Seen my ex yesterday, she text me today what should I do?

[jase112]

Seen my ex at a stop light.She text me today. A little background/recap. Iast the month I posted this? My ex broke it off with a text at 5 am. She said, I'm sorry I need time on my own. I find myself always irritated with you for no reason and it's not fair to you. It's all me, I have issues & I need to find out what it is that I want. A lot of things bother me now & I wish they did not. You are a very nice guy but I want more. Right now you have the drive & motivation to be a good father but I want more. I'm taking financially, I'm not asking for someone to pay my bills but some one to be at the same level or better, that's a big one. A few days later I went to her place to picked up my stuff & her daughter came to the door. When I got home she texted me. Sorry I couldn't even have the guts to see you face to face.You are such a nice guy, and you deserve someone that is 1000x better than me.Again sorry for everything. & this is not anything that you did, it is all me. I have to be happy with myself before I can make someone happy.I hope you don't hate me.

 

Fast forward today 6 weeks later after NC, I seen her at a stop light we waved & said hi. Today she text me that was that awkward or what? I said I thought it was funny, god was playing a joke on us.lol. She said she didn't think it was funny & her heart was pounding. I responded it was huh, Its because all the love you still have for me. She said all that love. I said miss that sarcasm. She said maybe I'm not being sarcastic. I texted very interesting. Ex said isn't it. Told her this is awkward. Ex said say no more. Conversation ended.

 

Need everyone's advice especially the lady's. Why did she contact me, having 2nd thoughts? What she said to me when she broke it off with me, it cut me like a knife. I still love her but my pride is strong too. Should I contact her & see where it goes? Or just have NC & get on with my life?

Edited January 15, 2016 by jase112
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[Cm01]

Think she got curious and wanted to stroke her ego by seeing if she could get you to reply. I say maintain no contact.

[TunaCat]

It was an ego stroke. Nothing more.

 

Go back to NC and do not contact her & don't respond to any further attempts she makes to contact you.

[smudge21]

She dipped her hook and caught a bite. Don't, or try not to, overthink it (easier said than done). Carry on with the NC. Just focus on how she shut the door on your relationship and not these little breadcrumbs.

[lolablue17]

I will translate that for you.

 

When she broke up with you, she didn't do it because she didn't like you or love you. She broke up with you because of logical reasons, financial, and so...

 

My guess is that she wnated to do it for a long time, she was like 50-50% to be with you or not to be. So. the day it became 51-49%, she decided to break up. Since then nothing has chnage. She is still around 50-50%, so she really likes you and misses you.

 

It's very good for your ego, but that's the most you can get. You know she wants you, so enjoy the feeling. But the minute you cooperate with her games, you will lose. Don't plan anything with her because the 50-50 is always there.

[Gmuck]

Whenever an ex reaches out it could be ego/curiosity or to reconcile the relationship. You never know so you need to test them. Whenever an ex reaches out, if you still have feelings and want the relationship you set a time to hangout, have fun and hook up. If she doesn't want to meet, she's calling or texting for her ego and curiosity.

 

When I say hangout, have her come to your place. Invite her over, tell her to bring a bottle of wine and the two of you will cook up some dinner together.

 

If she agrees then she will come over and hangout with you. If she doesn't then she's checking her ego or seeing if you are still on the line. If she doesn't you immediately speak or text that if she changes her mind to let you know and that's it.

 

Most of this is from Corey Wayne. You can find him on YouTube. This approach is straight to the point and avoids the back and forth calls or texts which will only confuse even further. Better to first assume she's reaching out to get back together or she's building herself up.

 

No where in your response to her did you try to test her on meeting you. You were trying to tell her she still has love for you. You can't make her feel it or realize it. She has to do this on her own. When she does on her own, she will come back. When you tell her, she will want to do the opposite.

 

This girl broke up with you via text. Total red flag as to what kind of person she is. This type of person didn't just break up with you on text but because she did it this way, there are tons of other major internal issues with her that tie to this type of behavior.

 

If you want her back, don't contact her. Let her contact you. If she does again, assume it's to hangout. Set a time at your place and see what she says. If she wants you back she will gladly come over. If not, move on. No more games.