? 4. did you talk about the relationship on the first contact/did you ask them to coffee or to meet in person to talk about it or did you just text them like you were old friends. For girls that were dumped: 1. how long did you date and how long was nc? 2. when did you start missing them after the break up? 3. did your ex contact you or did you contact them? 4. how did the first contact go and did you meet up with them or did they just text you? 5. do you think my ex misses me if she posting on instagram with her friends saying "I'll be so happy when my friends come home from school" thanks if you can give me some advice! Ps: i know nc means to get over her and stuff but I'm treating it as to better myself and fix the relationship.
WonderKid Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 My RS 3 yrs ago I went complete NC. I think 2 months later she contacted me. We left on a bad note and I left it all alone. We did talk on FB and that was the last I heard from her. She deleted me from FB after saying we could be friends. After that conversation I never heard from her again. What she wanted was something I couldn't give her.
PegNosePete Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 no contact as in bettering yourself and then getting them back. Look, you're doing it wrong. Bettering yourself, yes. But NC is not some magic trick to get someone back. Fact is, if they don't want to rekindle the relationship, then there is nothing you can do to change their mind. Its been 3 weeks in to nc and I see that she isn't with anyone If you're in NC, how do you know this? If you're stalking her then that is hardly NC, is it? Ps: i know nc means to get over her and stuff but I'm treating it as to better myself and fix the relationship. That's like saying you know a car is for ground transport only but you're going to use it to fly to Africa anyway. You can't "fix" the relationship because the relationship is over. NC will not "fix" that. However, if she does change her mind, then NC may show you in a stronger light which may aid reconciliation. But that is only if she changes her mind on her own. You have no control over that. NC is not a magic trick to get an ex back.
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